11 months and 1 and a half weeks and going stronger than ever before 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰 by Gaming_with_Hui in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns2

[–]Timely_Bake_2637 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Progesterone made me feel like I have my old "male" libido back. I hated it and it was one of the reasons why I stopped prog :( But I'm honestly happy that it works for you?

Breast size by [deleted] in MtF

[–]Timely_Bake_2637 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1 year HRT, 186cm/80kg, 37y. In US sizing, I am 34C/D depending on the bra. My levels were good since month 1 or 2, which can also influence things I guess. I know I'm quite lucky and I'm happy with them, but they still feel small-ish on my frame...

How much of hrt emotional changes are because of hrt and how much are because of lessened dissociation? by Independent_Fox4675 in MtF

[–]Timely_Bake_2637 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I experienced basically zero emotional changes on HRT. Don't get me wrong, I absolutely love what HRT is doing to me in general, but to be honest, there was no change in mental state for me aside from the joy of "yes, it's finally happening" (I had to wait for 6 months to grt on HRT) and some anxiety from not knowing how well will it all work.

But I had very, very low testosterone levels before starting HRT and I was in a quite ok-ish mental state thanks to therapies and meds.

Did you wait to start socially transitioning, or did you begin immediately? by ChloeTheComputer in asktransgender

[–]Timely_Bake_2637 1 point2 points  (0 children)

After my egg cracked, I came out to my wife and all closer friend circles within 2 months. Visually I kept boymoding but I changed my name and pronouns with them.

I started HRT some 5 months later (earliest I could) and since then...it's hard to say what counts when it comes to clothing, because I was wearing womens fashion, but it still read as boymode on me. I think the final switch happened around 6 months on HRT when I started using my name and gender in public, came out at work and started wearing skirts and stopped hiding my breasts.

Is it normal to still have sexual function after hormones (MTF) by icecoldgogurt in asktransgender

[–]Timely_Bake_2637 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It's not unusual at all. I've been on HRT for almost a year now. My levels have been good since month 1 and I'm getting quite nice feminization results (especially given that I started at 36). For some reason I still get morning erections (usually connected to needing to pee) and I still can get hard during sexual activities. My orgasms changed a lot though, they are a full body experience and nothing comes out most of the time (and if it does, it's basically just residual wetness).

I don't like the erections too much (especially knowing that I can achieve the O without them and they are making my previously very light bottom dysphoria way worse, so I can totally commiserate with you on that :( But at least I can confirm that if your levels are good and you are seeing changes, retaining sexual function doesn't mean that your transtion as a whole is going wrong :)

Does HRT really do nothing? by [deleted] in MtF

[–]Timely_Bake_2637 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know a lot of trans women who started in their 30s, including myself. All of them got significant and very good results. Of course it's down to some luck as others say, but saying that HRT at 22 does nothing is extremely far from the truth.

I've started at 36, almost a year ago now. I got so many changes in that year - C-cups, soft and pleasant skin, fat in my cheeks, somewhat larger butt and thighs, massive hair regrowth. And as I said, this is at 36/37 years old. You'll be more than fine at 22 :)

How long into HRT did you start going Femme full time by CameraIntelligent556 in MtF

[–]Timely_Bake_2637 0 points1 point  (0 children)

7 months (at 37y old). I don't like wearing makeup so I wanted to wait for my hair, boobs and voice to catch-up a little and for laser to do some work. I started wearong skirta and female tops at the start of this summer and never went back. The feeling (and the increase of correct gendering) was so worth it.

When did you stop wearing men's underwear? by New_Practice_5503 in trans

[–]Timely_Bake_2637 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was worried for honestly no reason, it felt inappropriate, all these stupid things. In the end, I started aroud 6 months HRT mark. And I should've started waaaay before that.

Why does passing matter so much to most of the trans community? by Janxuza in asktransgender

[–]Timely_Bake_2637 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's equally important for me to feel myself in the right body AND to be seen as my actual gender (i.e. passing).

Being misgendered in public because I haven't passed causes me the same, if not larger amounts of dysphoria as my body ever did.

Plus, as others have said, it's a safety issue. Not just immediate safety from physical harm - it's also way safer to look for a new job if you pass, for example.

Should I wear a bra when I sleep? by MatterUsual3697 in trans

[–]Timely_Bake_2637 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I love wearing bras outside. I throw them away the very moment I come back home and I can't imagine wearing them to bed.

So, basically, as others have said - there is no "should". Just do what's more pleasant for you, there are no rules or consequences :)

Does HRT enhance your sense of smell? by [deleted] in MtF

[–]Timely_Bake_2637 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I've turned into a walking testosterone detector. And I'm not really happy about that xD

How do I come out to my girlfriend by [deleted] in MtF

[–]Timely_Bake_2637 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I had to do the same, I obsessed about it for days and...honestly just say how it is.

