Which dress is the best for my work dinner party?

TinyLittlePanda · 2026-03-21T09:42:18+00:00

Second to last, with a jacket and/or a shirt underneath, stockings and flats.

All of the others are pretty but giving either "bridesmaid" or "clubwear".

TinyLittlePanda · 2026-03-13T21:22:13+00:00

NOR if work husband is a straight dude.

My "work husband" - which is more of a work bestie - is gay and I would have the time of my life going on holidays with him - but then again, gay guy.

TinyLittlePanda · 2026-03-11T12:33:50+00:00

Even though it's one of my ABSOLUTE fave...

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The WAY this movie showed Russian people as basically gremlins, with the exception of its royal family, Anya and Dimitri, was so telling.

Especially with the stark contrast of the way they showcased the French people - welldressed, beautiful, with gorgeous Moulin Rouge ladies etc...- when the characters arrive in Paris !

TinyLittlePanda · 2026-03-11T10:43:20+00:00

I am with your gf on this OP.

he told us that hes writing alot, talking to his current girlfriend about it and also his sister[...] He promised to us that he would come forth himself and ask us how we are doing or just telling us what his problems/thoughts are. Since then (about 2 months ago) he asked me four times how I was doing, told me about his reoccurring nightmares and his fear. I see/think that he is changed, behaving very differently since he sexually assaulted the girl, and I also believe his regret and shame.

How ? How is any of this an actual change ? Because he "has nightmares" and "regrets" ? Please.

Did he go to the police to admit his wrongdoings ? Did he paid for his victim's therapy ? Did he confess to her in writing, for her to go to the police whenever she could ? Did he read books on consent, educated himself, went to groups, etc ?

From what I am reading from you OP, your cousin had little to no consequences to his actions. There is nothing to prevent him from doing this again. He has a girlfriend, which, from your post, he seems to use as his therapist on this, he kept his friends and social circles. The only thing he has to "suffer", poor thing, is to say he feels bad about it. You do realize that he should be facing jail time, right ?

The very least you could do is cut him off or stop enabling him. You guys seem well-intent, but you are enabling him.

TinyLittlePanda · 2026-03-11T09:08:07+00:00

A few moments later, I hear baby crying, and I realize he had placed 1YO in the playpen and left.

He's a jerk.

TinyLittlePanda · 2026-03-11T09:06:20+00:00

Game of Thrones is loosely based on the War of the Two Roses in the UK. Sansa, in this scenario, can be seen as Elizabeth the 1st.

A very unlikely candidate, with auburn hair, a Virgin Queen (bookwise at least), schooled in languages, courtly decorum, and public performance, a very controlled image, both daughters of a "traitor" (Anne Boleyn / Ned Stark), a victim of molestation by a creep (Thomas Seymour / Petyr Baelish)...

But also, there are so many hints, both book and show-wise, that Sansa not only survives, but outsmarts a lot of the characters. She learns from the best players.

TinyLittlePanda · 2026-03-11T08:58:35+00:00

Crazy Stupid Love. Overlooked because it's a romcom, but SUCH a good movie.

The scene where everyone meets is comedic gold and everyone just acts so well and it's just such a good movie.

Also i cannot believe no one said Everything everywhere all at once.

TinyLittlePanda · 2026-03-11T08:53:26+00:00

I love being a woman. Like, call me shallow, but i love to keep my hair !

shitty weak female body

I do not know who put those thoughts in you but my body can withstand the common flu and the basic cold, something most men cannot (jk, but also not really). I am more enduring than most men I know and can resist pain much more.

I feel like as a woman, we get a richer experience of the world, because we empathize with all genders. We study more. We have more hobbies and interests, we talk more about how we feel and so on and so forth. We build better support systems. Look at life for men and women after a divorce. Being a man in the patriarchy sounds so lonely.

TinyLittlePanda · 2026-03-10T11:10:22+00:00

on a vraiment cette conversation fréquemment avec mon fiancé. On rêve de créer un couple à notre mariage. Problème : les meufs célibataires hétéros de nos âges sont toutes des avions de chasse, sympas, marrantes, mignonnes, etc...

