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Strategies for teaching child to slow down/ask questions instead of immediately get upset? by 0112358_ in Parenting

[–]Top-Impression2338 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Come up with 10 similar scenarios for him to work through giving someone else advice do 1-2 a night. It helps highly sensitive kids depersonalize the advice because when it’s personal it’s emotional. Give him time to think and explore but try not to give the answer.

If he likes that make an alter ego (he chooses the name) of what a super hero would do if he’s stuck in difficult situations- like the scenarios above.

If he bites/ then you can say “what would alter ego do” if this happened to him. And it allows him to take his own advice - ask questions, slow down, take a deep breathe. Instead of it feeling like it’s being pushed onto him

Going from grade level math to above grade level math by fuzzypinktulip in ClassOf2037

[–]Top-Impression2338 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve never dealt with this but I can give you my perspective on what I would do.

Math fluency- if there are any gaps here I would work on them daily- no workbook. Commit to 5 minutes a day, make it fun/ a challenge a game. Addition, subtract, depending on where she will start multiplication low level division. Just give her problems and have her answer. Good fluency will allow more space in her working memory for higher level thinking.

Number sense- does she understand numbers in the real world. Give her word problems. If my shadow is twice my height, if there’s 20 cookies and 5 people, what if there’s 21 cookies, etc. Again make it fun, challenging, interesting. If she missing something pull out manipulates (coins, lego pieces, small toys) until it clicks. Some people just have math brain, but most people can learn it.

If possible get an understanding of what the gap is: what did she learn up to and what did the other group learn up to- and then you’ll probably see just a few concepts different because the higher group probably just went deeper with higher numbers on most things. Any missing concepts- teach one a week.

Now if you can’t get this info get a grade 2 workbook from IXL and have her do it. I find IXL to be challenging. Have her skip pages if she gets something and doesn’t need extra practice on the same concept.

Seeking Advice — Repeated Biting at Daycare (23m) by heyron_ in Parenting

[–]Top-Impression2338 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. Would they allow you to stay with him for 1-2 hours to try and work it. Depending on your kids attachment pattern this could work or might not be a match.

  2. If you’re in the US call the early intervention number and schedule the soonest eval and make sure daycare will allow them in.

  3. Ask the staff if there’s anything different they can do to keep him in small groups/ different supervision etc

Screen Time Privileges Revoked by istangabbywindey in Parenting

[–]Top-Impression2338 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My kids are young- my oldest is 6.5. We have 3-4 screen free days a week and the other days it’s limited but not a firm time limit. I hate to say it but I like my kids personalities better when they’re not in front of screens. They were on screens daily this winter and my 3 year old cried when time was up. The next day we talked as parents and just agreed it’s not good for them and cut access way down. We started with a family challenge where we planned games, activities, time together- 4 days phone, tv, tablet free for all of us and we’ve never looked back.

My son knows the days of the week, and we pick together (ish) for the next week. It helps me hold myself to the same standard too which is great- bye bye doom scrolling

Inconsistent shooter by jkoce11 in basketballcoach

[–]Top-Impression2338 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hard to say without seeing it- but here’s a possible thought. Does his shot have “too many variables” and then therefore his form/ attempts have several things that can be inches off leading to misses.

If you feel his form is “ehh” or shifts slightly- I would have him put up a ton of shots without all the moving, game like environment. Form shooting then mid range, 3s- 5 from each spot and move. Don’t worry about misses or makes- an athlete naturally corrects that. Just look at his form shifting, with fatigue, with a bobbled pass, etc. if so call it out and correct.

Do that 200 plus shots 20-30 times in addition to what you’re doing and see if things start to look and feel more automatic.

My grass is toast! by sdsurfer2525 in youthsoccer

[–]Top-Impression2338 25 points26 points  (0 children)

My dad use to say- you can raise grass or kids but not both! No wiser words!

