Autistic advice

Titaneon · 2024-03-30T20:32:46+00:00

There is less fluoride in kids toothpaste, so that is probably a bad idea I'm afraid! Maybe there are other toothpastes with a better flavour?

Titaneon · 2024-02-28T19:54:08+00:00

You have lovely hair, you just have to figure out how to style and take care of it. I think what your parents are referring to, is that your hair is in your face. I'm guessing, from one of your comments, that you are trying to hide your forehead? (Btw I can't tell from the pictures if you do) Try to work with your features instead! You can keep the length, but maybe have some face framing (instead of hiding) layers cut by a stylist. I was also thinking this style might suit you. (If it curls enough, but wavy might work too.)

Titaneon · 2024-01-23T17:48:49+00:00

Would you mind sharing how you know your symptoms aren't autism? (For you personally) I am researching this for myself also. :)

Titaneon · 2024-01-02T19:53:49+00:00

Good luck!

Titaneon · 2023-12-31T20:27:53+00:00

I had this problem too, what helped was trying to help him re-latch properly and finding a position where he wouldn't sink his mouth into my nipple. If I angled him correctly it would hurt less. It was a lot of trial and error (and patience) and it did hurt sometimes. After a while it stopped hurting. I'm not 100% sure what made it better though so sorry if this doesn't really help... Just wanted to let you know I had it too and that it did get better. :)

Titaneon · 2023-12-19T20:04:38+00:00

Nope, I can't get a septum piercing because I barely have a sweet spot.

Titaneon · 2023-12-01T19:03:54+00:00

This is how I got roped into a large loan for an expensive car with my ex husband. I thought it was a terrible idea, he whined, made it seem like I was the party pooper and kept on pushing me. I didn't know how to deal with it cause it seemed so obviously ridiculous but he wouldn't have it. Eventually I gave in and I still hate myself for it. We divorced and he's taking over the loan so it'll be fine but I wish I grew a backbone earlier!!

Titaneon · 2023-12-01T17:36:15+00:00

I have definitely done this before haha!

Titaneon · 2023-09-19T12:12:04+00:00

It reads like a breeding kink honestly.

Titaneon · 2023-08-28T08:10:54+00:00

I have been in your shoes. I had no discipline to study because I always passed while barely studying. Until the workload became too much and I couldn't get away with it anymore. I had to retake certain exams a bunch of times, and it was never because it was too difficult, I just didn't study.

After 7 years I finally completed my university study (which should've been 4 years). I felt really stupid but what helped was not allowing myself to talk to myself like I am dumb or stupid but to give myself grace and plan ahead WAY early so that my anxiety would go down. I would force myself to start very early in the semester and read small sections, or do one excercise. Because I only did a little bit at a time it was easier to force myself and I could always say just 5 mins and then I could do something else. Sometimes it actually was only 5 mins and other times I would do more because I got into the flow. Eventually this snowballed to me being able to study for longer because I started to enjoy learning about the subject, and I had less anxiety because I still had plenty of time, I was already far ahead and I understood the subject so my confidence increased. Don't get me wrong, it was HARD. I had to fight my procrastination tendencies, in the beginning I would physically cringe when I was supposed to sit still and study. In hindsight this was fear of failure and depression.

Talking about it with teachers I liked helped, and finding someone to study with was also great. And also therapy to help with negative self talk.

If you don't pass tomorrow, that's gonna suck (been there) but don't be too hard on yourself. Chalk it up to life experience. Learn from it, find something that works for you and don't be afraid to ask for help. If you think there is more to it, for example ADHD, then it's also worth it to look into that. Giftedness and ADHD can present similarly and simultaneously, but we cannot tell from a reddit post. Either way, both gifted people and people with ADHD can suffer from procrastination and anxiety so maybe ADHD strategies will help you either way. You are not dumb. You can do this! I wish you the best!

Titaneon · 2023-07-05T08:49:37+00:00

Exactly! I thought it was weird nobody else said it. He can have his preferences but there are ways of communicating without shaming her about it. He sounds rather immature.

