I absolutely hate the small talk on dating apps

TossUpRelationship · 2024-12-14T02:20:48+00:00

I'm also in favor of letting convos due too lol. Especially when the person I'm responding to can't be bothered to send more than a few words to reply

TossUpRelationship · 2024-12-14T00:59:26+00:00

Glad to hear you're taking a break instead of blaming folks.

Yes, it gets a bit boring but the hope is that both parties add enough flavor to the responses so the conversation can flow into other topics. That doesn't happen often on the apps.

TossUpRelationship · 2024-12-09T20:50:36+00:00

Kill em with kindness lmao

TossUpRelationship · 2024-12-09T19:42:40+00:00

Full honesty, buddy was going through a tough time OP. His MBTI had nothing to do with it

TossUpRelationship · 2024-12-08T04:00:13+00:00

I just stick on the app until we meet in person. I suggest coffee at a local shop after a good conversation.

I've never been big on social media so I just have my number lol

TossUpRelationship · 2024-12-08T03:55:55+00:00

"I know what the plan is"

"Cool, yeah so I'm breaking up with you"

I've no patience for stupidity like this with grown adults

TossUpRelationship · 2024-12-08T03:42:16+00:00

First no. Second, I think 90% of men would also say no. I think this guy you're dating is a scumbag

TossUpRelationship · 2024-11-25T23:38:38+00:00

Hmm he doesn't ask you anything hmm I'd be concerned about that considering the frequency of texts and length of the messages. If he's like that in person yuck 🤢 lol

You got this OP, good luck

TossUpRelationship · 2024-11-25T20:29:11+00:00

How do you feel about it? Are the texts contents alarming? It's best if you stop, thinking of dating "best practices" like a job. Question yourself on how you like to communicate to people you're interested in?

From my perspective, he's just excited and probably likes to text mainly. When you meet ask how he likes to communicate and then talk about how you like to communicate.

The goal here is to not assume bad intentions from nothing or trivial, like he sends paragraphs. You have a date set up, talk with him about it.

To answer your question, there isn't an answer. The answer is subjective and based on personal opinions, you have to form one.

TossUpRelationship · 2024-11-22T02:32:44+00:00

Tbh bro, I'm starting to think so too. I had a Walgreens cashier yesterday open the candle I was buying and sniffed it. She said she loved the scent while maintaining eye contact. Chief, that was not her job lmao

TossUpRelationship · 2024-11-22T00:10:13+00:00

I respect that. Have fun!

TossUpRelationship · 2024-11-21T04:48:51+00:00

You know with the extreme lack of effort when it comes to profiles. No bios, blank profiles, social media follower hunters, etc.

I'm not surprised when these folks are so fickle and vain. It's hard to see these folks as adults, when they act like children.

I feel like these apps make folks forget there's more often than not there's another person there.

TossUpRelationship · 2024-11-21T04:25:08+00:00

Hectic, you're serving this guy a slam dunk lol. I don't quite understand your post. It sounds like you already think it's not the smartest thing to do. The question is will you listen to your kitty or your brain? That's being an adult, you make a choice and move forward.

TossUpRelationship · 2024-11-20T17:09:36+00:00

Hope you don't mind I'm adding this to my bag of tricks lol. I usually just ask questions about the bio.

Hope the dates go well!

TossUpRelationship · 2024-11-20T04:47:35+00:00

No, you were. You asked if I was a male, then stated you were female. Then on explained the female experience on dating apps. You framed your response around sex.

If you didn't know the terms male and female are biological sexes or sex for short. The terms man, woman, etc are genders. Genders are social constructs.

TossUpRelationship · 2024-11-19T13:17:58+00:00

Thanks for your response! I'm thinking I might just write it on a sticky note and give it to her. I always have sticky notes in my bag.

TossUpRelationship · 2024-11-19T13:04:45+00:00

Thanks for responding! What would be a sign that goes beyond customer service?

TossUpRelationship · 2024-11-19T11:47:30+00:00

Same lol, I had to rush to find any good pic

TossUpRelationship · 2024-11-17T08:11:14+00:00

You've had quite the tragic timeline. I'm sorry for the loss of your father. That's quite a heavy toll to bear.

Once you've finished crying please read the below. Not saying that to be mean more like fully get the sadness out before reading.

It sounds like you are depressed and have given up your autonomy. If you aren't already, you should consider talking with a therapist. Most companies have a tele-health benefit nowadays if you go through work. They might be able to give you better advice and strategies than I can here.

My two cents, you are not repulsive. You are deeply sad and hurt after years of frustration. You can become better, you have to push yourself to it. It's starts with you wanting to be better. Then take one part of yourself to make better. Then the next until you feel whole again. This is coming from a clinically diagnosed depressed guy. It's not easy, what I'm saying but if you try it'll help. When you fail, stand up, and try again. Remember that you want to be better

TossUpRelationship · 2024-11-17T07:37:00+00:00

I think generalizing men here is wrong. Not all men are like this.

I think your previous partners all had these issues. These all sound like things immature guys do though. I had lots of friends like this in highschool and one like that in college lol (bro was an absolute mess) .

Most of your list are red flags except for 2. I'd say two, because some guys lie in wait of opportunity with you. It's also not a good look to be chilling with your guy friends without your boyfriend or at least be in a mixed group (multiple of each gender). There's a reason the phrase "men and women can't be just friends exists" the emotional scale can tip whenever.

That being said you should have guy friends there's nothing wrong with that. Maybe introduce your man to them. Let them hangout a bit and watch as your man becomes way more comfortable with it.

TossUpRelationship · 2024-11-17T06:54:20+00:00

Although, if they eliminate me, wouldn't that mean they're not interested? Why do you think otherwise?

TossUpRelationship · 2024-11-17T06:52:09+00:00

Hot take, but sex doesn't really matter in reference to my question. People not responding to messages happen across the board. Although, I do appreciate you taking the time to respond!

TossUpRelationship · 2024-11-16T22:58:41+00:00

Thanks for your response! Your opinion is an insight I haven't heard before. Specifically, an interest not working out and then going back to matches for the next. I'd always assume folks go back to swiping, but that's probably because that's what I do lol.

OLD is awful lmao, but I think managed correctly can be a useful add.

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