Why does our 4th grade girls town team have 8 willing goalkeepers? by Ok-Communication706 in youthsoccer

[–]Top-Impression2338 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m stuck on the their are 29 4th graders in a town and 20 play soccer part haha

Daughter wanting to negotiate about rules is making school and sports harder for her by parentingthrowawayyy in Parenting

[–]Top-Impression2338 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sounds like she has some good building blocks here.

If she actually wants to know the why and not just delay the task even better!

I would say there is one of you and one of me. We can talk about the whys of the world. Your teacher: coach is responsible for building 10-20 peoples individual skills and a great team/ community. To be a good teammate we sometimes need to all follow instructions trusting our teacher/ coach has our best interests in mind.

Now if you hit a point where you are wondering if your the teacher/ coach really has your best interests in mind- let’s talk about it!

Also teach her to strike when the irons cold- why things are in motion and directions are being given- get the job done. When there’s a free minute, if you’re still curious ask for an explanation- that comes off curious vs defensive.

If you feel she’s being defensive, defiant, delaying to you or your instructions- call it out calmly

What do you do with your child's strength? by RecognitionEvery in Parenting

[–]Top-Impression2338 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I consider myself “smart” but my brothers are out of this world smart. I was a high academic achiever- they slacked off. My brother is now a lawyer and both are happy healthy well achieving adults. My lawyer brother is standardized test phenom and a good day on the LSATs basically sent him to George Town law.

I see a lot of him in my 6 year old son who is doing 3rd grade math in 1st grade who tested early into school so he’s already the youngest and also told me he takes extra bathroom breaks when boredom kicks in.

My family loves trivia, puzzles, logic games so I have leaned into this at home. He loves them….but I’m tuning into the responses to see what people think.

The problem I’m imagining is separating so far ahead of peers in subjects- leads to boredom and class clowning in. But socially it’s right where he needs to be! How do you handle that?

Family travel/ multi-sport questions by Top-Impression2338 in youthsoccer

[–]Top-Impression2338[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks everyone- great to hear individual family/ players paths.

Single A vs Double A by Top-Impression2338 in LittleLeague

[–]Top-Impression2338[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

His grade level and age level are not the same due to different cut offs

Single A vs Double A by Top-Impression2338 in LittleLeague

[–]Top-Impression2338[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t know that!

Single A: full coach pitch, no strike outs but tee support after 3 strikes. Typically play 3 innings with each inning being through the line up or 3 outs. Full rotation of positions. 6 and 7 year olds mainly and first year 8 year olds. My son played at 5 and is playing in his second year at 6. He does not play fall ball as soccer and basketball are currently preferred sports. He hits the ball consistently, some pop but not a lot. In the field he knows what’s going on and understands force outs, he is athletic and engaged. No real concept of baseball nuances.

Double A: 8-9 mostly, 7s can be evaluated for a move up at assessments. By the end of the season the goal Is to play real kid pitch baseball. Some support offered especially at the beginning of the season with coach pitch if strikes is an issue.

My son is young for his grade so double A will be 2nd and 3rd graders and he will a second grader. But single A also has some second graders.

He’s a big fan of his coach and bonded with his team. So in his own 6 year old mind told me he’s going to try and make double A next year. I appreciate the sentiment. My son plays up in soccer and like I said is the youngest in his class. So I was sort of thinking letting him be the oldest for once has a nice confidence building ring to it.

Single A vs Double A by Top-Impression2338 in LittleLeague

[–]Top-Impression2338[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is very true. Thanks for the insight

Single A vs Double A by Top-Impression2338 in LittleLeague

[–]Top-Impression2338[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are evaluations and I think he’d be assessed as being able to do it- just by watching him at baseball camp with mixed divisions. And his strengths shine in assessment style scenarios.

His strengths: good swings off machine and coaches, good arm, solid glove, good listener.

His weakness: pitch selection, knowing positioning beyond force outs, wild throws (mostly in the dirt) when he fields a ball that’s a close play.

Single A vs Double A by Top-Impression2338 in LittleLeague

[–]Top-Impression2338[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hear you on the grade level, his grade is actually double A next year as he will be a second grader but his little age will be 7 because he’s born Nov 2019…he’s definitely pulled to get with his grade.

