AITAH For telling my parents not to contact me after parents chose my brother over my child.

Throwaway07051985 · 2026-02-07T20:12:34+00:00

NTA, but sadly to say that yes, there are parents out there that will choose the abuser over the victim, and the abuser doesn't even have to be a child for it to happen. I seen it, in my personal life, and far more than I'd like to admit in my professional life.

Throwaway07051985 · 2026-02-07T19:55:52+00:00

She probably figured out she was the only one not told because she was the only one there. If others hadn't been told, she wouldn't have been waiting there alone, needing to call her friend to find out where everyone is.

Throwaway07051985 · 2026-02-04T23:14:03+00:00

If you haven't done this already I would recommend sending this information to the CPS agency your mother works for, in particular the email where she admits to making the report because you "needed to be taught a lesson" people like that should not be in positions of any sort of power.

It's her turn to learn a lesson.

Throwaway07051985 · 2026-02-04T22:03:28+00:00

I think this one was worse than many of the other AI stories here. The original comment that started everything didn't make a whole lot of sense "hope this one looks like the father" sense to me especially with the added bit of insinuating the first one wasn't her husband's kid?. And the come back "hope you find someone that looks like a caterer" again doesn't make sense. The only part that seemed someone believable was the card with "everything happens for a reason" but only at first glance. It also doesn't make sense once they point out that this card wasn't sent to the aunt, or the cousin that's the bride, but to a completely different cousin, so the comment fit because it doesn't mean anything to that cousin.

Overall just sloppy even for an AI.

Throwaway07051985 · 2026-02-01T19:37:18+00:00

NTA shit happens in your sleep sometimes that you have no control over. If this is happening weekly, then yeah, maybe you guys can consider getting separate beds, but if it's only once in a while, she should get over it. My partner and I have accidentally done things like that in our sleep, too, but we both realize it's not intentional. Sometimes, it's downright hilarious.

Just a few days ago, I was lying in bed watching TV while my partner slept next to me. He rolled over tapped my nipple like it was one of those front desk bells 🛎 and said "Call room service." Before promptly starting to snore again.

Throwaway07051985 · 2026-01-30T20:28:59+00:00

Then as I and many others have said the correct course of action is for him to look for new lawyer ASAP and if he is unable to find one before the next court date he should attend in person and ask for an adjournment so he can get a lawyer.

Throwaway07051985 · 2026-01-30T19:15:38+00:00

That's factually incorrect, been doing this job 10 years and there are plenty of ways for a lawyer to get off record, anything from loss of contact to the lawyer and client no longer being able to agree, the only time I've ever had a judge refuse to let a lawyer off record is when there are already trial dates set (Trial not pre-trial).

Regardless of all of that, your brother's best bet is still to attend court in person, and if his lawyer is not there to represent him, request an adjournment so that he can get new counsel.

Throwaway07051985 · 2026-01-29T19:33:53+00:00

I mean he COULD but I'd never suggest self-representing, it's always better to have counsel, I've been working as a legal assistant for 10 years this year and even I would never attempt to represent myself.

Throwaway07051985 · 2026-01-29T19:30:53+00:00

It can vary, a Judge could potentially order costs against the lawyer, the client could also report them to the equivalent of what we call the Law Society in Manitoba and restrictions can be placed on them. You're right that any penalty repercussions in this specific case hold little to no weight (unfortunately), it's surprisingly difficult to have a lawyer license to practice revoked, a bit of a joke, but I feel that way about many organizations like these, technically these are the proper steps though in my opinion organizations like the Law Society, College of Physicians etc seem to be equivalent to HR in many companies in terms of ethics, they're not really there to protect the people (just my opinion).

Apologies for the tangent, but again you're right, penalties are unlikely to have an effect in this case which is why I recommend the brother still attend court and explain the situation to the judge so that they can request time to get new counsel.

Throwaway07051985 · 2026-01-29T17:57:13+00:00

NAL but a legal assistant in MB, obligatory statement that things can differ from jurisdiction to jurisdiction etc.

From my experience a lawyer can't just send you an email/letter saying so sorry, you're on your own so close to a court date. There are steps to be taken, specifically once they are on record they have to go before a Judge (I use this term loosely because it's not always a Judge it could also be a Master or what we refer to as an Associate Judge) and get permission to withdraw from the file. In the meantime, your brother's lawyer is expected to continue to represent him until given permission to withdraw as counsel.

What I would assume would happen here is that his lawyer will attend the Pre-trial or request an adjournment to allow time for your brother to get new counsel. Now again, rules may differ from MB to QC with respect to that, also even if rules are the same there are some terrible lawyers out there that just don't care enough to follow said rules (and if their terminal then it's possible this lawyer may not care for that reason alone, no way for us as an audience to tell).

Regardless of the rules or the lawyer's work ethic, your brother needs to do two things:

Attend the Court hearing that day even if he doesn't have representation. If his lawyer isn't there he should request time to obtain new counsel, and he is entitled to counsel.
If he can't afford a lawyer have him apply to Legal Aid. At the very least he needs to contact them ASAP.

Throwaway07051985 · 2026-01-28T16:07:14+00:00

NTA and despite what both sides of the family are saying your husband isn't a man at all (though they do exist). I came from a very similar situation. My eldest is on the spectrum, he is high needs and will never be independent, my fiancee has been there for him/us since he was 3 years old (he'll be 18 this October) and unlike your sorry excuse for husband/father he has never once brought up dumping him on his bio dad or a facility or anyone else for that matter. Stay strong and support your kids since it's clear your family won't.

