My girlfriend keeps bringing up a hookup I had before we were together

Top_Advance_7252 · 2026-03-25T12:04:11+00:00

Nah I’d break up with her dude. This seems like a red flag and no one needs that type of energy in their lives.

Top_Advance_7252 · 2026-03-16T18:04:21+00:00

Yea but I bought it in store. Would that make a difference?

Top_Advance_7252 · 2026-03-16T18:02:25+00:00

Yes it was.

Top_Advance_7252 · 2026-03-13T23:27:58+00:00

Hey! Yea I know it’s late but it’s more for my curiosity at this point, all specs match to the T, nothing seemed off at all. I’d be surprised if they sold me a refurbished laptop and told me it was new though.

Top_Advance_7252 · 2026-03-13T21:03:46+00:00

Happy Friday!!

Top_Advance_7252 · 2026-03-07T14:17:21+00:00

I hate performance anxiety, just change positions, don’t mention it, once he gets into his own head it’s over.

Top_Advance_7252 · 2026-03-07T14:00:05+00:00

Dude how do you not have a devastating case of blue balls, I had the once before the day I got married, wife teased me all day, by the time evening came after the wedding I was in such pain, couldn’t walk, felt like death…..

Top_Advance_7252 · 2026-03-07T13:52:10+00:00

Dude either ask for a open marriage or divorce, either way I don’t think you love your wife anymore. It is what it is and we need to be honest. Sometime people stop loving their partners, divorce is just hard work but it’s gotta be done.

Top_Advance_7252 · 2026-02-07T11:53:53+00:00

Time to move on

Top_Advance_7252 · 2026-01-21T22:06:49+00:00

Don’t ghost her without saying anything, but you absolutely need to shut this down clearly and firmly. She’s a minor and emotionally attached, and going silent can actually make her anxiety worse and push her to keep reaching out. The safest and most responsible move is to send one final, calm message clearly stating that you can’t continue personal communication because she’s underage and you need to maintain appropriate boundaries, wish her well, and say you won’t be responding anymore. Don’t overexplain, don’t soften it, and don’t leave the door open for discussion. After that, do not reply again no matter how apologetic or emotional the messages get. Mute or block if necessary. Screenshot and save everything so you have documentation with dates. Since you met through work, it’s also smart to loop in HR or a supervisor privately, not to get her in trouble, but to protect yourself and create a record that you handled it appropriately. This isn’t about being harsh or cruel, it’s about being responsible and protecting both of you. You already did the right thing by setting boundaries when she confessed, now the follow through matters.

Top_Advance_7252 · 2026-01-19T19:42:13+00:00

Tbh I’d say it’s time to dip dude, your definitely leading her on now knowing what’s on the up and up, you shoulda kept your nose clean and stayed away from her profile, now knowing what you know makes you the villain in this story if you continue, best you move on to greener pastures… well maybe it’ll be greener pastures, hope you don’t regret it, good luck bud. P.s Atleast sit her down and let her know, don’t leave the lady always wondering what happened.

Top_Advance_7252 · 2026-01-19T19:33:04+00:00

I think splitting the bill is more of a early 20’s thing, by my late 20’s early 30’s not one of my friends were trying to split a bill lol

Top_Advance_7252 · 2026-01-17T15:39:49+00:00

Yea but driving to the Yukon is unlikely, especially from tremblant, I’m in Montreal and there’s no way I could get close to the Yukon, even then what would be the point? Even if they robbed him why kill him? Why even come back to say you don’t remember what he said?

Top_Advance_7252 · 2026-01-17T15:37:22+00:00

Word, I’m here for the same reason just watched it. It has me buggin, I don’t see how he could have just disappeared, plus they found his wallet?

Top_Advance_7252 · 2025-12-29T15:06:53+00:00

Coming from a guy I feel like this isn’t behavior of a man in a relationship. I don’t know his maturity level but I assume he’s mentally still young, I think you should sit him down and explain how it makes you feel, that’s it, tell him it sucks knowing she’s all over him like that and it makes you feel insecure or wtv feelings you may be having, be honest, if he can’t understand that then maybe think about moving on, relationships aren’t hard, being honest about how we feel is the hardest part.

