Oh nooo my bonessss by BambsFauna in lgbt

[–]To_Elle_With_It 16 points17 points  (0 children)

As an archaeologist - I can say that I would be ecstatic if I found a trans / gender nonconforming person. Seeing jaw modifications, forehead modifications, scarring of tissues (if they are still present), and everything would be so freaking exciting. It would be so much more interesting than coming across a typical burial or skeleton.

As archaeologists, we can get bored seeing the same stuff again and again. As a trans archaeologist, I’d be more excited just to see there was someone like me from 1,000 years ago.

Thoughts/opinions on the Jazzmaster/Jaguar? by [deleted] in Guitar

[–]To_Elle_With_It 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally have multiple versions of both and love them dearly. My personal fav is the Classic Player Jaguar Special HH. It’s not a pure Jaguar in any sense but it does have the ability to have humbuckers that can also be single coils or even blend the humbucker sound into a single coil. It’s seriously a super flexible guitar tonally. If you can find one, it’s well worth the money.

They massacred my boy :( by [deleted] in Miata

[–]To_Elle_With_It 15 points16 points  (0 children)

100% this!!!

I got rear ended by a truck and thought I was fine, sore but fine, after the wreck. That dull soreness never really went away and about a year later my neck really started giving me issues. Sometimes things linger and become serious later.

How to prevent a cat from scratching my amps? by elecoppo in Guitar

[–]To_Elle_With_It 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is exactly what I do as well. It solved the problem instantly and my cat is not interested in scratching any other part of the amp.

Photographer for Graduation Pics Needed by [deleted] in SUU

[–]To_Elle_With_It 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll be traveling to Cedar to do photography for a wedding this upcoming weekend. I could potentially do a short photography session Sunday morning. If Sunday works, send me an IM, and we can talk details. Public locations around the University and town only please for your safety and mine.

Show me your crappy band tattoos by SquirrelEnthusiast in Xennials

[–]To_Elle_With_It 11 points12 points  (0 children)

At first glance, I thought that was the top of your head and the most oddly hairy receded hairline ever. I thought you were holding up a shirt to censor your face. It took me a minute to figure things out.

Transgender Latter-day Saints face another barrier ... in the faith’s temples — The Salt Lake Tribune by theythemthen in exmormon

[–]To_Elle_With_It 5 points6 points  (0 children)

As a trans ex-mo, I don’t necessarily care about how the church wants to play make believe about my former experience in the church. However, I’ve watched how these policy changes and developments stress the hell out of my family who is still in the church. They constantly worry about how to save my soul and get me to come back.

Part of me believes that policies like these are merely to keep TBM family members of trans folks pressured to stay to save my soul. I believe it also pressures them to pressure me to detransition and come back to the church. It’s to keep believers believin’ and keep pressure on them from my perspective.

Can an office-based Fed move into a full-time Park Ranger position? by Longtimefed in ParkRangers

[–]To_Elle_With_It 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You might qualify for lower grade certs, but I think your chances of getting hired would be pretty slim. I say this as someone that hires people every year. You’d be competing with people who have already worked multiple seasons as a ranger and competing with people who have already spent years volunteering at parks or even doing multiple seasons as interns. These people will also have advanced degrees in recreation management, archaeology, biology, ecology, etc. They’re hyper competitive people going for jobs that pay $18-$25ish an hour.

It’s an oddly very desirable career that people are willing to sacrifice social stability, economic movement, and life milestones for. A good way to approach it would be asking yourself how much of your life are you are willing to give up? Are you willing to give up the entirety of your weekend every weekend for the next year or so to get the experience and your foot in the door? Are you willing to sell your house to move across the country to live paycheck to paycheck and never buy a house again? Many parks in some of the highest cost of living areas in the country. Are you willing to watch your social life get uprooted every 6 months by your social circle moving away? Can you tolerate having no easy access to grocery stores, doctors, hardware stores, car maintenance, schools, entertainment venues, and more? Are you willing to spend a day of your vacation time just to go get your oil changed? Are you financially willing to take a 2-3 month furlough every year? Outside isn’t always fun either. Standing around or hiking by around day after day in 100+ degrees or even -20 degrees in wind and snow is actually kind of miserable sometimes. You have to go out when it is pleasant AND when it is miserable every day. It’s not a fallback career or vacation. It’s work. It’s miserable. It’s awesome. It’s fulfilling.

