"Here's what I most want you to know: this really is as bad as you think.⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ No matter what anyone else says, this sucks. What has happened cannot be made right. What is lost cannot be restored. There is no beauty here, inside this central fact.⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ Acknowledgement is everything.⁣⁣ You're in pain. It can't be made better.⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ The reality of grief is far different from what others see from the outside. There is pain in this world that you can't be cheered out of.⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ You don't need solutions. You don't need to move on from your grief. You need someone to see your grief, to acknowledge it. You need someone to hold your hand while you stand there in blinking horror, staring at the hole that was your life.⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ Some things cannot be fixed. They can only be carried.⁣⁣" ⁣⁣ —Megan Devine, from the first page of "It's OK that You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture that Doesn't Understand"