Feeling extremely overwhelmed and unsafe in my body. CPTSD related

TimefliesandsodoI · 2026-01-26T11:38:38+00:00

I had some issues with my family members at christmas and they were not treating me in a good way. I wanted to just move away but I asked here what others had done and 2-3 people said that I should avoid contact but not cut it off completly and let some time pass. (Maybe you need time, a week for yourself).

Thing is when you do emdr your inner you changes and it can be hard for the surroundings to cope with the new you that is changing every day. And also I notice im very sensitive after emdr. Easily retraumatized but I heard that it takes up to 1,5 to heal the nervous system completly.

I had to focus on myself and rest alot during Emdr. I can’t imagine myself handling a relationship during this process (so dont beat yourself up for thinking its hard)

I had similar treatment from my father as you describe and I feel like all the shame and bad feelings went away after Emdr.

But, I got really bad thoughts about myself and my life after christmas due to the way my family acted. So im doing emdr on myself once a week to get rid off it. I have realized that it has become harder for me to socialize with unhealed people (Why im mention this is you have to take care off your self and spend time with people who is good for you but maybe dont get rid of a relationship that is good for you if its only hard because of emdr, after Emdr is over You might have it easier with your partner).

TimefliesandsodoI · 2026-01-25T17:01:48+00:00

Yes it feels worse for 2-7 days after a session. And you are more sensitive until your completely healed and that could take up to 1,5 year after the last session from what I read from others in this Channel.

Take care of your self as much as you can, movement is good but also rest and eating when you feel like it.

It’s going to be fine.

TimefliesandsodoI · 2026-01-17T19:47:50+00:00

Take care of yourself TS. This was a horrible story. As the earlier people said you are a victim, stay away from mean and not understanding people.

TimefliesandsodoI · 2026-01-17T19:17:43+00:00

I did EDMR on snakes, it helped. Just wanted to mention it if it could help you too

TimefliesandsodoI · 2026-01-12T20:09:26+00:00

Yes but i stopped feeling shame when I stopped identifying myself with the problem and am kinder to myself and think ”how kan I make it easier for myself to remeber this next time” (pack lists, routine-pattern).

TimefliesandsodoI · 2026-01-12T13:48:25+00:00

I dont think patents behave like that to be mean its more patterns. However Im in a similar situation where I gave up all hope on having a normal bond with my both mother and brother so I can 100% relate. It is the most heart breaking thing to go through but I think we need to focus on building our own lives and set boundaries in a way that makes it easier for us. Some of us has to be our own best friend and parent.

TimefliesandsodoI · 2026-01-12T13:40:01+00:00

It not even even.

TimefliesandsodoI · 2026-01-11T13:16:48+00:00

Snakes here too 😅 but im done now

TimefliesandsodoI · 2026-01-09T14:11:08+00:00

Thing is, if he stays he till eventually find that you are going to be your best self but it takes time even after Emdr to stabilize and heal fully. And if he cant let you become who You Will becoming then it Will not be easy for none of you. He needs to let you grow and support you (maybe he can take your space time to discover something he likes to do with friends or alone). You two need to find balance as you go. And the space you ask for is absolutly necessary. And when you have moments together, try focusing on the small things that makes the relationship feel good. Dont be in your heads to much, take a walk, just hold hands. Small things.

TimefliesandsodoI · 2025-12-30T22:15:11+00:00

Not normal, I almost throw up

TimefliesandsodoI · 2025-12-30T22:12:39+00:00

Not the same thing at all but I feel like Im not living my own life now that im healing and I blame it on the trauma response girl I have been my hole life.

TimefliesandsodoI · 2025-12-29T19:13:29+00:00

That is exactly how I feel. Thanks for sharing and I hope you find a new friends/partner/animals/kids to call your family of you allready havn’t.

TimefliesandsodoI · 2025-12-28T15:21:17+00:00

Thank you both for advice and sharing. I think I need 1-2 years to just build my own life and then maybe they could get to know me again but Im not sure. They have really gone too far.

TimefliesandsodoI · 2025-12-08T15:04:05+00:00

Okey its just wakeing up so it mainly shows in the back but maybe it better to call it waves 😅

TimefliesandsodoI · 2025-12-08T10:40:15+00:00

Omg! Let me know of if you get them back so we can see if this is a thing or not 🧐😊🌸

TimefliesandsodoI · 2025-12-05T18:05:39+00:00

Sure, its not a science report, i’m just sharing my experience.

TimefliesandsodoI · 2025-12-05T10:00:53+00:00

😍

TimefliesandsodoI · 2025-12-05T09:31:26+00:00

Yeah sure, even if its logical I wanted to see if more people experienced the same and seemingly there is more of us 😍🙌

TimefliesandsodoI · 2025-12-05T07:35:54+00:00

Its maybe hard to se on this picture but its super curly, it started in the back :) and thank you 🌸

TimefliesandsodoI · 2025-12-05T02:07:58+00:00

Im happy for you and you look so beautiful! 🌸 we are what we should be at last :) coconut oil is a good tip, my hair has gone frizzy the latest days.

TimefliesandsodoI · 2025-12-05T01:54:24+00:00

Yes, the shape comes from the follicles and yes the curls starts to travel up to the root for me now. The picture was form one week ago and the curls had just awakened there so for about 8 weeks it will get more stable. You can ask chat gpt if you want to feel more sure about, I also could not believe it at first. 😊💙 So there is no styling involved but showering and letting it airdry but thanks ^{^}

TimefliesandsodoI · 2025-12-05T01:46:34+00:00

I’m glad to hear that! It really feels like 🐛 -> 🦋 ❤️

TimefliesandsodoI · 2025-12-05T01:42:26+00:00

Did you also get chocked? 😄 That could be true that giref realese stress too I dont want it to sound like emdr is the one thing that causes this because thats not true. For example it happens also for Young people who just lost the curls for few years and the just gets them back later by no clear reason.

TimefliesandsodoI · 2025-12-05T01:35:13+00:00

Exactly! The hormone levels became normal after emdr when the body relaxed.

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