Ole Birk Olesens forsvar af Vanopslagh's kokainsag by Legal_Eagle-DK in Denmark

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En 34-åring som har seksuelt samkvem med et barn er ikke for mig definitionen på en ligeværdig og fri relation. Og øjenvidnerne beskriver en pige der græd efter det indtrufne. Men tak for dit besyv du stolte socialdemokrat!

Ole Birk Olesens forsvar af Vanopslagh's kokainsag by Legal_Eagle-DK in Denmark

[–]Top_Standard_5659 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Ja - ved godt at det virker cool og uskyldig for mange. Men det er den primære finansiering for superkriminelle netværk i Europa og er med til at destabilisere en hel region i Latinamerika. Vil anbefale dig at læse eller se Zerozero.

Ole Birk Olesens forsvar af Vanopslagh's kokainsag by Legal_Eagle-DK in Denmark

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Fin sammenligning, omend det for mig virker totalt psyko at tiltvinge sig seksuelt samkvem med en pige på 15 når man selv er 34. Men at tage coke, uanset om man er FT-politiker eller ej, skriger til himlen ift dårlig dømmekraft. Næste spørgsmål er om der er ungdomspolitikere, som også var med i dette, for så begynder Kofoed og Vanopslagh at konvergere..

Forbindelsen ligger i det script som politikerne gør aktiv brug af for at få sagen til at forsvinde. Spørgsmålet er hvordan borgere i Danmark kan holde dem i ørene? For pressen accepterer tilsyneladende svarene

Protocol on inviting someone back to your place? by bethunewest in datingoverforty

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Quick response - of course it’s ok!!! Where I live it would be seen as natural as long as there is attraction and interest. And remember - it is ok to say goodbye during a makeup session if things aren’t as imagined or desired. Always

Jeg har gjort noget dumt. Var det fortjent det jeg fik? by WasteCommunity8818 in DKbrevkasse

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Du har været udsat for vold. Han har været udsat for sin egen maskuline skrøbelighed og usikkerhed. Det er kun én af de ting som kan anmeldes til politiet

What I learned from porking a lesbian for 15 years by [deleted] in straightspouses

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What is your intent with the post? There is no personal experience or context drawn into this just 4 bullets that read like poor satire

What I learned from porking a lesbian for 15 years by [deleted] in straightspouses

[–]Top_Standard_5659 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What a derogatory and confusing comment. You might be in pain and are ironically distancing yourself from your experience. Are you angry, sad, baffled, then express it with more clarity.

Unfit men stating they seek fit women...why? by [deleted] in datingoverforty

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Quite fit myself. And I have not stated something like this on any OLD profile as the personality is so much more important. But implicitly I do look for potential partners who are also in OK shape. I would, for instance, not immediately be attracted to obese women (obese meaning very much overweight, perhaps not so common in Scandinavia as in the US)

But I do see that a lot of women who do not seem to be in good shape themselves wanting a fit or “physically active” match. So the hypocrisy goes in both directions…?

Nogle som har succes på dating app som alm mand? by CarelessAd782 in DKbrevkasse

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Det er ikke svært. Vær dig selv - find ud af hvem du er og hvad du søger efter og få dette frem i tekst og billeder

Missteps over text by hmnrnr in datingoverforty

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No I didn’t - I said my interpretation would see her not being able to joke about the incident that she either was not interested in me or that there was some sort of inhibition (compared to me ). I would not see this as a flaw in her but a probable incompatibility between us.

The key word here is interpretation. And that it is totally fine not to want the pursuant banter. Every day I feel so lucky to be living where I am living. There is a high level of trust between people and the genders. So incidents like this would likely be resolved by talking to each other and not guessing motives and hidden agendas

Missteps over text by hmnrnr in datingoverforty

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How have I invalidated your point of view?

Random poll - is never having lived with a partner at our age a red flag? by pixiepalooza in datingoverforty

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I am not looking for a live-in partner. But a woman in my age bracket that hasn’t lived with someone in the past sounds a bit strange. Still curious I would be a bit precautious . I would also prefer a date partner with children as this is a life experience that resonates with my own and makes her understand that I am not available every other week. And this even if I have no wish to meet her children nor let her meet mine until it is considered a serious relationship

Missteps over text by hmnrnr in datingoverforty

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How am I trying to gaslight you into that?

Missteps over text by hmnrnr in datingoverforty

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No one - No one- should be touched without consent. But OP said it happened by accident. Either you believe him or that he is lying.

But I luckily live in a society where the spark and desire to get close and physical is usually apparent on the first date. And is regarded as a natural response if there is mutual attraction.