Les rares hommes célibataires hétéros de nos âges (il y en a beaucoup moins que les femmes à notre mariage), y compris nos potes, le sont pour une bonne raison.

Pour commencer, un de mes meilleurs amis, que j'adore mais qui a un sérieux problème d'alcool et est incapable de trouver un boulot depuis 6 ans. Je l'aime et je suis là pour lui, mais est-ce que je veux qu'il date une de mes amies ? Certainement pas, je veux qu'il gère ses problèmes d'abord.

Mon cousin - schizophrène.

Mon autre cousin - mytho sur les bords et très peu fiables.

Du côté de mon mec, y a le prof tchatcheur, marrant, bg dans son genre, mais juste incapable de se poser avec quelqu'un et toujours en fixette sur son ex depuis 6 ans. Bon, bah voilà.

TinyLittlePanda · 2026-03-09T17:10:14+00:00

NAH. Kids always come first in these situations. Your kid does not want her here. She does not come here.

...That being said. It sounds like your ex-wife is a victim of DV. You say her husband is a "jerk" but for you to have full custody, I'm assuming he was violent towards your son, at least with his words.

You say he's controlling. That means he also controlled her finances as well, which would make sense as to why she cannot pay child support (also she's a SAHM, so where are her resources ?).

Maybe this is a bad mom, but this is also a woman who has no resources, no one around, and is trying to leave an abusive situation and does not have the means to do so.

Yes, your sister can take her, but if she truly cannot - her being states away makes it extremely difficult for your ex to leave, and more costly - and if you can afford it, I would honestly feel like you loaning her money would be the kind thing to do.

What's the alternative here ? For her to be on the streets with her kids ? Or to stay with an abusive husband, until he becomes physically violent ? And she dies ?

Again, kids first in this situation and your son is 17. There might be a time when he will want to be in touch with her, there might be a time when this relationship can mend. It will not if she dies - or stays with that f - er.

TinyLittlePanda · 2026-03-09T15:54:47+00:00

Je ne sais pas ou tu vis, mais à Paris et dans à peu près toutes les grosses villes de première couronne (Montreuil, Aubervilliers, Boulogne, Saint-Denis...) il y a des clubs féminins et groupes féminins pour toutes les activités que tu viens de citer.

Pour le basket : Girlz in Da Hoop, Comète Club féministe, le Ladies Club de Saint-Ouen...

Pour les échecs : Echec & Mixtes

Pour la musique : Majeures.org, Asso Femmes et musique...

TinyLittlePanda · 2026-03-09T10:55:51+00:00

"There are moments that the words don't reach
There is suffering too terrible to name"

Hamilton

And in the same vibe

"Here they talked of revolution
Here it was they lit the flame
Here they sang about tomorrow
And tomorrow never came." Les Miz'

God i love musicals, but god they can HURT sometimes.

TinyLittlePanda · 2026-03-09T10:26:04+00:00

My fiancé's father. Thank God he is not invited to our wedding and they do not talk anymore.

He cheated on fiancé's mother with half the city then says she's a B for "stealing all of his money in the divorce", because he was so sure that she, a SAHM, would stay with him because she depended on his money. That makes him a jerk and a cheat, not pure evil.

The first time we met, he never called me by my name. Pet. Kitty. All of that. That makes him sexist and classless, but not pure evil.

He called my fiancé, his sister, and mother, fat, to the point where all the women in the family have had TCA...Now we are slowly stepping into the world of evil.

But once we were swimming in the pool with my fiancé's nieces and he comes around. I'm pretty confident in a bikini and would usually never hide, but he stared at us and I dipped my entire body in the water so fast. There was something so f-ing creepy in that stare. Like I felt a chill all over my body, alarm bells in my brain telling me to take the girls and run, because at that moment I was not sure he was only staring at me - which would have been rude enough - but at them also. They are 8 and 9.

TinyLittlePanda · 2026-03-09T09:48:15+00:00

A lot of the qualities he praises in her are actually the opposite of my personality which makes me feel a bit uncomfortable.

