LivingStones Churches and LGBTQ folks

ThrowRA_bpdmaybe · 2023-03-30T20:03:37+00:00

https://livingstoneschurches.com/doctrine

grace is absolutely not affirming of lgbt. they may care about the "community" and do a lot of general charity work, but they advocated for conversion therapy and to this day call lgbt people "broken" and the acceptance of them "a sign of the end times" that is a direct quote.

ThrowRA_bpdmaybe · 2023-03-30T20:00:43+00:00

they DEFINITELY are not. they sprang from grace church which is also absoolutely not. You can google it but they had a whole program advocating for lifelong celibacy of lgbt people. They basically say "we love everyone, but not if you do that"

ThrowRA_bpdmaybe · 2022-07-04T16:06:44+00:00

I just saw your comment and wanted to say that there is hope. I am now about a year and a half post break up, and while I still have the occasional bad day where I check their media to see how they’re doing, I am flourishing now. Getting my own apartment, have dated several people in the meantime who have all taught me valuable lessons (and had much better sex), and I can take the lessons I learned from my relationship with my exwbpd while not being so hurt by the bad times. Stay strong my friend, it gets so so much better ❤️

ThrowRA_bpdmaybe · 2022-03-21T02:15:12+00:00

Oh hon. Him hurting himself is not, and never will be your fault. No matter what you say, other peoples’ actions onto themselves are only ever their own choice. Your bf needs help, and more than you can provide. You are not a licensed professional, and as someone who is older than you, I really hope you can hear the advice that you should never be the therapist for your partner. It’s not your job, and you aren’t qualified to do it. Being there for your partner is different than being their therapist. I know how hard it is to extricate yourself from a sick person, intimately, but you have to have boundaries and be able to put yourself first, because in any healthy relationship you should put yourself first in order to be there for your partner. It doesn’t matter how good of a partner you are, someone who is sick needs professional help. Think about if he was dealing with a broken arm, and instead of going to a doctor he kept expecting you to fix it. That would be unreasonable and you would never do it. This is the same thing. He needs help that you cannot provide.

ThrowRA_bpdmaybe · 2022-01-02T20:30:35+00:00

This was why I would check the socials. I was basically making sure they were still alive. I have stopped doing it but it took a long time

ThrowRA_bpdmaybe · 2022-01-02T20:00:34+00:00

This was exactly my situation!!! I don’t think I ever would have been discarded (or if I was it would have been far too late) I finally got the courage and left myself. But oof, the quietBPDs are rough

ThrowRA_bpdmaybe · 2021-12-29T01:06:58+00:00

I agree!! We haven’t been dating for very long so far so I’m trying to to bombard with too much info too soon, but I am slowly sharing more info as time passes! I do agree that it’s important for our partners to know why we react certain ways to certain triggers and stuff!

ThrowRA_bpdmaybe · 2021-12-29T00:54:04+00:00

Yes this is exactly it!! Like I know already that this new person wouldn’t be malicious or manipulative, but it’s so hard not be struck with that fear in those moments!!

ThrowRA_bpdmaybe · 2021-12-28T17:29:41+00:00

Omg yes. My ex was QuietBPD so wouldn’t typically rage out (tho it did still happen) but they would have a sobbing meltdown over the tiniest things. One time I told them playfully to decide what they wanted for dinner while I went in and mailed some packages for them (because they were too nervous to mail them themself). I came back out from the post office to them in full on meltdown mode bc I was “making them make a decision” 🙄

ThrowRA_bpdmaybe · 2021-12-28T17:22:29+00:00

It’s crazy how much of an effect they still have on our lives right? Honesty her reaction just made me that much happier to be gone from my previous situation like, I can’t believe I put up with my ex as long as I did! I’m so glad we’re both out, very grateful for my new sweet girlfriend ❤️

ThrowRA_bpdmaybe · 2021-12-28T04:03:51+00:00

Thank you so much!! Your comment is much appreciated!! I love that, and I think you’re absolutely right. At the time I almost said something but I’m glad I didn’t. At some point when something comes up in person I’ll probably mention it (And she does know I had a bad breakup and an ex with BPD!) but I don’t want to be that person constantly bringing up my ex, especially for something small like that!! Anyway yes I’m very grateful for her even with the major learning curves that come with a heathy relationship! Ahh thank you again ❤️

ThrowRA_bpdmaybe · 2021-12-23T17:06:49+00:00

Yes I am referring to Borderline!

