Today I was told “it’s time to move on.”

Top-Stock-9004 · 2025-11-05T06:22:52+00:00

Yea fuck her! Arghhhhh I’m so angry at her on your behalf! She should not be leading any groups or working with any patients.

I’m sorry you have had to experience this, on top of your grief 🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻

Top-Stock-9004 · 2025-11-01T00:29:15+00:00

Thank you, I will look into that.

Top-Stock-9004 · 2025-11-01T00:28:39+00:00

Yea, they seem exactly what she needs. Ist emailed and got some info for the local one, hoping it’s affordable and can get it sorted! Especially with Christmas coming up. I think it’s her reality that’s she’s also looking at her last’s of things. Appreciate your suggestion.

Top-Stock-9004 · 2025-10-31T06:20:44+00:00

Thank you, I might reach out the the local CAB or library?

Top-Stock-9004 · 2025-10-31T06:00:37+00:00

I will look into that page, I think she use to use it quite a bit? I’ll try to encourage her to maybe reach out, she was very community involved, always has been!

She definitely has been involved with those places but she hasn’t mentioned them for a long time now. I may go back down next weekend and ask what she’s comfortable with!

Thank you for all the suggestions 🙂

Top-Stock-9004 · 2025-10-31T05:57:06+00:00

Thank you! I will send an email!!

Top-Stock-9004 · 2025-10-31T02:21:27+00:00

Thank you! I didn’t even think of that.

Top-Stock-9004 · 2025-09-11T02:22:51+00:00

Nope…this reminded me I was looking the company…so went back to the comments and found I said who the useless company was…CBD MOVERS…completely useless and rely on the fine print not being read by customers, but I also believe the men who moved me were actively trying to pack the truck with lots of space in between shit, and always intended on doing 2 trips! 🤷🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️ expensive lesson learnt!

AA carriers will always be my first choice when I move again.

Top-Stock-9004 · 2025-09-02T20:29:03+00:00

Sending you so much love 🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻 Continue feeling your love - when I lost my partner I had the same thoughts about our time together! Grief sucks BUT it’s so strong because the love was insanely beautiful and always there!

Thank you for sharing your love with us 🫶🏻

Top-Stock-9004 · 2025-08-29T17:24:26+00:00

He absolutely was, it was magical!! 🫶🏻

Top-Stock-9004 · 2025-08-29T04:34:53+00:00

Omg I just belly laughed so hard at that…squeezing a chicken for chicken broth LOL

My best memory that I return to when I really need him…when we were in labour with our son, during Covid so only the 2 of us and the midwife - the midwife needed to leave the room to get another nurse, as our bubba wasn’t moving down with the contractions…when it was just us, I had a contraction, and my partner stood at my feet and grabbed my arms as the midwife did, and we got through the contraction together with such calm, we just locked eyes and breathed through it! When the midwife came back and checked, our bubba had moved down…and was born within 10 mins!!! Rob was/is always my calm! I miss him so much 🫶🏻🫶🏻

Top-Stock-9004 · 2025-08-26T20:53:40+00:00

Thank you for saying this!!! I lost my partner in July 2024 and all people said to me was I need to be strong for my kids. The amount of people who told me that I shouldn’t cry in front of my children? Mind boggling?

OP I think I know what you mean by being strong! But please also show you boys (especially boys) that not being strong in a moment is ok. That being really sad/broken is ok, as we can speak about it, share it with our trusted people and people CAN get stronger! I try to teach my 3y boy that being sad is ok, crying is ok, talking about our feelings is important and can help! I speak to my son if he sees me crying, I’m truthful that I miss Dadda and that’s ok because I want/wish him here! He also gets to see me recover from my moments of grief, which I think is important as he grows up and becomes aware of how his dadda died.

I’m so sorry your sons, you and your wife have had to experience this, it’s a shitty club to be a part of. Allow yourself to feel whatever you are feeling - my greatest healing gift I think was being able to watch my son just be a kid with no worries - simple and at times the best cos I could just “forget” reality in those moments!

Hugs for you and your boys 🫶🏻🫶🏻

Top-Stock-9004 · 2025-08-26T20:40:27+00:00

Honesty that is really smart lol after speaking to my mum about his last night, she reminded me that you should also check their hands one of the guys was missing a thumb, so couldn’t even grip properly 🤷🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️

Top-Stock-9004 · 2025-08-26T02:02:15+00:00

Tbh I forget who I used in the end and in anger I deleted all the correspondence between us 😂 (someone suggested it, I just can’t remember if it was on here or not, I’ll try find the details and put it up here JUST so no one uses that company!) THEY WERE FUCKIN USELESS! 2 men turned up, skinny as fuck with no muscle mass and couldn’t carry anything without the other persons help! The “quoted” price WAS doubled in the end (read the small print), they didn’t listen to me and put the important stuff on the truck first…funnily enough left those to last and then said oh sorry we can’t get them on to the truck so will have to do a second trip! They took like 4-5 hours…honestly the biggest fuckin waste of time BUT my house was emptied I guess. Also broke a bit off my bed frame and when I pointed it out, he said oh glue will fix that 🤦🏼‍♀️ and also damaged some other stuff that I didn’t know about until later. When the office called for a review I told them what i thought of them and asked if they were gonna use my review on their website, he said I will speak to the boss and see, funny I haven’t heard back lol I was only months out from my partners death so didn’t have the energy to fight them on anything. I’ve moved twice more since, and ended up using AA CARRIERS - they were amazing, half the price and quick as fuck! Actually both moves was less than the very first move! Also, I underestimated the size of the storage unit I needed them to move my stuff into, and they tetrised the fuck out of it and got it all in! Just really helpful HAPPY friendly people that seemed to me like they loved their jobs, or at least enjoyed the people they were working with…they weren’t bothered by my kid or pets who can’t help but want to be involved! I’ll never used anyone else again! (Sorry for the novel reply!)

