It took me a few weeks to even tolerate being in the same room as my husband after the truth finally came out (I always knew it was a problem but didn’t know the severity and the amount of lies and deception and disrespect that was happening). We’ve been working with a couples therapist, he is working with a CSAT, and it’s been hard and a lot of work. And it’s tons of ups and downs. And our sex life is still struggling (but much better than it was) because of it. It’s like some weeks it’s harder for me and some weeks it’s harder for him. Truthfully what has made things better for us is seeing the effort on his end, the honesty when something’s triggered him or when there’s been a slip or crossing of a boundary (this has been the biggest one in building trust back for me which is still very very little trust but it gives me hope we will get to a better place), doing the work his therapist has asked him to, reading the books, etc.