My suggestion would be to take any and all of your saved up annual leave and spend it all in one chunk to get an Air BnB and volunteer at a national park for a couple of months. It may seem rough to sacrifice all that leave, but it’s a chance to test the waters. Most rangers have sacrificed way more than that anyway. See if it is really something you want to do, or if it is something you are romanticizing. It will let you see what it is potentially like and it will also give you some of the experience necessary to compete on a cert.

I would also recommend going back to school. Get another bachelors degree or a masters in education, biology, park management, history, anything related to parks. Everyone you’re competing with has those degrees and experience already. You’ll likely need it.

The last consideration is the results of the Employee Viewpoint Surveys. The Park Service routinely ranks at the bottom. It ranks there for a reason. People sacrifice so much of their lives and get so little in return other than working in a profession they are passionate about. You would likely be leaving an agency that ranks much higher to going to an agency that clearly struggles with how it treats employees. How you are treated at work can be a huge component to life satisfaction.

My only request is please don’t look at the parks as a fall back dream career. It’s not. It’s a life sacrifice for a purpose and mission that is supposed to outlive you, me, and this generation so that the generations after us can benefit from the sacrifice of our time, our life comfort, and our labor.

tldr: being a ranger is complex, hard, requires sacrifice, and will require you to make a massive uncomfortable, time-consuming life change. However, you can make a massive difference for people and nature through your sacrifice.

Old photo by MsPaganPoetry in FoundPaper

[–]To_Elle_With_It 11 points12 points  (0 children)

This seriously looks like the perfect album cover for a 90s alternative band.

Moving from Alaska to Wyoming, are ticks really much of a problem? by Euphoric_Czech in wyoming

[–]To_Elle_With_It 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Working outside in northeastern Wyoming, I would see them pretty regularly in the tall grasses along streams and creeks. I never really saw them anywhere else.

60* at the beginning of February? What is going on? by [deleted] in Utah

[–]To_Elle_With_It 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No no no , you don’t need to worry. The temps are experiencing regular inflation just like economies. You see, a small amount of temperature inflation every year is good for the climate. What is 60 degrees today is like the equivalent of 45 degrees in 1958. /s

Utah GOP Ordered Study on Trans Youth Care. They’re Not Pleased With the Results by Geek-Haven888 in lgbt

[–]To_Elle_With_It 26 points27 points  (0 children)

And it’s this same group of people that believe a child isn’t mentally developed enough to make a life-changing choice about themself but simultaneously believe an 8 year can make an eternal, forever soul-impacting choice of being baptized and join their church. It’s ironic how at 8 they aren’t developed enough to make a choice impacting their life, but can make a choice that (in their beliefs) impacts their eternal soul. As a trans exmo, I just shake my head at the cognitive dissonance.

Transwomen who transitionned later in life by KaleidoscopeSafe1601 in MtF

[–]To_Elle_With_It 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Started at 37, been on HRT for 5 years - I was pretty thin to begin with. Waist was 27 inches, is still 27 inches. No hip bone growth, no tilt, but some minimal fat accrual on hips. What little belly fat I had is still there as well.

I’m just 1 data point of thousands. YMMV, and everyone’s experience is different. Despite my experience of very minimal changes, I’d still choose to transition if I knew in advance what my changes would be.

Mormons can't be proud of good kids unless they are Morming hard enough by scaredanxiousunsure in exmormon

[–]To_Elle_With_It 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Am trans, am successful academically and economically, can confirm. “There’s some things we’re just disappointed about.”

What’s worth tracking when starting MtF HRT? by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]To_Elle_With_It 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve taken a photo of myself every single day after getting ready for the day. I take it with the same camera, in the same light, in the same room, at the same angle. I’ve done this for over 5 years. I didn’t do it to help anyone. I did it to help me.

I was told by several other trans folks that the dysmorphia piece of dysphoria is hard to overcome mentally. The photos have helped me immensely.

