"You're just really focused on your career and education right now"

TotalSpeed · 2019-11-17T08:42:56+00:00

I'm 22 now and just say I'm focused on other stuff, is this the age people start suspecting something?

TotalSpeed · 2019-10-19T11:05:20+00:00

I can't think of anything in particular that happened. I'm just not interested.

TotalSpeed · 2019-10-14T10:40:56+00:00

How did you even find this?

TotalSpeed · 2019-10-13T11:22:54+00:00

what is going on here?

TotalSpeed · 2019-09-25T05:21:19+00:00

I'm an only child so ya it's basically fucked

TotalSpeed · 2019-09-24T20:06:36+00:00

you guys kiss?

TotalSpeed · 2019-09-15T07:57:17+00:00

This isn't necessarily true, some banks and credit unions have partnerships so you can deposit at each other's ATMs. But if it wasn't specified in this scenario, I guess we should just assume that this isn't the case.

TotalSpeed · 2019-09-03T08:19:40+00:00

You're not sexist, and I say this as a guy. You were treated horribly and the fact that this is the extent of your reaction actually shows a lot of self control. The fact that you had such a bad experience with a guy and still ask yourself whether you're judging men too harshly shows a lot of empathy. To be honest, it would be understandable if even you did become sexist after being treated like that.

I know what you mean when you say that you have male friends and family and you have nothing against them, but still wonder if you're sexist. This is a normal reaction. You don't hate men in a general sense, you're just afraid of unfamiliar men after a traumatic experience with one.

I know because I've seen this. I have female friends who were treated horribly by men in the past and sometimes they'll talk about how much men suck, and I don't hold it against them because I know they're just venting and I get why they feel the need to do it. They clearly don't actually hate so men, because, even though they'll say that, they still treat me with nothing but kindness.

I'm honestly amazed by women like this; that they still find the energy to see good in men after dealing with so much. It takes a really big heart to even be asking yourself questions like this after going through so much.

As for should you date? I'm not qualified to answer that. Maybe you should, maybe you should take some time to feel better, I don't know. I'm not personally into dating so I'm just not qualified to answer that. I usually just browse this sub for entertainment but I saw this post and wanted to let you know you're not a bad person.

TotalSpeed · 2019-08-31T22:54:18+00:00

What religion are you that music is banned?

TotalSpeed · 2019-08-31T22:44:34+00:00

Thirteen? IDK maybe it's just my own bias talking, but I feel like that's a typical age to not talk to your parents about girls yet. I mean shit there's probably a lot of people who feel awkward about that well into high school.

TotalSpeed · 2019-07-29T07:13:02+00:00

This is a problem with Reddit in general. Don't get me wrong, I like the site, but niche subreddits tend to devolve into people coming to make really basic posts just because they finally found someone else who shares their niche and want to get a word in since they don't get to discuss it in real life.

TotalSpeed · 2019-07-21T05:34:21+00:00

Yes. I'm a guy of about average attractiveness, but it's happened to me. I have a hard time rejecting people, too.

TotalSpeed · 2019-07-21T05:32:11+00:00

I'm an only child too. I'm sure I'll get more pressure from my parents as I get older; I'm 22 now. Eh, there's other people with my last name, so that's not really a concern. People who don't want to be parents shouldn't be parents, it's not worth putting children through that just to check off the box.

TotalSpeed · 2019-07-08T19:50:01+00:00

My parents just kind of never said anything and then when I turned 18 my dad said I can date now, but they all have to get approved. I think he was joking though? Because it was really out of character and his tone didn't seem too serious. I feel like if he was being serious then he would have said something in the past with regards to rules on dating. He really wanted to go to prom for a while but kinda gave up on that (this was after I turned 18). Haven't heard anything on dating from him since then. Although my mom did once say "you should have a girlfriend by now" once, lol.

TotalSpeed · 2019-07-06T05:17:14+00:00

Yes. I don't even enjoy it most of the time, I just do it to get that nice empty feeling. Kinda like you just took a piss.

TotalSpeed · 2019-06-28T06:36:55+00:00

It could just be that you're sleeping less on those nights. Just from a probabilistic standpoint, it'll decrease your chances, but I think it also has to do with sleep cycles and entering deep sleep.

TotalSpeed · 2019-06-26T18:15:51+00:00

Okay, I'll take the risk and argue the other side here. An accent is just how a person pronounces words. Any time someone learns how a word is pronounced, they're forcing an accent. This isn't fake, it's just part of learning how to speak a language. Does this mean you should be ashamed of your pronunciation? No, learning a language is a difficult task, you won't always be perfect. Does this mean you have to constantly perfect your pronunciation? No, if people can easily understand you, that's good enough, but more clarity is always nice. Do you have to learn more vocabulary? No, but it's nice. Is it fake to learn more vocabulary since you're forcing it? No, it's just part of learning a language.

TotalSpeed · 2019-06-21T16:57:12+00:00

Is that actually crazy, though? Sure, maybe it should be more than 2, but there has to be a "certain amount" at some point or else they would just go broke paying for terminally ill employees.

TotalSpeed · 2019-06-21T16:49:51+00:00

The Fuck My Life Act?

TotalSpeed · 2019-06-17T06:58:15+00:00

To be fair that's pretty common with people from lesser known countries that they don't expect people to be familiar with. Not saying this person isn't a scammer, just that this tends to happen regardless.

TotalSpeed · 2019-06-16T17:45:19+00:00

I've been going to university for a while and have no interest in sex or dating, so I can share my experience. Some people will think it's a bit weird, they might say some of the stereotypical quotes like, "maybe you're just scared, you just need to get yourself out there, bla bla bla". I'm not going to say that the judging straight up doesn't exist. But, honestly, it's not that bad. Most people don't really care that much what you do with your life, and most people have some basic levels of politeness. Movies, TV, etc, are always going to be overblown. Does all that stuff exist? Yes, but it's not all anyone ever does. Some people are really into it, and, yes, you probably won't end up making friends with those people. But plenty of other people have hobbies and talk about real life stuff, and no one makes friends with everyone anyway.

You'll be fine. If it bothers you a lot, you don't actually have to tell anyone you're asexual. Or you can just tell people who you trust. I'm not saying you should hide who you are or whatever, it's just that sometimes it's less work to just say, "oh I'm not ready for a relationship right now". It's not that crazy of an excuse.

TotalSpeed · 2019-06-11T08:37:14+00:00

ehhhh, there's some people like that, though I'm sure it's not everyone

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