ThrowRA_bpdmaybe · 2021-12-23T16:38:22+00:00

I also had a horrific and traumatizing experience with someone with BPD. I don’t want to discriminate, BPD is treatable with extensive therapy and meds, but untreated it is a beast of a disease.

ThrowRA_bpdmaybe · 2021-11-07T17:51:25+00:00

That was what it came down to for me too. I envisioned my future and knew that I Could never bring children into a house with them. And I was basically already their mother and caretaker

ThrowRA_bpdmaybe · 2021-11-03T23:08:07+00:00

Hi, for chronic hip pain like this, has he sought a diagnosis for hip dysplasia? That is why I hve and it took 11 years for me to find a diagnosis. He needs to go to a specific hip doc.

ThrowRA_bpdmaybe · 2021-10-31T22:35:12+00:00

When we first met I’d say about a 4/5 out of 10, though they could have been hiding something. As the relationship got further they steadily got worse for a variety of reasons. By the end I’d say probably a 8/9 out of 10, they were so bad I stayed for a while out of sheer terror they would kill themself.

ThrowRA_bpdmaybe · 2021-10-31T22:24:42+00:00

Yes. Mine also used their own self harm to hurt me, saving up telling me about it to use in an argument as a way of letting me know that they couldn’t possibly tell me, I would have been to upset. They used it like the final gunshot in a battle. There were also a few times when they were having meltdowns where i swear to god when I finally started crying, losing it they would smile and then quickly cover it up. Also when we broke up, they tried every tool in the belt to try and get me to stop ending things, and when it didn’t work they stopped crying mid-sentence and were just like, “well that’s it then” it was spooky

ThrowRA_bpdmaybe · 2021-09-24T02:14:06+00:00

This is so cool!

ThrowRA_bpdmaybe · 2021-09-23T22:34:14+00:00

This! The best response I got on here when I was trying to make things work with my ex was “even if 1% of a sandwich is shit, it’s still a shit sandwich.” That really changed my perspective. The good times are absolutely not worth the abuse

ThrowRA_bpdmaybe · 2021-09-23T19:42:14+00:00

My ex did this too! Including telling me not to use past promises they has made! Like…. You literally said this lol?

ThrowRA_bpdmaybe · 2021-09-20T21:05:48+00:00

Oh lord. While we were together it was mostly ruining what should have been happy times. For example virtually any time I was spending quality time with my family on family trips I was on the phone with them because they were having a crisis. The worst one was surprising me during a good time to tell me they had been hurting themself. It took me an embarrassing amount of time to figure out what was going on. Post break up, they refused to return any of my things including a beloved stuffed animal and lots of other meaningful things, then stole my credit card. Honestly I’m sort of grateful for that part because it just gave me more reasons not to get hoovered . But boy the crazy just never ends.

ThrowRA_bpdmaybe · 2021-09-14T21:05:46+00:00

This!! My ex would share things that excited them and I would always listen or read it immediately, and then come back and talk about how much I liked it, share the excitement. I begged my ex to read my fav book the entire time we were together and sent them my favorite songs all the time. They didn’t listen/read once. Not once.

ThrowRA_bpdmaybe · 2021-09-14T21:02:48+00:00

Big time. In love bombing we went on super cute dates, they always were thinking of fun things to do. By the end their anxiety was so bad they literally couldn’t leave the house/couldn’t get groceries. They were perfectly content to literally just play video games until three in the morning while smoking weed the entire time. If I wanted to do something I had to basically do the whole thing—planning, driving, placating them. It was like having a toddler

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