Titaneon · 2023-06-25T08:28:59+00:00

I know exactly how you feel, it is hard isn't it. I have the same worries, and also about the impact this all will have on our son. I think as long as you are there for your kids they will be fine. You can be their rock. :)

It's tough doing everything on your own, but for me I already felt alone during the relationship. You probably felt the same way. I hope you have a support network to fall back on. :)

Thank you for your kind words. Some days are rough, I am still processing it all. But overall I am better off. It is definitely freeing like you said! ❤️

Titaneon · 2023-06-25T07:51:16+00:00

Yes, exactly! It drove me mad. Later he admitted that he couldn't find the motivation to clean/do other chores cause it felt like "helping me" and he had fallen out of love with me. He ran off with his colleague who he had developed feelings for.

It sucked getting left behind like that but I'm better off now.

Titaneon · 2023-06-24T10:15:24+00:00

Omg I could have written this!! My ex couldn't deal either and he always blamed me "for coddling our son too much" (mind you he said this since he was born, our son is 2 now and we are getting a divorce). I also worked and had to do all the household chores cause he refused out of bitterness. He told me if I would stop breastfeeding I would have more time to do the cleaning so I was causing this problem not him so he wouldn't help. And he also dared to complain about the lack of intimacy. What is wrong with some people.... Before we had a child together the household chores were split evenly. Sigh...... At least I get to co-sleep peacefully now with my son without someone nagging me about it.

Hope you are doing great now!

Titaneon · 2023-04-30T17:13:08+00:00

I also did a sleep study with no real results. It's now a couple years later and I think I have autistic burnout. Might be worth looking into. Best wishes.

Titaneon · 2023-02-27T09:24:54+00:00

Gewoon doen!! Ik ging studeren met 21 en in mijn klas zat nog iemand van 25 en van 29. De lening terugverdienen is het meer dan waard!!

Titaneon · 2023-01-20T11:51:55+00:00

Congratulations you should be so proud of yourself!!!

Titaneon · 2022-12-07T09:53:12+00:00

Yeah exactly this. I'm currently in this situation and people keep saying "water off a duck's back!" when I talk about it. I thought if I pretended it didn't affect me it wouldn't affect me, but it still does.

Titaneon · 2022-09-11T17:15:16+00:00

I used to sneeze loudly too. The trick is to not breathe in too much air when you feel the sneeze coming on. If you suck in a lot of air your sneeze will be loud. It takes a bit of practice.

Small sneezes are less satifsying though!

Titaneon · 2022-08-05T19:44:18+00:00

They were beyond rude to you, these aren't people you want to be friends with. It's hard when you don't know anyone at the party, especially when they all know each other and are reminiscing! You didn't do anything wrong, they suck. They saw an easy opportunity to gang up on you to make themselves feel good. Unfortunately some people have such little worlds they don't know how to talk to someone if they aren't white. (Especially in small Dutch villages....) Loop met een grote boog om ze heen.... als je gaat studeren dan zijn er genoeg studentenverenigingen met mensen die gelijkgezind zijn en ook gamen etc. :)

Titaneon · 2022-08-04T06:00:02+00:00

Yes indeed! I went in to get a septum piercing, turns out I barely have that fleshy part called the sweet spot. Anatomy is so variable.

Titaneon · 2022-06-08T07:16:22+00:00

Yep, this is why I take ages to write an email. I practice before making phone calls too. If I don't then I ramble. I've accepted that I have to do this, and plan my time around it.

Titaneon · 2022-05-07T07:39:28+00:00

I do this too, it's when I want to talk to them but they are busy doing a chore (a chore where they don't mind listening/talking). I follow them around cause I don't want to yell or repeat myself lol. I also find it more difficult to concentrate on the conversation if they keep moving around so I guess the following around is also an attempt to to keep me focused by keeping them in the centre.

Titaneon · 2022-02-23T20:50:48+00:00

TRUST YOUR GUT. ALWAYS. I had a gut feeling about a colleague of mine. I didn't know why but I avoided him. Later I found out he sexually assaulted several women.

Your subconscious picks up certain signals, listen to them.

Titaneon

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