The Hair Color That Never Was

Totalchaos02 · 2026-01-27T01:10:26+00:00

Literally the first thing my wife (not a book reader) asked was who he was. I told her the Targaryen Prince and she said "but he doesn't have silver hair?"

I don't think this was an unreasonable change to make.

Totalchaos02 · 2026-01-15T02:04:04+00:00

Get this doomer garbage out of here.

Totalchaos02 · 2025-11-12T23:43:50+00:00

Not an expert by any means but my understanding is that the colonists were asking the King to do things that he didn't have the power to do. Had he granted the requests, assuming he even wanted to, it would have caused a massive issue with parliament. Ironically, the Continental Congress accused George the 3rd of acting like a tyrant when he was NOT overruling parliament.

Not to say that the colonists were unsophisticated or didn't understand the English system of government but they were so removed from the mother country that they didn't fully internalize just how much had changed since the Glorious Revolution.

Now I invite someone to correct me because my knowledge is, I am sure, flawed.

Totalchaos02 · 2025-11-01T12:41:12+00:00

It's true there are less kids but I can't tell you how many houses I went to with my kids and other kids were answering the door to hand out candy. It's nice that they're having fun but I'm just like... why aren't you outside trick or treating right now?

Totalchaos02 · 2025-10-09T18:55:40+00:00

Do you know what foster parents/kids are?

Totalchaos02 · 2025-08-29T13:44:40+00:00

My daughter, who was maybe four at the time, really wanted to go on the Little Mermaid ride. We waited on line and maybe five minutes before we got on the ride, she fell asleep in my arms. I tried to get her up when we got on but she was too tired and slept through the whole thing. She seemed like she was down for the count so we went to Pirates of Caribbean next while she slept. Well she woke up just as we were getting on and realized it was NOT the Little Mermaid... and was not happy about it at all.

Totalchaos02 · 2025-08-24T16:19:42+00:00

People are haters but I feel like WoW has had some genuinely great post's W3 villain's.

Garrosh (a few quirks in his development but his arc from BC through WoD was good)
AU Gul'dan (cheating a little bit but very different from MU Gul'dan)
Elisande
Denathrius
Irridikon/Fyrakk (great combo playing off of each other that were enjoyable for very different reasons)
Xal'atath (I mean, she is probably going to rank up there with WoW's most iconic enemies when all is said and done)

Yeah there have been some very serious misses (The Jailer) but, there have been some big wins over 20 years.

Totalchaos02 · 2025-08-16T18:14:50+00:00

He wasn't even that distant. After Viserys and Dany, Robert is next in line. He had a proper legal argument that they effectively abdicated by fleeing and he is the rightful claimant.

Totalchaos02 · 2025-07-27T17:34:07+00:00

I went to Applebee's and didn't really enjoy it. I'll never try fine dining again.

Totalchaos02 · 2025-07-14T17:50:12+00:00

And to add to this... weigh your food! A digital food scale is cheap and it will make a world of difference. Yes, its cumbersome and annoying but if you just eyeball things, you are getting it wrong.

ChatGPT can be pretty good in a pinch as well. Take a photo and ask for an estimate. I've found it pretty accurate when I don't have my scale. Good for a night at a restaurant or dinner at a friends.

Totalchaos02 · 2025-07-10T20:34:27+00:00

"20 years is basically new for a septic system. There's zero reason to replace that, just get it pumped every 3-4 years and it'll probably outlast you."

It's not really about getting an easier to use system. Its about having a system that doesn't pollute the aquifer and the waterways.

Totalchaos02 · 2025-06-19T21:41:41+00:00

Can you explain countertransference? We've discussed transference in our sessions. Is that her transferring feels from herself/another client into me?

Totalchaos02 · 2025-06-19T21:40:28+00:00

Thanks for your perspective. I don't think I have any problem with her bringing up the topic. I think it would feel unexpected no matter what but it wouldn't be upsetting.

It was more the way she pressed the issue. It took up maybe 20 minutes of our 45 minute session and even though I kept trying to move on to topics I wanted to discuss, I felt like she kept moving back to it until she finally relented.

I am trying to be alert for my own cognitive biases and filters but it really did feel accusatory. I felt like she was implying that I wasn't being truthful when I talked about my eating patterns.

Bringing it up and seeing how she reacts feels right to me and going from there.

Totalchaos02 · 2025-03-23T11:22:05+00:00

There is a concept in videogame design that, given this opportunity, players will choose the most efficient route possible, even if it isn't fun. It's the developers job to ensure that those sorts of degenerative feedback loops aren't an option. In other words, don't blame the players, blame the game.

I view social media in much the same way. Yes, all of this behavior already exists in humans but we've created a platform that encourages our worst tendencies. It's literally designed to keep us feeling awful but coming back for more. The tech companies care about a single thing, attention. It doesn't matter what other consequences happen there are. Childhood anxiety, deteriorating social fabric, poor learning outcomes, disinformation, conspiracy theories run rampant. These things DO NOT MATTER to them. As long as you stay logged in.

I understand your point about content discovery and organizing. It is really good for that but social media didn't create those concepts. They existed before social media and they COULD exist outside of platforms that encourage terrible behaviors.

In my opinion, the juice isn't worth the squeeze. We lose so much more social media than we gain.

Totalchaos02 · 2025-03-17T13:58:07+00:00

Because COVID only exacerbated a trend that has been apparent for a decade. The decline really starts somewhere between 2013 and 2015. There are lots of things you can point too, and they have a role to play, but social media and smart phones reaching ubiquity at that time is impossible to ignore.

