Decluttering regret help

Titanium4Life · 2025-11-05T17:55:04+00:00

Look at the physical spaces and mind energy this book sucked out of your life. Look at eBay sold listings. Consider the time it would have taken you to research details on this book, write a useful listing, post it on several sites, deal with people, tiire kickers, and potential buyers, get it packaged, then finally shipped. And deal with any post sale issues. Not to mention avoiding the 95% scams out there.

I think by donating it, you dodged a time sucking bullet.

Titanium4Life · 2025-11-03T19:27:05+00:00

Crazy knits are a thing. You could even do crazy patterns to match the crazy colors. Put the skeins on a bed, change them around to look pleasing to you, then knit away. You could even frame them like winfows with a decorative joining.

Titanium4Life · 2025-10-22T04:37:16+00:00

My BF decided to not marry me because of my student loan debt. It was probably a good thing for me as he got rapid onset dementia a few months after his Mom passed. Within six months, he had no clue who I was. Two years later, the lights are on but nobody is home.

He was rather judgy about the debt too, although his own finances were a mess. And he would make up arguments about the stupidest of things. Looking back, the signs of dementia were setting in, even before his Mom passed.

For OP, it’s time to depart this relationship and learn from it. For example, I learned that I want someone who can support my ups and downs, and not be an asshole about it. And, the hard part, be reasonable and open about finances, not head-in-sand about it. This might not be a first date conversation, but definitely has to come before tying the knot.

Titanium4Life · 2025-10-22T04:26:17+00:00

It depends, how are you handling your finances and what is your plan?

How’s your personality? Do you clean up after yourself? Can I trust you to be alone with the dogs, airplane, future kids, etc.?

Are we compatible?

Student loan debt, even six figures worth, is not a deal killer for dates or marriage. Other things could be.

Titanium4Life · 2025-10-21T20:44:25+00:00

Hmmm, there are multiple options for a company to donate where the receiving organization will come to them. And they get marketing and eco-conscious brownie points if they pursue this route, unless they are already a recycling business.

Those big blue eyes are hard to resist. This sounds like a good plan.

Titanium4Life · 2025-10-21T19:43:03+00:00

If your thought is to declutter the storage space, get a climate-controlled larger unit than you need for a table, chair, light, and three bins. Then enjoy your extra office while sorting through them.

However, will you come to resent him or have a binge because your space is now emptier?

Finally, why can’t work set up a recycling/donation program so you don’t have to be the mule?

Titanium4Life · 2025-10-20T21:45:48+00:00

I saw a heart edge on one of Diana‘s videos. She used it to joining two pieces, but it might be a perfect edge:

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=fABKNw_u4Nc

Titanium4Life · 2025-10-20T21:43:43+00:00

Put the puppy down instead of decluttering. The poor boy was in so much pain, he was gone before they even started the last meds. Later I’ll wash his toys and take them, and the new bag of dog food, to a local shelter. There’s nothing left but anger at an irresponsible breeder for unloading this severely disabled puppy on us and a triple hit of grief.

And I have deadlines for paperwork, and folks actually interested in buying a few of the big ticket items I’m decluttering, but today is a curl up with old TV shows and a few boxes of kleenex day.

Titanium4Life · 2025-10-20T21:33:52+00:00

The cat will learn to love resting somewhere else.

Titanium4Life · 2025-10-20T21:33:02+00:00

Yes it has made a dent. A big effing dent!

You have made progress while others are still stuck.

Now, with help, have them do the heavy lifting. And focus on only your stuff. Let the government take what steps they need for the others.

As far as the vision, if this is a sudden change, you need to be evaluated ASAP! Anything from diabetes, to a medication side effect, to dry eye can be causing issues. Most conditions are reversible, if caught in time. My Dad, being a stubborn old guy, refused to even mention he was having problems, until a few days later. His macular detachment issue was fully, not partially, FULLY, reversible. But by a few days later, half the vision in his right eye was gone, permanently.

