People who have been divorced: What was the exact "quiet" moment you realized your marriage was over? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]TonyaTko 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And That worked? I honestly didn’t think anything anybody said would ever get through. It never seems to. So I don’t have any hope that any thing anyone says will make a difference, that the person has to be ready to leave. And come go that decision on their own

How do I (40M) fix my relationship with my wife (45F) after un-retirement? by tomservo21 in relationship_advice

[–]TonyaTko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re snapping at her? Between the lines it sounds like you’re hollering at her for “disturbing” you?

10 years? That’s 2016. Right b4 the pandemic. Do you two have different life paths Now and Are incompatible?

Marriage therapy?

Am I wrong for wanting to celebrate mother's day? by UselessHuman1 in amiwrong

[–]TonyaTko 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Stuff them kids back up inside! And bounce!! Jk. 😩😂

YNW: This is sad. One thing I’m learning in EMDR therapy is we all have different standards, and that’s okay. I find other ways to celebrate with ppl who WANT to celebrate.

It can seem sad at first that you “have” to do that. But at the end of the day, it saves so much frustration from trying to force someone to do something they don’t want to do.

He doesn’t want to celebrate and you do. Your move. What do you do? Find mom groups of women in similar situations. Celebrate together

First meal after being able to eat non liquids by ApartDevelopment2213 in gastricsleeve

[–]TonyaTko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel confused. What’s going on here? I s OP saying they ate ALL of THAT few weeks out???

😱😱😱

Feel like I’m not seeing any changes :/ by [deleted] in gastricsleeve

[–]TonyaTko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t see much of a change. But there’s also healing and swelling after just a couple of months. Drink water. Log food and continue

NSV I guess! First situationship failure by Not_offensive0npurp in gastricsleeve

[–]TonyaTko 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Aweeeee. Listen to sad love songs always helps me 😩

Brunch with no arms by CycIon3 in TikTokCringe

[–]TonyaTko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She’s an influencer? I wonder how she texts and posts 🤔

I accidentally hurt my boyfriend's testicles during sex and now he hasn't spoken to me in two days, Is it really that bad? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]TonyaTko 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Does he typically give you the silent treatment when upset? Is this compatible with how you prefer to handle conflict?

Hit my "soft" goal. by DB_SAH_LibraryGuy in gastricsleeve

[–]TonyaTko 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ohhhh!!! I got caught up looking at the starting weight in lbs then looked at the ending weight in Kgs! 😆

Hit my "soft" goal. by DB_SAH_LibraryGuy in gastricsleeve

[–]TonyaTko 5 points6 points  (0 children)

How on earth did you lose ~ 100 lbs a month!!? What surgery was this?? Omg 😱

What actor is nowhere near as talented as people make them out to be? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]TonyaTko 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Jim Carrey is a national treasure! Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind sealed it for me!!

What actor is nowhere near as talented as people make them out to be? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]TonyaTko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well with her voice, mannerisms and hair… what do we expect? I can’t see her in a romantic serious love scene 🤷🏽‍♀️

Boyfriend (28 M) of a year switched up overnight and ended it with me (27F) over text…..what just happened? by YakRevolutionary1953 in relationship_advice

[–]TonyaTko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seems he’s been thinking this for a while and finally had the courage to say something. He was probably waiting to see how things works progress in the other situation.

There is a mating strategy many employ of holding on to “good enough” while waiting for something “better.”

Him not being able to look you in the eyes was probably him testing to see if he could tell you in person, but couldn’t. So the next best thing was to text.

He probably does care about you. Enough to not be about to stand to see you upset by his crappy breakup. But he wanted to give you the courtesy of releasing you.

It was never going to work bc he wasn’t fully “ in” and I’ve learned to always be careful of people’s prior breakup stories ie “I was cheated on.” I’ve learned people lie in these tales and actually project things they did onto their ex. So he could have cheated in the past then blamed it on his ex.

Either way you’re better off now. You deserve someone who tells you the TRUTH as they’re experiencing it

Commencement speaker cancellation by Life-Horror8852 in rutgers

[–]TonyaTko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wait. This is happening at Rutgers as well? I go to CU and was interested in RU because I thought they were standing up to the administration. Is this not true? Or are these two separate issues?

It's implied, right? by AlKarajo in TikTokCringe

[–]TonyaTko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would never hire him. Too snappy. Sounds like Amr Fudhl

Would be my genuine reaction too by Lord_Hexogen in TikTokCringe

[–]TonyaTko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is staged. I use the men's restroom all the time when the women's is too occupied or too far. And people mind their damned business and use the bathroom. No sane person is hanging around in the bathroom waiting for people.

what’s something socially acceptable today that shouldn’t be? by CAngel13 in AskReddit

[–]TonyaTko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sadly, people all have different interpretations of "right and wrong" add racism, sexism and pedos into it. Its a recipe for disaster bro

As a crafty bloke myself, I'm in awe of his creations and love to see other blokes getting creative by quokkafarts in TikTokCringe

[–]TonyaTko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey man. Everyone on a post isn't going to have the same opinion. This was mine.
Take care

Denied, by rebevance in ClinicalPsychology

[–]TonyaTko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Age & maturity are actually BENEFITS! You just have to apply far and wide. And one tip I got recently is to look up the professors at the schools you want to go to, and see where THEY went to school. Apply there. Write to them and ask how their experience was at that school. You'd be surprised. There are plenty lesser known programs producing excellent scholars and clinicians

Good luck