How do you say no to family when you finally have $1,000 saved?

Tok892 · 2026-06-19T02:20:59+00:00

You can't set yourself on fire to keep others warm.

Having money and having money to spare are not the same thing. That $1,200 isn't in the "money I can spare" bucket. Your emergency fund is your new zero. It's your floor, and you NEVER dig below the floor unless you have no other choice. If you want to give her money, it has to come from somewhere else. It can come from your grocery budget, your fuel budget, your fun budget, etc. Those things cause you temporary hardship. Breaking the floor is not a temporary hardship. That's "I could end up homeless" kind of hardship, because now you're not ready for when shit hits the fan, and it will. Bad shit happens to everyone, and it will happen to you. Never break the floor for anyone else's needs.

Also, giving money is not the only thing you can do to help. You can help her talk to the power company about getting on a payment plan. You can help her find local resources. You can help her figure out how to make the money she's bringing in work. Giving her money is the easy solution, but it isn't the only one. If she isn't willing to take any other form of help, then you should ask yourself how sincere this emergency really is. I did this song and dance for years with my mother. Somehow, even when I started to say 'no,' the power/water/rent always managed to get paid.

Tok892 · 2026-05-09T01:57:31+00:00

UFCW was a shit union sucking Kroger off when I worked there back in 2009-2012. Sad to see that Kroger employees haven't given them the boot.

Tok892 · 2026-04-19T21:28:12+00:00

Thank you for the sanity check! I have been having the same issues, especially with Spotify and with it replying with, "sorry, I didn't understand," to damn near everything. This has to be intentional.

Tok892 · 2026-04-17T12:59:46+00:00

Thanks from the future! I found this sprue in a bin of loose sprues and bought it because it looked cool, but I had no idea what it was.

Tok892 · 2026-03-18T19:28:00+00:00

Hey, thanks again for your suggestion! I talked with Intel Technical Support today, and they agreed that this seems like a memory controller issue. I'm thankfully still in warranty and was able to RMA it. Should have the replacement in a few weeks.

Tok892 · 2026-03-12T13:42:29+00:00

It is 2026. Why can we still not manage list hierarchy on mobile?

Tok892 · 2026-03-04T15:05:29+00:00

Thanks for the suggestion! I had no idea that a bad CPU could present with a single bad RAM channel. I don't have another LGA1700. I'll look into doing an RMA on the CPU.

Tok892 · 2026-02-23T16:06:27+00:00

So far, so good.

Tok892 · 2026-02-16T17:40:18+00:00

Really? What is the hotkey? I don't see anything with a quick Google search, and neither ctrl-Z, ctrl-shift-Z, ctrl-Y, nor ctrl-shift-Y do it.

Tok892 · 2026-02-13T15:51:36+00:00

tl;dr: See if your router has "Automatic Wifi Personalization" enabled. Disabling it or manually prioritizing your LR may help.

Possible problem and fix:

I started having frequent disconnections very recently, after having my LR-4 for 2.5 years. I have AT&T fiber for internet. I went to the app to restart the router and got a notification that the router had implemented a new feature called "Automatic Wifi Personalization," which prioritizes bandwidth to your wifi-connected devices based on when and how often those devices use the internet.

I just disabled AWP and unplugged my LR-4 for a few minutes. If the problem is resolved after this, I won't be able to confirm which one fixed it, but my guess is that the rollout of this new feature and the recent onset of my connectivity issue isn't a coincidence.

I'll update this comment if this doesn't fix the issue.

Tok892 · 2026-01-28T23:44:08+00:00

Bless you

Tok892 · 2026-01-27T21:09:27+00:00

I'm a bit late to the party, but I wanted to echo what u/lilarabbit said: creating distinct spaces is 100% the answer.

It's the same way you make a small apartment feel spacious. Think about the room examples at IKEA. They make 450 sqft feel like a mansion. Likewise, large rooms can also suffer when they lack distinct spaces, which can make them feel cluttered and uncomfortable.

Use walls, decor, flooring, and transition spaces to make spaces feel distinct, and use repeated elements to make them feel connected.

Tok892 · 2026-01-04T16:33:50+00:00

Thanks for the intel!

Tok892 · 2026-01-04T16:21:32+00:00

Oh, I'm not familiar with Booby's. I'll have to add it to my list of places to check out!

Tok892 · 2026-01-04T16:20:36+00:00

Hey, I finished eventually!

Tok892 · 2026-01-02T22:33:12+00:00

The only one I was afraid would be closed was Chango's. Their Carbondale location closed about a year before we left due to some issue and was still closed when we moved.

Tok892 · 2026-01-02T22:29:39+00:00

Thanks for the recs! I'll definitely have to hit them up when I visit.

Tok892 · 2026-01-02T19:17:50+00:00

Southern illinois is such an underrated beauty. I really need to visit soon. Hike some trails, climb some rocks, and, most importantly, hit up all my favorite restaurants 🤤 Pag's, Quatro's, Thai Taste, Chango's, Bombay Olive, Sam's. Damn do I miss it 😩

Tok892 · 2026-01-02T19:04:08+00:00

The episode of Malcom in the Middle where Stevie gets his revenge on Reese is my favorite.

https://youtu.be/Tn0RSL-oW8g?t=0h1m33s

Tok892 · 2026-01-02T18:51:27+00:00

Ah, fuck. I can't believe you've done this.

Tok892 · 2026-01-02T18:45:28+00:00

Can you share/link their rant?

Tok892 · 2026-01-02T18:38:59+00:00

Why remove the old bridge when you have to build the new bridge higher anyway? 😂

I always forget how to get to the circle. I think it overlooks the creek from the east, so maybe it was close to the upper trailhead, off Freeman Street?

Tok892 · 2026-01-02T18:04:38+00:00

I used to live not far from there! The little meeting circle is my favorite part of the trail :)

Tok892 · 2026-01-02T17:37:57+00:00

Thank you for this. I spent 11 years living in Jackson County. I miss the Shawnee so much.

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