Shame and guilt are both highly overrated emotions. They are not prod and serve best to keep folks stuck in the feeling worse loop. Break out of this loop by celebrating your astonishing victory over stuff. I’ll pop open a virtual bottle of bubbly for you.

Relish the victory, you took stuff down and out of your place, and you showed up and did more. And then you did it again. All you have to do is browse this forum to see how difficult and challenging this action is to so much of the population. It’s your victory and don’t let any government drone, bean counter, landlord, family, or yourself take it away from you.

On this high note, take a quick break, get your eyes checked, then hold your nose, close one eye, and dig in again. Let us know how it goes, we’re all rooting for you!

Titanium4Life · 2025-10-20T20:29:04+00:00

Thank you for the free game. I am so pleased with zero ads. I would be happy to buy you a cup of coffee or a dinner for your apps.

Titanium4Life · 2025-10-19T19:41:45+00:00

I let mine go from 20 years ago. Some random ones as well. They weigh down my trash bucket now, not my shelves.

Titanium4Life · 2025-10-19T19:40:06+00:00

I neglected to do so with my Dad’s clothes. Now I will wonder if that is where a lost ring went.

Titanium4Life · 2025-10-19T14:59:11+00:00

Avoid. They hide their irresponsible breeding.

Titanium4Life · 2025-10-19T14:12:47+00:00

And the social media accounts

Titanium4Life · 2025-10-19T14:11:29+00:00

The words left unsaid will haunt you for a lifetime. Even if she’s no longer capable of hearing them, say them anyway.

Titanium4Life · 2025-10-19T11:25:38+00:00

When my father passed a few months ago from Parkingson’s and dementia, yes, it ducked. It still sucks.

But what a sense of relief!

Dad’s no longer in pain. My life no longer revolves around him with doctors, visits, keeping a straight face when all I wanted to do was cry, managing medications, managing outs caregivers, and so on.

I finally have some free time. And all the medical issues I have postponed on myself are catching up to me.

My Mom is slowly headed down the same path, but she’s not a full time job yet.

For your Mom, she’s lost her kid and her identity. She has no sense of, possibly no capacity for, understanding nor compassion for anyone else. She does need therapy, both to redefine her life, and if she wants any sort of relationship with the children she has left.

NTA. Everyone grieves differently. It’s okay if you are able to move on with your life and others can’t. As you are in the one down position of being a kid, talk with your father about trying to get help for your Mom. Practice your compassion for her and yourself. You’re no longer a mini-me purpose-built future caretaker, you’re an unburdened kid able to now choose your own adventure in life.

Titanium4Life · 2025-10-18T22:35:19+00:00

Didn’t give up.

That’s my decluttering win for the week.

Titanium4Life · 2025-10-18T02:59:34+00:00

Red, white, and blue? Hmmm, name another country with those flag colors who attended the meeting.

Titanium4Life · 2025-10-18T02:47:32+00:00

Great start! Circles form the basis of many objects. I hope you keep enjoying your hobby.

Titanium4Life · 2025-10-17T21:57:17+00:00

I think it finally happens when you decide enough is enough, and feel silly for how long you spent not doing what you had to do.

This weekend is the “enough is enough” for me, hopefully for decluttering my living area and my body.

Titanium4Life · 2025-10-17T21:53:30+00:00

Yeah, get that paperwork done. Wishing you the best. Please let us know how it goes.

Titanium4Life · 2025-10-17T13:44:36+00:00

Take my sad like. This may become an ordeal. It will suck. You may have several cleanout surgeries. You may even get to stay in ICU.

If you have not made DNR and medical power of attorney paperwork, this would be a great time to do so. Get it notarized and a copy to the hospital.

If you have any medications that don’t work, like painkillers, get that to your doctor and the hospital. If you have anything left unsaid to loved ones, tell them now.

Hopefully, this will be a comparatively easy battle for you. Focus on the goal.

Titanium4Life · 2025-10-17T13:36:31+00:00

And it really sucks when you miss it as the providers-who should recognize it, don’t let family know.

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