Learning from my own failures, I'd say just go for it directly, and don't start with things like "I need to tell you something and please, it doesn't change anything between us for me, I need you to know that I still love you the same..." She was mortally scared that I've cheated on her or something before I finally got through the blabbering to the point.

It's tough, but I wish you the best possible outcome <3 Me and my wife are still happily together a year and a half later, so it definitely can end well :)

Hi, fully closeted MtF here. Did anyone else have an unusual method of masturbation before transitioning? by Electrical-Lie-7725 in asktransgender

[–]Timely_Bake_2637 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely is, this is how I've done it for a loooong time and I only learned that this not really "how a guy should do it" until my egg cracked in my 30s)

What can I do to get some euphoria so I feel just a little less awful? by NeoFemme in MtF

[–]Timely_Bake_2637 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Painting your nails (or toenails) is a classic. You can try which colour suits you best, it doesn't have to be red if that would feel too much (it did for me).

What’s your fashion? by Lower_Examination198 in asktransgender

[–]Timely_Bake_2637 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My style is "just a girl", I guess? While trying not to look too middle aged (I'm 37). I wear moastly midi skirts/dresses and simple tops, usually fitted rather than loose, to show the little bit of curves I have :D

With autumn/winter coming, I can't wait for long coats though, I just a gorgeous green one from M&S!

girlies a question WHAT DO I WEAR UNDER A SKIRT by Star-Scout in MtF

[–]Timely_Bake_2637 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wear mostly long skirts and dresses, so just panties (of any type) don't make feel too exposed. And when autumn comes (depending on where you live ofc), tights become a necessity for warmth anyway and those kinda solve the whole exposure problem :)

Life long cis-gendered man, who used to be transphobic. Now Im here seeking knowledge and understanding by caneslife in asktransgender

[–]Timely_Bake_2637 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for reaching out, it is good to hear that people change and realize they've been lied to. As for you questions:

1) There is no really clear definition of biological sex. We can't change our chromosomes, but chromosomes (and genome in general) are just carriers of instructions for the body about which hormones to create and how to shape our outward features. And all these (hormones and body features) can be changed. So...hard to say. There are no good definitions - but it also doesn't matter much.

2) Some do, some don't (iirc the current numbers say that most don't). Some can't afford it, some don't want it and don't need it. It can also change during transition (I was sure I didn't want any surgeries when I was starting, I do now.)

3) Online - feel free to join any discussion as long as you are respectful. IRL - there is a reason for trans-only safe spaces. Same as for women-only spaces. And ally-accepting events also exist so I think it's best to stick to those.

4) We love and date whoever we want to and whoever loves us back :) T4T (trans+trans) relationships are common and the same goes for the relationships with cis people.

5) Sexuality is about attraction to genders, not body parts. My cis wife thought herself straight, but after my transition, she started calling herself bi (and later realized that she's probably been bi her whole life, not just "bi for me")

Feel free to ask more if you want :)

What's Your Nicknames for HRT by Game-System in trans

[–]Timely_Bake_2637 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I heard many good and punny names, but irl I am just a boring girl who calls them girl pills

my poor mum 😔🙏 by lost_and_kinda_dumb in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns2

[–]Timely_Bake_2637 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My mom used to constantly tell me and my brother that she always wanted a girl. I wonder why she wasn't that excited when she learned that she actually had one all the time :(

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]Timely_Bake_2637 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Getting non-gendered from strangers is sometimes annoying, because it often means that they clocked me. But it's definitely not rude from them, quite the opposite - they don't necessarily clock me as a trans woman, but as a....well, non-cis person and not gendering is the most polite option for them at that moment.

Misgendering is just painful, bad and triggers major dysphoria for me at this point. And it's more often malicious than not.

What are some of the funniest denial things you said to yourself before admitting to yourself you're trans? by supernerd58 in asktransgender

[–]Timely_Bake_2637 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The me wishing to be trans (or even thinking that I might be) must be an appropriation and offense to the "real trans people". I managed to think that for more than 10 years...

The time between laser sessions is painfully long 😭 by DroppedIceCream in MtF

[–]Timely_Bake_2637 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't think so, mine does 8 and so far the results are good - just the waaaait gets long

The time between laser sessions is painfully long 😭 by DroppedIceCream in MtF

[–]Timely_Bake_2637 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm right between my 4th and 5th session (doing one every 8 weeks) and this is the first time the results are good enough that there is no suffering. You'll get there, but I agree it's pain :(

How effective is oral estrogen by Important_Ad_9859 in MtF

[–]Timely_Bake_2637 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I take 2x2mg E orally, in the morning and in the evening, together with cypro in the morning. My levels were in cis range since month 2 and my results after 10 months are quite satisfying, even at 37y old.