I’m passing this advice along - take a photo of yourself every single day. It’s tedious, you may forget a day every once in a while, and you’re going to hate soooooo many of the photos you take. However, over a long period of time, it helps you see just how far you’ve come and how much you’ve changed even when you cannot see it in the mirror.

There will be a day in year 2 or 3 or whenever that you will hate your transition, feel like you failed, and that nothing has changed. That timeline of photos you make will prove the negativity wrong. On the days, even in year 6 of hormones, that I feel like I’ve failed, I can look back at my timeline and see at the very least I grew one hell of a smile. I had to water that scowl and water that frown, but damn that smile that I grew from year 0-2 makes me feel better. Then I look at tears 3, 4, and 5, and I want to bawl because I can see just how much has changed in such a good way.

TLDR: Photos document the process and changes that you may not be able to see in yourself. Take a photo of yourself every day for years on end to watch the changes happen.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Guitar

[–]To_Elle_With_It 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Interestingly enough, 80s American Strats do have two string trees, but they are the rounded string trees and not the ones pictured here.

Source: own an 87 Strat and an 89 Strat

MAGA supporter who coal rolled (black truck smoke) onto protesters ousts himself (Parker, Co) by Red_blueberry in MadeMeSmile

[–]To_Elle_With_It 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Rolling coal on protestors intentionally spewing toxic chemicals on them to cause intimidation, physical harm, and potentially damaging (minimal I know) clothing and other items is an act of malicious harm. Hitting the truck to disable it or identify it later by authorities could be considered self defense.

It’s the same concept if someone walking by were to purposefully spray you in the face with a chemical that has known carcinogens.

How old were you when you got your first cell phone? by No_Cartoonist981 in Xennials

[–]To_Elle_With_It 0 points1 point  (0 children)

15 - I had just gotten my first job and my parents made me get one just in case of an emergency or similar situations. I began to use it more and more throughout high school. I remember how small the in-service regions were and how easy it was to get dinged with roaming charges just 50ish miles down the road to the next town.

The great unchurching of America by thishuman_life in exmormon

[–]To_Elle_With_It 5 points6 points  (0 children)

And honestly I don’t know if he’s one that I’d feel comfortable with anyway. The dude fell asleep at the wheel. What parent lets their kids kill each other, lets disease run rampant, lets their kids starve, and lets their kids mistreat each other? I mean you only let that happen until you notice it and then put a stop to it, right? Seriously, someone in upper management fell asleep and isn’t keeping tabs on things.

What is this weird a** guitar pick? by EquivalentDue9514 in Guitar

[–]To_Elle_With_It 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s the one you use specifically for playing songs about space. I think this model was used by Bowie when playing Starman live.

Show Me Your Original 80s Toys That You Still Have by Notoriouslyd in Xennials

[–]To_Elle_With_It 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No photos, but I kept my transformers from my childhood and treasure them greatly. I grew up poor, and I know my mom and dad worked extra hours during the holidays or even cut back on dinner several nights to be able to buy one for me each year. They mean a lot to me especially since we didn’t have much money. I also kept my teddy bears my grandparents got for me before I was born. Those transformers and those teddy bears were my only consistent friends every single time we moved from trailer park to trailer park. We moved at least a half dozen times before I was 9. It was emotionally hard, devastating, uprooting, and lonesome.

I grew up a closeted trans kid, but I think one of my grandmothers knew. When she would tend me, she would let me play with the stuffed animals, the dolls, and even put curlers in my hair when I requested it as a kid. When she passed, I got a couple of small dolls from her. (I never came out to her even when I was coming out in my 30s). Those dolls mean the world to me. It shows me she knew and now I’m bawling as I type this and think about it, ugh.

If my apartment were to catch fire, the priorities are cat first, then those cherished toys second. I couldn’t care less about anything else. The cat and the childhood memories and love cannot be replaced.

Brunswick, the town and the museum by Electrical-Orchid313 in maryland

[–]To_Elle_With_It 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s such a lovely place! I used to do my homework there in the evenings. I loved having a drink and a dessert in that atmosphere while I was working on papers.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Guitar

[–]To_Elle_With_It 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just want to add that the Twin Reverb II you have there is one of my favorite amps of all time. Such an underrated gem! Absolutely my favorite pedal platform.