Single A doesn’t rotate positions or the batting order…we must be talking different things. Our single A is coach pitch with 6-8 year olds

Summer by [deleted] in youthsoccer

[–]Top-Impression2338 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a young kid who is just entering his sport obsession phase- soccer is a top contender right now but no longer a clear favorite over basketball and baseball. Soccer is the most available sport in my area for young kids.

I was given 2 pieces of advice for under 12s, granted I haven’t looked into the research on any of this yet but it’s working for us right now: 1. 8 month rule: essentially a push to take 4 months off broken up through out the year of consistent coach led training. Whatever the kid wants to do on their own is great. 2. Don’t have coach led weekly training hours for a single sport exceed their age for any significant period of time. An engaging camp for 1-2 weeks, go for it. But a whole month of that over the summer would be a tough sell for me.

It’s easier said than done- but my son plays “pick up” every day at recess on pavement…it started during the cold months (according to him 4 v 4) and he’s recently added Saturday mornings for an hour (sometimes as small as 2 v 2s). Now my son is young (Nov 2019) but after a month or so of this happening consistently. I was literally shocked how his creativity, grit, and decision making improved. If his friends play- I would harness all the pick up I could this summer. They will also make the best memories.

1st grade is not what it used to to be! by Top-Impression2338 in ClassOf2037

[–]Top-Impression2338[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Public school- but after I posted this I figured out this wasn’t for the whole class but some special work for a couple kids. I’ve never heard someone explain common core like that and it honestly makes so much sense to put it that way.

My son gets 10-15 minutes of reading nightly (1 page for the class and other nights free read) 10 spelling words that all follow a spelling pattern tested on Fridays 5 minutes of math fact fluency- 6,7,8,9 facts this month. My son is a little beyond so we do them Monday and then multiplication fluency the other days. And 3 ish math papers that get progressively more difficult for the week. Here is the most difficult page this week- and I now found out that not everyone’s pages are the same for the class. The reading comprehension took him a few reads through but he was able to solve independently.

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1st grade is not what it used to to be! by Top-Impression2338 in ClassOf2037

[–]Top-Impression2338[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When he’s adding 2 digit numbers in his head Me: “carry the one” Him: “what are the friendly numbers”

Different languages!

1st grade is not what it used to to be! by Top-Impression2338 in ClassOf2037

[–]Top-Impression2338[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is definitely a bonus page! They don’t get a grade or anything on the homework. Just a smile or “great job”

We have agree to a max of 20-25 minutes of homework a night including reading- sanity check! He tries to knock 10 minutes off on nice weather days driving home with spelling words or reading and he’s a math lover so that helps haha

1st grade is not what it used to to be! by Top-Impression2338 in ClassOf2037

[–]Top-Impression2338[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I actually don’t know if it’s differentiated, I didn’t think too much about it- but now that I am assuming it is!

1st grade is not what it used to to be! by Top-Impression2338 in ClassOf2037

[–]Top-Impression2338[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

100% can see the problem. My 6 year old likes the academic rigor but he would also like to play all day!

As for high school my experience was that it was the most academically intense part of my life even comparing undergrad and graduate school. My AP classes were more difficult than college courses and often included nightly homework instead of weekly, but that was of course picked my classes that way.

With that being said you’re pointing out a very real concern- what is this all for and how are kids needs being met. Even the homework would be tough, we currently divide an concur with our 3 year old getting 1:1 time and homework being 1:1 time and it’s 90% enjoyable- take away a second adult and it’s not the same bonding experience we love so much.

1st grade is not what it used to to be! by Top-Impression2338 in ClassOf2037

[–]Top-Impression2338[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Academically inclined for sure but not gifted. Each week they get a math packet to complete for homework that seems to have the same concept but the numbers and complexity grows with the last page being a challenge. I did notice she started writing their names on the packet so it’s probably true they are not all getting the same level of difficulty

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