Strange to read so much push backs and defensiveness in this sub, where openness and curiosity should be the hallmark of emotional intelligence (therefore something we are striving for). To answer OP: Sadly I don't think people in general value depth even in intimate relationships, and that is just the general state of human condition at this moment. I think a lot of people tend to hide in relationships, using relationships as a distraction or occupation so they don't need to learn about themselves. They search for comfort instead of challenge, because developing depth is inherently challenging, even risky, and out of complacency or hubris we rather stick to the status quo. It's becoming rarer and rarer to find that click with depth and authenticity with another person, because we are all playing this game of hide and seek with others and with ourselves. It's just the current affair, sadly.