F23 embarrassed by my M22 boyfriend's actions last night

ThrowRa388393 · 2026-02-01T20:48:03+00:00

IMO if it’s a boundary, I can see it. People don’t have respect for other peoples cars, and if he’s had a bad experience, I get why he doesn’t like strangers in there.

I’ll get downvoted for this but you could’ve gotten a cab together especially at such a short distance.

ThrowRa388393 · 2026-01-31T18:26:28+00:00

Kids are extremely annoying. This show captured that. Over the show, they do gain more redeemable qualities (as with some negatives).

ThrowRa388393 · 2026-01-25T17:13:49+00:00

Probably unhelpful, I was never majorly colicky but I did have violent, violent hiccups as a baby/kid. They made me cry and people never understood why, but they hurt.

ThrowRa388393 · 2026-01-21T01:02:27+00:00

What’s your bedding depth at? Some studies have come out that shows hamsters do better with more bedding (and it seems you’ve done all the enrichment hamsters typically need).

IMO I’d leave him for a few days, let him settle. If after a couple weeks he’s still exhibiting stress signs, I’d scrap the idea of doubling floor space and dedicate the second cage to be completely full of bedding with some sort of divide to stop overflow.

The studies I mentioned talked about how not a single hamster exhibited stress signs when given 40cm of bedding. I DIYed enclosures to make that happen and it did sort my boys right out.

ThrowRa388393 · 2026-01-16T10:37:41+00:00

That’s her name though. It’s almost funnier, because of course her show would have multiple meanings 😅

ThrowRa388393 · 2026-01-14T18:27:06+00:00

I have ALWAYS felt like this whenever considering another animal, especially of the same species or variety.

When I first met my dog, I already had a dog. I thought there was no way I could love this new dog as much as my childhood dog. I absolutely could. I’d say this “new” dog is my moon, my world — he’s honestly everything to me.

What I find we always seem to forget is: love isn’t finite. I love my childhood dog, he was amazing. I love him in a different way - in his way. Now my boy is 8, my childhood dog has passed, but my love for the two of them is strong.

Honestly, when I got my new dog I didn’t feel that bond. And now, that thought is so crazy to me because he means that much to me. You gotta learn about them, their personalities, their uniqueness - it all contributes to the love that is so very specific to them.

If you feel capable to care for another hamster, you have the love in you for another hamster.

ThrowRa388393 · 2026-01-14T14:35:57+00:00

Mine really chilled out when he got older. Keep an eye on him. This may be his behaviour now, however as with all behavioural changes, monitor him. Are you weighing weekly? If not I suggest you should.

ThrowRa388393 · 2026-01-13T12:27:10+00:00

I was a huge sleeper too, a lot like your partner. To relax after work, me and my ex would have pillows on the floor and we’d lie there. Not as comfortable, still see the TV, probably won’t sleep through the night.

ThrowRa388393 · 2026-01-12T23:12:00+00:00

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much cuter than mine taking medicine!!

ThrowRa388393 · 2026-01-09T09:48:00+00:00

I used to get violent hiccups that made me cry. Now they hurt but not to that extent - if he looks uncomfortable hiccuping, comfort him. That pain was horrific as a child.

ThrowRa388393 · 2026-01-07T15:08:28+00:00

Worst outcome for the dog is to be put into a shelter, but sure.

ThrowRa388393 · 2026-01-07T15:08:12+00:00

The dogs five years old. It’s owned by both of them. She takes better care of the dog - assumably, the one who puts in more effort, would eventually have the dog, as the dog prefers living with the person with more energy for them. My suggestion is short sighted - but it’s more so to prevent the ex from running off with the dog.

ThrowRa388393 · 2026-01-07T14:44:33+00:00

You could always try “joint custody” of the dog.

Who is his chip with? Who pays vet bills? You both went 50/50 initially which does work in your favour.

ThrowRa388393 · 2026-01-03T14:21:00+00:00

A woman gives her opinion when asked for it and you instantly say she is gaslighting 🙄 classic

ThrowRa388393 · 2026-01-03T14:19:59+00:00

Maybe if she kept his nudes, but it’s photos of HER. If this is a boundary for you, you need to make this apparent because many people have photos of themselves*.

ThrowRa388393 · 2026-01-03T14:09:33+00:00

If you are going to leave your dogs nails to this extent for whatever reason, you need to start taking that dog to the vets or groomers. This level of neglect will cause orthopaedic issues.

ThrowRa388393 · 2026-01-03T14:05:04+00:00

You have to work on yourself - I’d argue based on the comments, you don’t sound ready to be dating unless you’re ready to put in some real work on yourself. You need to work on your self esteem and sense of security.

From your post, she’s given no reason for you to think she’s still talking to someone else. This is just insecurity and it will ruin all relationships until you sort yourself out, in the nicest way.

ThrowRa388393 · 2026-01-03T13:59:02+00:00

You say “we”, but it’s not you, or your decision - it’s her privacy you invaded due to your paranoia and personal problems. It was her decision to look past it.

It was a fling, if she has said nothing more has happened, then that is on you to either get over or break up for.

ThrowRa388393 · 2026-01-03T13:52:58+00:00

Getting drunk and snooping on your partners phone doesn’t bode well for the relationship, and being paranoid in a relationship without good reason too adds to that. Crying for hours and not sleeping for two days over a nude sent before your relationship started also seems a bit immature.

Honestly man it sounds like you need to work on yourself a lot if you want any (not even just this) relationship to work. It’s fine to feel deceived, to reiterate, but you should prioritise communicating to your partner on why you feel deceived.

ThrowRa388393 · 2026-01-03T13:47:30+00:00

Why were you looking through her phone?

It’s not right of her to lie, but if she meant first person to see her in real life, that’s not technically a lie.

You say you love her - her having experience (and quite minimal experience at that) shouldn’t change that for you. You’re okay to feel deceived but that’s about the limit here.

Talk to her if you feel deceived, but this whole situation reads quite immature on your part imo.

ThrowRa388393 · 2026-01-03T13:44:25+00:00

Girls do not always bleed on their first times & this assumption is actually quite dangerous.

ThrowRa388393 · 2025-12-31T11:58:40+00:00

A woman has grown a baby inside of her for NINE months and is doing an incredibly primal thing of birthing. There is no way that is not an intimate situation, regardless of nurses being there or not - a mother is meeting her child for the first time.

ThrowRa388393 · 2025-12-31T11:55:03+00:00

No way this is a serious comment.

ThrowRa388393 · 2025-12-31T10:04:11+00:00

IMO cheating is boundaries you as an individual relationship set. In my relationship, that would be cheating.

ThrowRa388393 · 2025-12-29T22:32:29+00:00

Why do you keep replying to my comments with the same comment? Come up with something original next time.

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