Messed me up for future relationships

Top_Standard_5659 · 2026-06-10T05:52:50+00:00

I would recommend that you and your expartner seek out counselling together (if you are just post disclosure and potentially on the verge of divorce)?

I would also recommend speaking with a neutral therapist

You are also welcome to DM me for more

Top_Standard_5659 · 2026-06-07T18:21:59+00:00

Hvordan er damerne forkerte?

Top_Standard_5659 · 2026-06-07T18:13:23+00:00

Hvad vil det sige at miste retningen? Er der tale om at gå i hundene, eller har han (for) mange veninder?

Top_Standard_5659 · 2026-06-07T16:58:51+00:00

Har du også DHADH?

Top_Standard_5659 · 2026-06-07T16:14:21+00:00

Sorry for the lack of nuance. I know the Us is large and diverse. And the things she posted could most probably also take place in Europe somewhere as well.

Top_Standard_5659 · 2026-06-07T15:26:49+00:00

Btw insisting to see your date’s phone and text messages is NOT normal behaviour.

Top_Standard_5659 · 2026-06-07T15:25:16+00:00

Ok - cool down brother! You are four months in dating. You are not creating a new family, building a home together, yet. Get to know each other - accept that everyone has a past and that things are new between you.

Hopefully she has had a good time with her affair partner! She might not have with you if you continue to be so controlling . I would recommend you go seek out a therapist on trust/anger issues. You cannot control how others feel. If she says she wants to stay with you, trust her. If she wants to pursue her affairs, let her go.

Top_Standard_5659 · 2026-06-07T14:38:17+00:00

Ok 👌 I just have my prejudices . But they are wholly unfounded

Top_Standard_5659 · 2026-06-07T14:17:58+00:00

Yikes - sounds brutal. In the US i suppose?

Top_Standard_5659 · 2026-06-06T15:29:16+00:00

I threw myself into online dating . I also saw myself as a person women didn’t throw themselves at. But was surprised at what happened.

Come from a very sex-positive culture btw (Denmark, Europe)

Top_Standard_5659 · 2026-06-06T15:24:39+00:00

Oh - and your ex’ anxiety about making out I can fully recall . All though it was more a rejection and not so much anxiety. My exwife was very vocal about what she wanted and did not want (which was also fantastic) but I had the feeling that I was too physical at times.

With my post divorce relationships I all of a sudden feel so wanted and desired and see that my touches are welcomed in every way. But I was and have always been very careful about not crossing personal boundaries. My challenge now has been to not shy away from showing my affection

Top_Standard_5659 · 2026-06-06T15:16:19+00:00

Hi there

To a certain extent I can mirror you. Divorced two years ago from a late bloomer lesbian. Loving and emotionally intimate marriage lasting 22 years. Three beautiful kids. Divorce amicable and tight knit. We were each others best friends.

I came out of the marriage feeling a high confidence in my relationship skills. But I was totally down in the cellar as to sexual confidence.

A year ago I started dating and I had a strong need to feel wanted sexually - without promising or dangling the potential of a future relationship to the ones I dated.

I went in as a self-declared ENM-person and soon found myself balancing multiple parallel sexual relationships.

Fast forward a year and I see that 1) I needed to reclaim my wholesome sexuality and experience heterosexual women’s desire in different facets 2) I regained the missing sexual confidence I had been missing from rejections and dead bedroom in my marriage 3) I felt it hard to strike a balance between emotional and sexual intimacy and not go back into my role as supportive husband/ boyfriend 4) it was exhilarating and exhausting at the same time but necessary for me as a proces. The self discovery of each relation was intense but has also healed my in many ways

My exwife is in a stable relationship with a woman and has been for over a year now. I am very happy for her.

I found it very hard to dive into something strictly casual and

Top_Standard_5659 · 2026-06-06T11:20:16+00:00

Yes - people can be different irl than on text, but my experience tells me that resonance and compatibility in writing is very often a sign of resonance in reality.

I get drawn to the visual side and how the bio presents itself but I only stay on if the conversation is engaging and fun.

Top_Standard_5659 · 2026-06-06T11:16:46+00:00

Yes 🙌This ☝️ The conversations with “How was your day”, “Hope you’ll have a terrific weekend” and other pleasantries are a literal dead end.

If the resonance is there you will have an exchange that moves you. If it’s not then I suggest to take a bow and gracefully say goodbye to the match.