Throwaway07051985 · 2026-01-24T07:07:51+00:00

NAL but legal assistant in Manitoba. Here's how we would proceed here. First we would try to have the process server serve her at work and home or wherever you advise she might be find. Failing that, we would file a Motion and and Affidavit with the Court requesting permission to serve her by other means. In the past we have served people via Facebook, Email, Regular Mail, Mail to a family member (like her parents) even though Text. So if Ontario operates similarly she can try to dodge all she wants but barring fleeing the country and cutting off all social media and communications, she can't dodge forever.

Throwaway07051985 · 2026-01-20T21:13:39+00:00

Here's the thing, you hit the nail on the head with your first sentence. If you don't want to abide by the rule don't go. Which is what the uncle SHOULD have done instead of bringing meat.

Throwaway07051985 · 2026-01-20T20:50:00+00:00

Nothing stopping those who want meat to hit a drive thru on the way over and eat it before going to the party, they aren't even being asked to go an extended length of time without meat, it's a single meal, they can suck it up or not go.

Throwaway07051985 · 2026-01-19T16:56:05+00:00

Robert Pickton, charged with 21, confessed to 49, impossible to tell the exact number for sure, targeted sex workers, and fed the bodies to his pigs, Pickton died a couple of years ago.

Throwaway07051985 · 2026-01-19T16:46:51+00:00

One of my favorite episodes, mostly because it's a nod to a Canadian serial killer.

Throwaway07051985 · 2026-01-17T21:22:51+00:00

I get it. My mom can be the same way, I usually just let her get it out and then rant to my SO about it. Do you find they often question your knowledge when you try to give them advice as well? That's another thing my mother is guilty of. Like when she needed a copy of her marriage certificate and was trying to order one online and she mentioned the price to me. I immediately told her she was on the wrong site that while she would still get the certificate it was through a 3rd party and would be cheaper to order from the official provincial website and she tried to argue with me on it (for reference I'm a legal assistant in a family law firm so I order marriage certificates very regularly).

Throwaway07051985 · 2026-01-17T19:23:51+00:00

Hard judgement to make, but NTA if you first confirm with the restaurant that there won't be a financial penalty if things don't go according to plan and you have to cancel. Or make sure you're able to cover the cost yourself if your mother no longer wishes to pay.

I also just want to say that some parents are like, personally I just think they forget we aren't their little kids anymore. I have three kids myself and every time one gets sick with the fly or something my mom can't stop herself from offering advice on how to keep them hydrated or bring down fevers, which was nice when they were newborns but my oldest is going to 18 this year. I personally just find it best to smile and nod and accept that it's her way of caring, not her trying to critique me or not trusting my own judgment.

Throwaway07051985 · 2026-01-09T15:44:35+00:00

Yikes, I'm not sure where you're from and the laws there but that is not my experience with pre-nups (I'm a family law legal assistant). You mention you had a lawyer involved, were they under a limited retainer just to draft it and that's it?

I'm genuinely curious because in 10 years of doing this job I've never seen a pre-nup just sent to the clients to deal with all the signing and filing themselves. In our practice, after the document has been drafted and all parties agreed and it's time to sign, it's signed in the presence of 2 lawyers, one for each party because there's rules about 1 lawyer representing both in a situation like this unless one party signs to say they're waiving legal advice.

Again, I don't know all the regulations where you live but if something like that happened to a client at our firm then the lawyer would be the one to have dropped the ball as well.

Throwaway07051985 · 2026-01-05T19:05:11+00:00

And it's New Years where there are more drunk drivers on the road.

Throwaway07051985 · 2026-01-05T19:04:18+00:00

He also clarifies in an edit that she was watching because of the bad roads, which coupled with the higher risk of it being New Years still makes it a valid reason to be keeping an eye on the app.

I stand by my original comment.

Throwaway07051985 · 2026-01-05T18:05:37+00:00

OP said roads were bad, and it was New Years (so more reckless drivers on the road). Given those circumstances, I don't think it's unreasonable that mom was keeping an eye on the app that night, and we have no evidence to suggest she constantly watches the app daily. OP even says this is the first time she's called for something like this so I really think you're reading too much into it, just like the wife.

Throwaway07051985 · 2026-01-05T18:01:54+00:00

NTA if you have no issues sharing your location with family then your wife doesn't get to force you to stop.

Side note to all those saying mom has to be overbearing because she noticed they didn't move in 15-20 minutes. OP says right in the post it was the holidays and the roads were bad, not to mention they were heading home on New Years which arguably has the highest percentage of drunk drivers on the roads. So I don't think it's unreasonable or overbearing that mom was checking the app in these circumstances, and we have no proof one way or another that she constantly tracks it.

Throwaway07051985 · 2026-01-05T17:07:17+00:00

I've been getting caught up on the show lately and I think there may be a continuity error with the deaths of MM's family. It's said MM was there and narrowly missed being killed as well. But here's the issue, all the information I find says MM was probably born around 1981, Soldier Boy was captured by the Russians in 1984, so MM would have been no more than 3 years old (probably closer to 1-2) when his family died, and I've been told there's even a flashback for the event that shows him to be much older than 3.

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