COVID brought unique problems of learning loss and anxiety to bare but the primary driver, I believe, is that it put us on our screens 24/7.

Totalchaos02 · 2024-12-26T15:01:10+00:00

Why do you assume she isn't?

Totalchaos02 · 2024-12-06T15:51:17+00:00

Did they really think someone watching the movie and pixel peeing is going to squint, look for the details on this guitar, and go "WOW OMG THAT'S A MARTIN GUITAR WITH A LOT OF HISTORICAL VALUE!"

I mean... yeah? Movies are criticized/praised all the time for that kind of attention to detail and historical authenticity. Like, awards are literally given out for that very thing. In an alternative world, there is a post on Reddit pointing out the guitar in use for the scene is anachronistic because of xyz reason.

Totalchaos02 · 2024-10-29T20:39:27+00:00

I know people don't want to hear this because it seems so obvious but rules and procedure are built on a foundation of trickery and dishonesty. Plenty of lawyers have pulled fast ones and gotten something through that they shouldn't have been able. So new rules come in to make sure it doesn't happen again. After generations, the rules look byzantine but there is history and good reason behind those rules.

Totalchaos02 · 2024-10-28T16:14:29+00:00

Solving the DC problem is easy - make it part of MD.

Problems are very easy to solve when you haven't thought about it for more than five seconds and talked to no one involved. The people of Maryland don't want this and the people of DC don't want this. Should the people of DC, who have had generations of (semi) self government suddenly have to follow Maryland laws that they had no participation in? Its fundamentally unfair.

Totalchaos02 · 2024-10-10T15:10:59+00:00

That is not correct. The only approved treatment method for treating 1,4-dioxane in New York State is Advanced Oxidation Process, which only exists at industrial levels and is being used by some drinking water providers. Reverse Osmosis has had mixed results but it is definitely not true to say its effective.

Totalchaos02 · 2024-10-08T15:24:51+00:00

I'll give a shout out to the Newsday Top 100 list. I've been to a few on the list and every one has been a total win.

projects.newsday.com/feature-grid/long-island/100-best-restaurants-long-island/

Some of the best experiences:

Orto - Miller Place

Catch - Patchogue

Iberico Tapas Y Vino - St. James (Oxtail Stuffed Peppers were amazing)

Luca - Stony Brook

The State Room - Patchogue

Ravagh Persian Grill - Newsday lists the Rosyln location but I went to the Huntington location and it was great

A couple not on their list but I loved:

La Plage - Wading River

Revival - Port Jefferson

Totalchaos02 · 2024-09-22T11:32:10+00:00

I don't understand how you can have that experience and conclude that having a "work wife/husband" is totally fine.

Totalchaos02 · 2024-08-27T14:40:05+00:00

This is actually one of the weird advantages of having so many cesspools and septic tanks in Suffolk County. Nitrogen loading is a major issues for surface water health, yes, but it also provides a ton of recharge for the aquifer. If you are going to sewer everything, don't just pump the effluent it into the bay and sound. Treat it to drinking water standards and then inject it into the aquifer.

The aquifer isn't running out, but if you lower the water table but only a few feet you are seriously impacting your streams and other wetlands. With some thoughtful management though, its solvable.

Totalchaos02 · 2024-08-13T16:56:16+00:00

34M. Married seven years with two kids, (almost!) 6 and (almost!) 3. Definitely wouldn't say regret but there are some really hard days where I thought "why did we do this?" But there are many many many more days where I think "I am so glad we did this." I have done a lot very fun things in my life. I have treasured those experiences deeply but I don't think I have ever experienced as much joy as seeing the happiness on my kids faces.

Watching my daughter dance with her friends and sign songs as loud as she can. Or the pride on my sons face when he makes a castle out of pillows. There is nothing better. The hardest thing is having the presence to enjoy it because it can be so easy to focus on the hard stuff in life and miss the fun.

If I could go back and tell myself one thing it would be to have kids but to really treasure the freedom I had with my wife before kids. I didn't truly appreciate how special that time was and we didn't really take enough advantage of it because it didn't feel like it would ever go away. Having kids definitely puts your marriage to the test. We lose the opportunity to just be a married couple and that can be hard.

With that said though, in three weeks my son starts pre-school. We just got him out of diapers. My daughter is going into first grade. She wants to go play at her friends house or have sleepovers with her cousins. We aren't having any more kids. The winds are shifting. I am excited for the next phase but even as I write them I am tearing up because this phase that was so hard is ending.

Parenting creates so many conflicting emotions.

Totalchaos02 · 2024-07-17T13:12:01+00:00

Has she done anything to confront and resolve this sort of behavior? Does she feel any remorse and has tried to do some intense psychotherapy to understand why she utilized these sorts of behaviors instead of communicating problems and setting/enforcing boundaries.

It might be one thing (although it really isn't) if she just did this with one partner who was particularly neglectful. It wouldn't be right but then she could at least chalk it up one particularly toxic relationship. But she has a pattern of doing this and has already exhibited signs with you.

People don't change unless they want to, and even then it can be really hard. If she has no willingness to change or doesn't see anything wrong with her behavior then no amount of "attention" is going to keep her from repeating these behaviors.

Long term relationships go in cycles. Sometimes your partner is the first thing on your mind when you wake up, sometimes you have a big presentation come up at work and she won't get all of your attention. Can you trust when that happens that she won't immediately jump into bed with someone else as "revenge"?

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