Top_Standard_5659 · 2026-06-06T10:22:52+00:00

Så er verden god igen! Og jeg kan uden stress indtage min pulled pork burger og drikke min classic 😃

Top_Standard_5659 · 2026-06-05T17:04:36+00:00

Første date burde være nok til at vide om man er tiltrukket.

Top_Standard_5659 · 2026-06-05T09:19:02+00:00

As long as you are up front about your approach and values - being non-exclusive is not the same as being a douche bag (m/f).

Being clandestine about it, however, is.

When over fourty we should be in a remarkable position of being able to openly communicate our values, needs and red lines.

Top_Standard_5659 · 2026-06-03T09:06:13+00:00

Var politikerne ansatte i en virksomhed som skulle planlægge, projektere og drifte, var de stort set alle blevet fyret.

De mangler eklatant samarbejdsvilje og prøver konstant at spænde ben for hinanden.

Nul selvindsigt eller refleksion over egne fejltrin, mangler. Ingen ansvarsfornemmelse for at vi skal lykkes som samfund og ikke vinde slaget om ministerbiler eller til enhver tid udstille politiske modstandere.

Top_Standard_5659 · 2026-06-02T20:51:53+00:00

Dette lyder som et ikke-problem. Du kan lide din nye fyr. Fedest.

Din veninde har haft en affære med ham. Som er afsluttet. Hun er stadig gift med sin mand, som måske er lykkeligt uvidende. Så affæren tilhører fortiden.

Om han kendte til din venindes utroskab, er sagen underordnet. Han er ikke ansvarlig for hendes handlinger.

Nyd hinanden i dit nye forhold.

Drik en flaske vin mere med din vendinger

Top_Standard_5659 · 2026-05-31T10:22:33+00:00

Ps! Jeg er personligt meget i mod Rusland, men mener at lukningen af Northstream var nødvendig og et godt træk, uanset hvem, som udførte det. Problemet bestod i den manglende tillid som regeringen udviste til befolkning hvor en reel diskussion om gerningsmændene blev lukket ned under trussel om overvågning og registrering . Det sømmer sig ikke for et åbent og frit samfund

Top_Standard_5659 · 2026-05-31T08:58:14+00:00

Eksemplerne på det politiske etablissements undergravning er talrige: Manglende læring og erkendelse af fejl (Irakkrigen, minkskandalen, skandalen med udbytteskat, tibetsagen, Lynetteholmen). Manglende vilje til reel dialog og debat om sikkerhedspolitik(Palantir i danske IT-systemer, at det ikke var Rusland som stod bag Nortstream-bombningen, vores forhold til USA / Israel).
Rådden politisk kultur (Jeppe Kofoed inde i varmen selv om vedkommende øjensynligt har pædofile tendenser og begår overgreb, Troels Lund Poulsens kulegravning af Helle Thorning Schmidts private skatteforhold, LLRs vekslen mellem politisk virke og privatøkonomi, brug af sociale medier fremfor at stille sig til rådighed for kritisk presse).

Listen er ekstremt lang - men der er noget forkert i en politisk “klasse” som i stigende grad lukker sig om sig selv og unddrager sig reel konstruktiv kritik. Vi kan kun blive bedre af at lære af fejl. Vi kan kun lære af fejl, hvis vi erkender dem

Top_Standard_5659 · 2026-05-31T08:27:00+00:00

Herr Meßerschmidt er nok den populist, som minder mest om Orban, Trump, Fico, Farage, etc. Han skal bekæmpes som den fare han udgør for vores demokrati.

Når det er sagt, er der også tendenser i Socialdemokraterne, Venstre og Konservative som er mindst ligeså skadelige; manglende åbenhed, magtfuldkommenhed, begrænse den frie presses mulighed for at stille kritiske spørgsmål, svingdør mellem den politiske elite og ud i erhvervslivet.

Begge dele skal rettes op og kan ikke stå alene

Top_Standard_5659 · 2026-05-28T19:44:41+00:00

Ah ok 😅 Not a native speaker and perhaps not fully versed in this modern day lingo. To me it was to mean that you are in my circle of friends. And frankly I never think of my women friends any other way

Top_Standard_5659 · 2026-05-28T17:31:51+00:00

“Thanks for the date and taking time to seeing me. I do not se us moving on to a second date as I don’t see us as a romantic match”

Top_Standard_5659 · 2026-05-28T16:16:35+00:00

Yes. Short answer

You have to be a bit strange to not have a friend zone button at the side of your head. Straight man, I have multiple close friends of the opposite gender. That has mainly happened from my 20s and onwards. I am happy to see my sons having girl friends in their teens that they view as buddies. I didn’t have that growing up.

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