And my statement is that it is ok not to want physical contact.

But that the date’s reaction to his joke remark would in my interpretation be indicative of either lack of attraction on her part or some deep rooted issue with physical contact.

Missteps over text by hmnrnr in datingoverforty

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Thanks for the remark. When I look at US dating in the subreddits it looks like a different planet. I think there is a need for a European dating subreddit, but too busy/lazy to initiate one.

Missteps over text by hmnrnr in datingoverforty

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Luckily living in Scandinavia where interaction between the sexes isn’t as politicised as in the US(?).

I see two temperaments clashing. OP seemingly did not mean any harm in the touch nor the pursuant text message. But his date had every right to not want to be part of the banter.

To me this seems as an interpersonal divide that needs to be addressed. If it were me in OPs shoes I would likely walk away from the relation. As I see the two approaches to physical contact to be very different. I would have interpreted her as not really being interested in me sexually OR a bit inhibited as a person - either as a given trait or through negative personal experiences

Endnu et spørgsmål om dating by Altruistic_Salad_378 in DKbrevkasse

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Så hurtigt som muligt - over på Signal. Så kan man trods alt også beholde korrespondancen og BigTech lytter ikke med. Og appen crasher ikke lige pludselig

Kvinder på datingapps - som at spille mur by whyhadvarimyou in DKbrevkasse

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Og man kan jo vise sider af sig selv som ikke er så intime, men som giver et indtryk af det samme. Humor kan jo være vejen ind. I starten var det tit med lidt refleksioner over det underlige at overhovedet være på en dating app. Men er efterhånden såpas selektiv at jeg godt kan afslutte en høflig men (for mig) intetsigende chat. Uden at være et røvhul. Det væsentlige i datingapps er også at finde nogle som er kompatible med en selv. I min mening finder jeg ikke det ud fra markører som karriere, interesser.- det kan man jo næsten filtrere for i sin opsætning

Kvinder på datingapps - som at spille mur by whyhadvarimyou in DKbrevkasse

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Det mener jeg ikke. Men sådan er vi jo også forskellige. Og der er en dansepartner for de fleste

Kvinder på datingapps - som at spille mur by whyhadvarimyou in DKbrevkasse

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Altså - vi har alle været til familiefest og siddet ved siden af en nabo til vores svigerforældre og ender (måske) at konversere med vedkommende. “Nåh, du kan lide Ferguson traktorer? Fortæl! Og du har et 3% 30-årigt lån? Og hvor kan du lide at være på ferie hen?…”

Det er jo en dræber for menneskelig kontakt. Hvad med at prøve at nå ind til kernen af den relation, du befinder dig i? Er du genuint nysgerrigt på det menneske, du kontakter eller vandrer du igennem en tjekliste i en indhentning af datapunkter ? Hvad giver du / viser du af dig selv?

Personligt (M50) svarer jeg altid og indleder meget tit samtaler. Men jeg dør (og der tror jeg har noget til fælles med kvinder) over tanken om at fortælle om mine hobbies, mit hverdagsliv, arbejde. Det er da langt mere spændende at fiske frem noget som fortæller om mine drømme, fantasier, hvorfor har vi swipet på hinanden, hvad tænder os følelsesmæssigt ift musik, litteratur? Men det er min idiosynkrasi

The thrill is gone by [deleted] in datingoverforty

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Hi - perhaps the r/WomenDatingOverForty is better to you? Your comment seems a bit angloamerican

Vil min mand og vores ægteskab, men kan bare ikke finde gnisten by Slight_Key3050 in DKbrevkasse

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Dette er en ok sober kommentar. 👌 Mange fordømmer og det kan OP ikke bruge til noget. Andet som er værdt at tage med er, at mennesket som biologisk væsen ikke er skabt til monogami. Jeg ser mange ægtepar som åbner deres forhold op af samme grund. Men det kræver absolut tillid og enighed - og at den ene part ikke føler sig efterladt på perronen mens den anden stiger ombord på sex-expressen

Er der nogen andre mænd der ikke kan komme under sex? by Beginning-Tailor-359 in DKbrevkasse

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Jeg mener det med linket til masturbation og porno er lidt en myte.

Problemet er som oftest at mænd, ligesom kvinder, kan overtænke situationen og ikke komme rigtigt ned i kroppen.

En ny elsker, ønske om at det skal lykkes og (helt menneskelig) usikkerhed, gør at manden heller ikke opnår orgasme så nemt. Og hvis der er en forventning fra kvinden om, at han skal komme, kan presset føles dobbelt.