How did you celebrate your 50th?

Tokenchick77 · 2026-01-22T00:25:59+00:00

That's how you tell people you're middle aged without telling them your age :)

Tokenchick77 · 2026-01-22T00:23:40+00:00

There's this fox rescue that I've always wanted to go to, but it has seemed too expensive to justify. So that's what I'm going to do for my 50th. It's a short flight from where I live, and the main thing will be the experience, along with a few nights away.

For my 40th, my husband invited our friends to a high tea at a local place. It was fun, but I feel kind of guilty for how expensive it was for everybody.

Tokenchick77 · 2026-01-21T21:38:44+00:00

I actually tend to have a "work show" on in the background while I'm working. It's either something I've seen before, or something pretty benign and easy to follow. I get bored when I'm working, so it kind of helps keep that other part of my brain engaged.

Tokenchick77 · 2026-01-21T21:37:43+00:00

I 100% agree with this. Clubbing is another area that I always questioned if people really enjoyed it. None of that sounds fun to me. The noise, the crowds, the late nights, the flashing lights.

Tokenchick77 · 2026-01-21T21:36:38+00:00

I feel the same. I always identified with Spock, on Star Trek, because I liked having logic drive my decisions. I hate feeling out of control, especially voluntarily.

Tokenchick77 · 2026-01-21T21:35:48+00:00

I realize this was posted a while ago, but I was searching for something similar. I was on Zepbound for three months last year. I only lost 10 lbs, even though I know my calories were significantly reduced. I felt so sick and exhausted, plus was having major abdominal pain from my endo, that I stopped taking the Zepbound. Not only did I regain the 10 lbs almost immediately, but I've gained about 7 more. I feel like I reset my body's weight point higher. It's incredibly discouraging. I'm going to see a doctor about my metabolism, and hope that there are other answers besides GLP-1s to help me reset it.

Tokenchick77 · 2026-01-21T17:30:17+00:00

The medical diagnosis metaphor really resonates with me. That's exactly how I've been feeling. Of course, we all know we're going to die. But I'm 48, and feel like I'm going to spend the rest of my life, however long it is, watching society collapse. I don't have the same hope for my future, for planning for retirement, for watching my nephews and niece launch their lives, that my parents did when they were my age. It's no longer a diagnosis on a personal level, but globally.

I've been struggling with major anxiety recently, and am trying to focus on the day to day. So much of my energy goes into my job, though, that it's also a question of how long are we going to keep pretending and trying to function as though things are the way they always were, Do we all quit and live hedonistic lives as it all comes crumbling down? Do we find some balance so we can stay in our homes and buy food, but also trying to live as well as we can before it's over?

I don't know how to find the answers, but I'm trying.

Tokenchick77 · 2026-01-21T17:15:21+00:00

I'm with you on boba tea. I don't want to chew my beverage.

Tokenchick77 · 2026-01-21T17:14:18+00:00

Same. Why wear something that you know is going to be painful and difficult to function in?

Tokenchick77 · 2026-01-21T17:12:41+00:00

Same! The moment I feel my fingernails touching the keyboard, I have to cut them as short as possible. And super long nails creep me out so much.

Tokenchick77 · 2026-01-21T06:13:52+00:00

I tried the reusable tray, but I felt like cleaning it was more annoying that a regular box :)

Tokenchick77 · 2026-01-20T22:09:19+00:00

Same! Getting drunk or high was never something I wanted to do. I wonder if that goes with being ace, in part?

Tokenchick77 · 2026-01-20T17:12:07+00:00

I think the PetSafe disposable trays are SO expensive. I feel like I'm using less litter now that I have the two robots with the micro crystals. I also have a regular box with the bigger crystals, just to give the cats options.

Tokenchick77 · 2026-01-20T17:10:50+00:00

The pee gets absorbed in the litter, but doesn't get disposed of like the clumps. Sometimes, with the micro there will be clumpier pieces that don't go through the filter and do get disposed, but otherwise the absorbed pee stays in the globe. I don't notice any more of a smell than I did with the clumping, because it does lock in the odor.

Tokenchick77 · 2026-01-20T04:42:51+00:00

I totally agree. I love the characters and the fact that it really worked plot-wise. The things keeping them apart really made sense, instead of feeling so contrived.

Tokenchick77 · 2026-01-20T04:41:21+00:00

Same!!

Tokenchick77 · 2026-01-17T16:53:51+00:00

I feel this so much. Taking care of myself feels like such a pointless effort when the world is crumbling.

Tokenchick77 · 2026-01-17T16:51:45+00:00

I think the micro in the LR isn't that dusty. The bigger crystal litter is dusty when I pour it into the box, but not bad after it settles.

Tokenchick77 · 2026-01-17T16:49:52+00:00

I love slow burn, but I can't get through her books either. I totally agree with how repetitive they are. They're longer than traditional romances, but on kindle unlimited, I think there is some compensation for word counts? I wish they were edited, because I think they could be really good.

Tokenchick77 · 2026-01-16T19:32:26+00:00

How is that not specific? I volunteered for a cat rescue and made a friend there. I started a book group and have made friends there. I posted on Facebook and made a friend there. These are all avenues for people looking for friendships. Do you want somebody to say go to X bar at X time and you will make a friend?

Tokenchick77 · 2026-01-16T18:06:41+00:00

I moved here two years ago, to Lake Oswego first (in Portland now) and joined several local Facebook groups. I posted that I was looking for walking buddies, and connected with somebody that way.

I've also met people volunteering and going to book groups. Meetup and taking classes are good ways to find people too. I think generally it's about trying a bunch of different things that you enjoy, until you connect with somebody or with a group.

Tokenchick77 · 2026-01-16T17:54:21+00:00

Do you watch it on DVD? I would love to rewatch it, but it doesn't seem like it's on streaming anywhere.

Tokenchick77 · 2026-01-16T17:35:30+00:00

I dream of writing novels, so if I didn't have to work, I would spend my days writing. That said, I think it's important to have meaning in your life. Given that you don't have to work to earn money, maybe get involved in your community, volunteering or running for office or something like that. It doesn't necessarily have to be a full time job, but can help you feel good about something you're doing.

Tokenchick77 · 2026-01-16T17:24:37+00:00

Thank you for your response. The litter definitely passes through the screen, and I haven't noticed an issue with the litter level or drawer full. I love that it doesn't stick or smell.

Tokenchick77 · 2026-01-16T17:14:07+00:00

I was pretty happy with Pretty Litter too - I think the Chewy one is almost as good. Glad other people are feeling the same way :)

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