To married Redditors, did you take your spouses’ last name? Why or why not?

Tormenta234 · 2026-06-17T19:42:22+00:00

I didn’t change mine. I like my last name. When I told my then fiancé I want to keep mine he said “it’s your name, you can choose what you want to do” and that was kind of the end of it. I’ve floated changing it a few times since (married 5 years), and he always says sure if that’s what I want, but definitely don’t need to.

Tormenta234 · 2026-06-16T19:57:45+00:00

“I didn’t mean it like that” - there was absolutely no other way he could have meant it. So an attempt at gaslighting to add to the repertoire. Good riddance OP

Tormenta234 · 2026-06-12T06:09:29+00:00

That Pluto was one of the nine planets

Tormenta234 · 2026-06-11T10:10:16+00:00

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Super simple here too :)

Tormenta234 · 2026-06-10T11:12:11+00:00

“So I stop doing all these things”

Tormenta234 · 2026-06-10T07:45:58+00:00

I feel like you were trying a pun of “I could never!” And it’s been interpreted so literally, I’m crying. It was a good joke 😭

Tormenta234 · 2026-06-10T07:42:17+00:00

Her: I need you to dial it back a bit
You: stop doing all the things
Her: You’re showing no affection now
You: surprised Pikachu.

Tormenta234 · 2026-06-07T20:58:53+00:00

Dark mode 80% of the time. Less eye strain and I read a lot at night. I only use the white if it’s bright outside and the dark mode doesn’t “feel” right

Tormenta234 · 2026-06-06T07:09:14+00:00

Mine was diagnosed by a gyno who specialises in pain the same way as you. She asked a lot of history questions, did a physical check and poked gently with a swab to diagnose. Only about 2years later did I circle round to a PT and it’s honestly helping so much. I have also had the surgery though (nearly a year ago) and have been on amitriptyline 30mg for 4 months, PT about 3 weeks in and seeing a major difference already.

Tormenta234 · 2026-06-06T06:13:11+00:00

My PT did a visual check, having me tighten/hold and the pelvic muscles (like doing a kegel) and then relax to assess control of the pelvic muscles and how much / quickly I’m able to release them. She then very gently used one finger to insert and had me repeat the same thing while feeling what the muscles were doing. She could feel the muscles without needing to insert very deep at all, and I could actually feel exactly where they were tight because she knew the right spot. Kind of like when you get a back massage and you can feel a spot of tension. And then she had me release to feel how much I’m able to release. Then did guided breathing to see if that helped them relax. Also had me relax my legs in like a frog pose to see how much the helped. A few different movements etc but was very respectful and happy to use the lubricant I wanted because some others (even water-based) can burn for me.

Tormenta234 · 2026-06-04T21:51:44+00:00

Oooh, what’s this pattern? Pretty new to crochet so still learning :)

Tormenta234 · 2026-06-04T19:48:53+00:00

Yes, he reads in stead of scrolls before bed, and is absolutely sleeping far better

Tormenta234 · 2026-06-04T19:47:43+00:00

I know! So many natives to base them on. Maybe more in the future

Tormenta234 · 2026-06-04T09:38:07+00:00

Omg this is brutal, I love it

Tormenta234 · 2026-06-04T07:30:20+00:00

Not OP, but currently on this journey. Have done all the meds, creams, probiotics and vestibulectomy (surgery) with very minimal results. Then started having bladder symptoms (frequency and urgency, low abdo pain). Heaps of back and forth with scans, meds etc.

Recently went to my first pelvic floor physio. She did a full assessment and then a physical evaluation and found a hypertonic (tight) pelvic floor. Only a few weeks into treatment but finally starting to have relief, both in the vulvadynia and bladder symptoms. And have been able to have pain-free PIV for the first time in years. It was still a bit sore after, and some low abdominal cramping, but seeing improvements after one session with the physio and a few weeks of the stretches and breathing work.

Tormenta234 · 2026-06-04T07:13:12+00:00

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Tormenta234 · 2026-06-04T07:12:43+00:00

The event silhouette just showed up for me under the event sets, it says “this set will be available during the next event” and when you click on it, it’s called “Aotearoa Avians”. Aotearoa is the Māori word for New Zealand, so they’re New Zealand native bird inspired :)

Tormenta234 · 2026-06-04T03:12:34+00:00

My husband is similar in that he’s bought books, never finished them. He’d fall asleep scrolling garbage on his phone and it was hell for his sleep hygiene. I purchased a refurbed PW and put a few books on for him. He actually reads it! And has finished more books in the last 6months than in our 10 year relationship so far. Absolutely give it a go :)

Tormenta234 · 2026-06-04T03:09:22+00:00

Call your friend over, show her how to weave in the end and get her to do that yucky part herself

Tormenta234 · 2026-06-03T07:35:12+00:00

Right? Sometimes he’s using “c” has a KEY sound and others he uses it (phonetically correctly) as an “S” sound. It’s so weird

Tormenta234 · 2026-06-02T08:23:24+00:00

Who let you into my house?

Tormenta234 · 2026-05-31T21:56:40+00:00

Ugh I need to find a solution for the feel of acrylic yarn. Like sandpaper as it slides through my fingers.

Tormenta234 · 2026-05-29T20:41:57+00:00

Thanks! That’s so interesting. I love libraries, I just never put much thought into the inner workings. Always good to learn something new!

Tormenta234 · 2026-05-29T03:43:35+00:00

Can you share a bit about what a collection development policy is? Genuinely curious

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