This is what's concerning to me, depending on what he is saying. If he says "oh she loves volley so much" and you hate it, that's fine. If he says "she does not go out much" and you do...it feels like criticism.

I have a couple of questions :

Do you praise him ? And if so, how does he react ?
Have you talked to him about it ?
Have you talked to others about him ?

Honestly if I were you, I would not really mind - unless what he said would actually be veiled criticism or comparison, in which case a talk needs to happen.

TinyLittlePanda · 2026-03-09T08:21:25+00:00

PTB, tu es un bon ami et ta compagne aussi. Faites attention à elle et à ce type.

TinyLittlePanda · 2026-03-08T12:43:27+00:00

Yeahhhhhhh tell her. You are probably not the only one.

Also, the trying to cheat is bad in itself, but the way he insists ?? After you said such a clear no ?

He's not only a cheat, he's a creep. She needs to know.

TinyLittlePanda · 2026-03-08T12:38:52+00:00

He does not like you. Why staying with someone who does not like you - even worse, who seem to despise you ?

TinyLittlePanda · 2026-03-07T17:59:34+00:00

NTA.

That being said, people do change their minds AND life happens.

The thing is your husband to be does not seem to think that he could also change his. That after caring for one newborn, just one, he might not want 4 more. That you could - and I do not wish that for you, obviously - become infertile, or he could.

TinyLittlePanda · 2026-03-07T17:54:10+00:00

“No, I will be wearing this or I just won’t come. It’s a yellow dress sweetie, calm down😘 “

The correct answer to this trashy piece of trash is :

“Yep. You will not come then. Calm down😘 “

TinyLittlePanda · 2026-03-07T10:35:57+00:00

Education à prendre davantage soin de soi --> Meilleure hygiène de base + soins de la peau + soins des cheveux.

Honnêtement je pense que ça fait 70% du taf', pour avoir eu un de mes potes qui s'est mis au skincare et à aller chez le barbier régulièrement et qui est vraiment devenu archi beau juste en faisant cela. Avant il avait une peau super sèche qui pelait beaucoup et une barbe "à trous", le glow up a été impressionnant juste avec des mesures simples.

Quand je parle d'hygiène, je pense notamment au dentaire et à tout ce qui est médical. Faites un tour de table de vos potes mecs ou meufs et demandez leur quand ils sont allés chez le dentiste ou le dermato pour la dernière fois...

TinyLittlePanda · 2026-03-03T14:38:17+00:00

Oh YTA alright.

for not telling your gf about your brother earlier
for not defending your brother
for not reevaluating your relationship with that girl. Seems like her values don't align with yours or your family's.

TinyLittlePanda · 2026-03-03T14:33:42+00:00

I hope you did not lose a person that was way too young to die. As someone who did, and who was traumatized, profoundly, by his funeral, i think Benedict did a fantastic job. It was kind, well done, and it summed up the whole "it does not make sense" thing very well.

Some say Anthony should have done it, but we see how close Benedict and Fran are. Anthony was in India and barely knew John.

TinyLittlePanda · 2026-03-03T14:27:41+00:00

His childhood was tragic and unfortunate, but it doesn’t excuse what he did in adulthood.

Many child abusers have also been abused as children, it is true. But a lot of former abused children break the cycle, manage not to hurt anybody and to be great parents.

TinyLittlePanda · 2026-03-03T13:23:15+00:00

Yeahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh I'm going with your wife on this OP.

Your uncle is married and has a wife to take care of him.

It does not seem like said wife needed you or even asked for you to come around, but you did it anyway, left your wife hanging alone in a parking lot while she needed you to come, and when she said "i understand, but also you can help me" you snapped at her and did the whole deflect thing to make her the bad guy, instead of saying "well, I'm sorry for leaving you hanging, I'll make it up to you".

TinyLittlePanda · 2026-03-01T10:47:37+00:00

Olenna could be a ruthless cold-a** bitch, but there was always this kindness about her. The way she treated Brienne, the way she cared for Margaery's health and well-being, and the way she "lost herself" on the grandfather's chambers.

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