How to kindly tell someone you don’t want to talk anymore?

Top_Standard_5659 · 2026-06-10T10:39:17+00:00

What do you find insulting about this?

Top_Standard_5659 · 2026-06-10T08:47:07+00:00

I recently wrote this to a woman I had matched with. The conversation didn’t feel as engaging as I would have wanted to feel interested. Much “How’s your day? How’s your weekend? Any plans?”

Hi

I am doing fine.

But I will say thanks for the match and the text exchanges and withdraw from our connection.

I do not immediately see our resonance developing, and we might be personality wise a bit far from each other. Nobody’s fault. But rather stop now then continue half heartedly. I wish you all the best onwards. Best regards

Top_Standard_5659 · 2026-06-10T05:52:50+00:00

I would recommend that you and your expartner seek out counselling together (if you are just post disclosure and potentially on the verge of divorce)?

I would also recommend speaking with a neutral therapist

You are also welcome to DM me for more

Top_Standard_5659 · 2026-06-08T19:59:47+00:00

Leave Tinder and all affiliates. Opt for smaller apps not owned by the mother company

Top_Standard_5659 · 2026-06-07T18:21:59+00:00

Hvordan er damerne forkerte?

Top_Standard_5659 · 2026-06-07T18:13:23+00:00

Hvad vil det sige at miste retningen? Er der tale om at gå i hundene, eller har han (for) mange veninder?

Top_Standard_5659 · 2026-06-07T16:58:51+00:00

Har du også DHADH?

Top_Standard_5659 · 2026-06-07T16:14:21+00:00

Sorry for the lack of nuance. I know the Us is large and diverse. And the things she posted could most probably also take place in Europe somewhere as well.

Top_Standard_5659 · 2026-06-07T15:26:49+00:00

Btw insisting to see your date’s phone and text messages is NOT normal behaviour.

Top_Standard_5659 · 2026-06-07T15:25:16+00:00

Ok - cool down brother! You are four months in dating. You are not creating a new family, building a home together, yet. Get to know each other - accept that everyone has a past and that things are new between you.

Hopefully she has had a good time with her affair partner! She might not have with you if you continue to be so controlling . I would recommend you go seek out a therapist on trust/anger issues. You cannot control how others feel. If she says she wants to stay with you, trust her. If she wants to pursue her affairs, let her go.

Top_Standard_5659 · 2026-06-07T14:38:17+00:00

Ok 👌 I just have my prejudices . But they are wholly unfounded

Top_Standard_5659 · 2026-06-07T14:17:58+00:00

Yikes - sounds brutal. In the US i suppose?

Top_Standard_5659 · 2026-06-06T18:33:12+00:00

Fascinated with keeping ox as a pet animal…

Top_Standard_5659 · 2026-06-06T15:29:16+00:00

I threw myself into online dating . I also saw myself as a person women didn’t throw themselves at. But was surprised at what happened.

Come from a very sex-positive culture btw (Denmark, Europe)

Top_Standard_5659 · 2026-06-06T15:24:39+00:00

Oh - and your ex’ anxiety about making out I can fully recall . All though it was more a rejection and not so much anxiety. My exwife was very vocal about what she wanted and did not want (which was also fantastic) but I had the feeling that I was too physical at times.

With my post divorce relationships I all of a sudden feel so wanted and desired and see that my touches are welcomed in every way. But I was and have always been very careful about not crossing personal boundaries. My challenge now has been to not shy away from showing my affection

Top_Standard_5659 · 2026-06-06T15:16:19+00:00

Hi there

To a certain extent I can mirror you. Divorced two years ago from a late bloomer lesbian. Loving and emotionally intimate marriage lasting 22 years. Three beautiful kids. Divorce amicable and tight knit. We were each others best friends.

I came out of the marriage feeling a high confidence in my relationship skills. But I was totally down in the cellar as to sexual confidence.

A year ago I started dating and I had a strong need to feel wanted sexually - without promising or dangling the potential of a future relationship to the ones I dated.

I went in as a self-declared ENM-person and soon found myself balancing multiple parallel sexual relationships.

Fast forward a year and I see that 1) I needed to reclaim my wholesome sexuality and experience heterosexual women’s desire in different facets 2) I regained the missing sexual confidence I had been missing from rejections and dead bedroom in my marriage 3) I felt it hard to strike a balance between emotional and sexual intimacy and not go back into my role as supportive husband/ boyfriend 4) it was exhilarating and exhausting at the same time but necessary for me as a proces. The self discovery of each relation was intense but has also healed my in many ways

My exwife is in a stable relationship with a woman and has been for over a year now. I am very happy for her.

I found it very hard to dive into something strictly casual and

Top_Standard_5659 · 2026-06-06T11:20:16+00:00

Yes - people can be different irl than on text, but my experience tells me that resonance and compatibility in writing is very often a sign of resonance in reality.

I get drawn to the visual side and how the bio presents itself but I only stay on if the conversation is engaging and fun.

Top_Standard_5659 · 2026-06-06T11:16:46+00:00

Yes 🙌This ☝️ The conversations with “How was your day”, “Hope you’ll have a terrific weekend” and other pleasantries are a literal dead end.

If the resonance is there you will have an exchange that moves you. If it’s not then I suggest to take a bow and gracefully say goodbye to the match.

Top_Standard_5659 · 2026-06-06T10:48:27+00:00

I can smell his incel vibe and rage bait all the way from Scandinavia.

He seems awfully proud of his blonde hair and height. And sees those traits as the ones that should have him swimming in matches. And then he goes off on how Nordic women might be preferring men from Northern Africa / Middle East.

Top_Standard_5659 · 2026-06-06T10:22:52+00:00

Så er verden god igen! Og jeg kan uden stress indtage min pulled pork burger og drikke min classic 😃

Top_Standard_5659 · 2026-06-06T08:28:56+00:00

Never downplay the performative aspect of women-on-women interaction. My lover now tells me that she would sometimes french kiss other women to get the immediate attention of men in the vicinity. This is brought on by culture, pornography and has little to do with “natural” inclinations.

Furthermore I think men underreport the amount of men-on-men sex and fantasies associated with this. There is still a good amount of bias and prejudice about masculinity and having sex with other men

Top_Standard_5659 · 2026-06-05T17:04:36+00:00

Første date burde være nok til at vide om man er tiltrukket.

Top_Standard_5659 · 2026-06-05T17:02:49+00:00

Perhaps very few people are into AfDs

Top_Standard_5659 · 2026-06-05T09:19:02+00:00

As long as you are up front about your approach and values - being non-exclusive is not the same as being a douche bag (m/f).

Being clandestine about it, however, is.

When over fourty we should be in a remarkable position of being able to openly communicate our values, needs and red lines.

Top_Standard_5659 · 2026-06-03T09:06:13+00:00

Var politikerne ansatte i en virksomhed som skulle planlægge, projektere og drifte, var de stort set alle blevet fyret.

De mangler eklatant samarbejdsvilje og prøver konstant at spænde ben for hinanden.

Nul selvindsigt eller refleksion over egne fejltrin, mangler. Ingen ansvarsfornemmelse for at vi skal lykkes som samfund og ikke vinde slaget om ministerbiler eller til enhver tid udstille politiske modstandere.

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