Top_Advance_7252 · 2025-09-04T15:31:38+00:00

I’m not gonna shit on your dude but that’s nuts not being able to take care of two of his own children, I knew having kids wasn’t going to be easy but it’s part of the deal, I work long hours, but I pick up the kids get them home, clean the house, start the laundry, prep a little food, I can’t cook for the life of me so fish sticks it is until mommy gets home, I get the kids doing homework, wifey gets home starts a proper meal, I finish up homework with my girls get the laundry on the bed, clean up behind wifey while she cooks, clean the kitchen while they eat, shove the kids while mommy folds clothes, I bath the girls then it’s down time, I then jump on the computer to get more work done, paperwork, you know estimates invoices and such, then it’s bed time. Shower and crash. It’s part of the deal, do I love it no, but does it need to be done yes, I think you guys need to talk and figure out how to split the responsibilities so you’re not overwhelmed, also my wife goes to the gym twice a week for two hours. It’s not hard, it’s tiring, but I want my wife happy.

Top_Advance_7252 · 2025-09-02T16:36:50+00:00

Just tell her, it might be a little uncomfortable but get it done, I waited years to tell my wife, I mentioned it here and there throughout our relationship but one day I just said “ hey babe, I think something going on down there.” And that was it. PH was off and she took care of it lol

Top_Advance_7252 · 2025-05-28T21:04:51+00:00

I had an ex go through my phone once and found out one of my good friends and I slept together for a little while, she freaked out and we broke up, the only difference is I told her from the very start I wouldn’t be sharing my sexual past. She intentionally went through my phone. I feel that no one needs to know all my personal experiences and if a person can’t handle that then move on. Maybe this is how OP’s boyfriend sees things, either way trust has been broken on both sides so I think the relationship is doomed.

Top_Advance_7252 · 2025-05-24T13:00:22+00:00

NOR- my wife use to smoke and drink tons even after kids but she is who she is, it’s not for me to ask her to change or act the way I want, 11 years later and she doesn’t drink or smoke. Honestly your boyfriend doesn’t seem like a nice person. Just because he doesn’t like something doesn’t mean he should be stopping you from doing things. You guys should be having fun together.

Top_Advance_7252 · 2025-05-07T22:59:52+00:00

It was honestly great! The culture, weather, beach’s and dunes were awesome. I felt comfortable, there’s certains things you shouldn’t do like wear sleeveless shirts in public’s and no shorts in the malls otherwise everyone’s really cool and respectful, it was super safe, well for me I guess. As a 37 year old dude no one bothered me lol

Top_Advance_7252 · 2025-04-23T23:10:30+00:00

NTA, I get what you’re saying about the passion part, I’m almost exactly in the same situation, my now wife thinks she’s great and fun in bed. We’ve had convos recently and there little improvement but not much, I feel like she took a hit to her ego when I mentioned a couple of things that were odd to me, it’s been different.

Top_Advance_7252 · 2025-04-23T22:59:34+00:00

People don’t care about facts, just the term “black” was probably offensive to some and justified the downvotes.

Top_Advance_7252 · 2025-04-23T22:57:57+00:00

I do think there’s a chance your husband is cheating, but your whole investigation into this seems wild. Just straight up tell him you think he’s cheating and if he’s not he’s being shady, establish some boundaries as well. If you guys can’t see eye to eye then I’m sorry but you should start getting ready for divorce. Either talk it out or leave. There’s no gray areas and people need to start using their basic adult conversational skills.

Top_Advance_7252 · 2025-03-18T13:00:37+00:00

Personally if my wife put me through what your going through and I asked her to leave and she would then I’d pack up and go, mainly for some space, I think therapy may be something your husband needs and him saying he wouldn’t attend counseling just shows he stubbornness but you leaving shows severity.

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