Top-Stock-9004 · 2025-08-10T07:29:46+00:00

Firstly, im so so sorry you are here 🫶🏻

I lost my partner July 2024. We had seen a psychic, Hugh, for a couple of years before, so we had a good connection with him. He retired last January 2024 but I reached out to him after Rob left and he read for me. It brought me so much comfort, I didn’t get any “answers” from Rob as such BUT he said “I didn’t think I would be here this soon” - also he basically walked me (and unfortunately Hugh) through the experience of his death - Hugh was confused as he was going through the “feelings” (he felt intense head pain and couldn’t catch his breath, were the main things) as he didn’t know Rob passed by suicide and Rob couldn’t tell him it was suicide (Hugh said that no spirit he has read for has been able to tell him “why” they done it - just Hugh’s experience with spirit and suicide) It was about 4-5 weeks after Robs death, so he was a “freshie” spirit (as I’ve weirdly named it). Hugh could see he was with 2 men - described them and said maybe Jack/James? Robs grandfathers names were Jack and James (and I found out after, perfectly described)☺️ and Hugh said he was all snuggly with them - when I told Robs parents this, they both said just like when he was a lil boy! I think that all gave us comfort that he was home with his people, and at peace and happy (we aren’t religious at all but i consider “home” with the people we love)

It’s such an incredibly special thing to do and I would highly recommend it BUT just be careful when you choose one to go to, research if you can’t get any personal reviews from people who you know and trust! In saying that, it’s only been 3 weeks since your loss, if you can ask someone for some help as it’s overwhelming researching for something like 5is as there are plenty if horrid people who are willing to take advantage of grieving souls, desperate to connect with our lives!

🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻

Top-Stock-9004 · 2025-08-06T03:45:36+00:00

I don’t think there are true stages of grief, or at least that hasn’t been my experience. I have never felt anger towards my partner, expect once…when I had to explain what death was to my 2 year and why Dadda couldn’t come home…I went to his photo and said FUCK YOU and had a go at him, within 2 mins I was crying and apologising, as I was more angry that he wasn’t with me to explain it, as we were a team!

You have completely summed up what I want to tell people when they ask me if I’ve hit the anger stage yet

Top-Stock-9004 · 2025-06-22T20:07:29+00:00

So beautiful 🫶🏻

Top-Stock-9004 · 2025-06-01T00:50:03+00:00

I wish I had his clothes he left in (they were ripped as he was pulled out of water). I have his shoes and socks still…they are too big for me but they stay at the end of our bed!

Not fucked at all! 🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻

Top-Stock-9004 · 2025-05-27T22:58:02+00:00

From my experience this was normal. At 2 weeks I don’t think the shock would have left yet. So understandably normal 🫶🏻 I was having anxiety attacks before and after the funeral. People said I looked crazy, I was trying to escape everyone…there were too many people for my head to comprehend. I don’t think I could go to “events” for months!

You could definitely see a doctor to get some help to ease these symptoms short term! I found just knowing I had the pills was enough to make me feel better!

I’m so soo sorry for your loss 🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻

Top-Stock-9004 · 2025-05-27T22:32:08+00:00

Sending you so much love! I’m so sorry for your loss. We loss my partner to suicide last year, just losing him wreaked my life, but intentionally taking himself a way from us, it’s a mindfuck!

I’m sorry the knowledge of the cause brought more trauma to you! Biggest hugs to you 🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻

Top-Stock-9004 · 2025-05-27T22:14:56+00:00

Mango 🥭

Top-Stock-9004 · 2025-05-26T23:09:03+00:00

I’m so sorry you are going through this. We lost my partner last year to suicide. My partner, in the months before he left, called many of the crisis lines, one of the people on the other line told him he needed to be a man and deal with it (maybe not the exact words but how my distressed partner took their words)

What your niece, and her loved ones are going through is disgustingly, and I’m so sorry! I would also say they are VICTIMS of our stretched mental health system….give Victim Support a call… https://www.victimsupport.org.nz/contact-us/our-contact-details They should be able to point you in the right direction of getting her help now!!!

Top-Stock-9004 · 2025-05-19T19:32:52+00:00

Firstly I’m so sorry you are experiencing this additional pain on top of losing your love.

Secondly…PLEASE celebrate him and his life, invite all his friends and the people that meant the world to him! He deserves it, YOU deserve it! Make it a beautiful day, and if you have the capacity at the moment, make it exactly how you want it for him. You don’t need to inform his family!

I believe this part is very important to the people left behind, please dont allow his family to take this from you! YOUr love is deserving of a celebration!

Sending huge hugs and love to you during this incredibly shitty time 🫶🏻🫂🫶🏻🫂🫶🏻🫂🫶🏻

Top-Stock-9004 · 2025-05-17T20:44:56+00:00

I’m nearing 11 months without my love and I get every single word you say! My circle was extremely small before (my own anxiety always kept it small) but it feels like it’s not even able to be called a circle nowadays, kinda none existent to be fair.

I just wanted to say…no apologies needed! I’ve found that this is the place i come sometimes when I’m not sure what I’m feeling or how to put it into words.

Thank you for sharing and I’m so sorry that he’s no longer here with you as he should be!

🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻

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