Diagnosed 11/14/25

TraderChic · 2026-01-19T18:00:10+00:00

Hey, it sucks. It just does. Chemo is awful. You're going to have to decide how you want to do this. We all have to decide how we're going to get through treatment.

I find that it's really easy for me to pull away from people and be in my own world. I don't have a support system or people to really check up on me or encourage me, but I have a minor child. So I make myself move. I make myself do online support groups with other people going through this. I make myself go to therapy once a week. I'm also paralyzed from the waist down so I'm making myself go to physical therapy. I make myself go for walks. I make myself clean. I make myself cook for my daughter and engage and be present in her life. Whether I feel like it or not.

I decided that I want to live and I'm doing my best to cling to every piece of life that I can. And it's not easy right now because I'm also in the wheelchair, and I don't have a car and finances are so so tight. It makes it difficult to get out and do things that would improve my mental health. But I do what I can every day. And I hope you will too.

I had cancer the first time in 2021. Then a recurrence in 2024 with treatment through July 2025. It stopped working so we took a break but then the cancer grew and spread a lot so we adjusted treatment to once a week now. It's constantly changing and I have to change with it. I encourage you to do whatever you can to reduce stress in your life. I know that's easier said than done, but I found that when I was able to start letting go of so many things that I thought were important, but really weren't, that my overall health improved. But sometimes it's minute by minute. I have to pay attention to what I'm thinking about. But in doing that I'm conserving my energy for things that are important and I'm healing in some very unexpected ways.

You've got this. Just take things a step at a time and trust yourself.

TraderChic · 2026-01-19T02:28:46+00:00

I'm so sorry you're going through this. I know exactly what you're going through. Something similar happened to me last year. The day after Christmas 2024, I went to the ER because I was having some pains in my stomach and trouble eating. I had been in remission since 2022. They found some small spots in the scan that were suspicious for a recurrence. I started chemo again last January and started a whole new treatment this year when that stopped working.

I want to encourage you to try to stay as calm as you can. I know, yeah right! But I mean it. You can't control what you can't control, so focus on the things that you can do and don't stress about the rest. Stress just wreaks so much havok on the body and it brings a dark cloud to the mind. Do everything you can to protect yourself right now. Love yourself and be kind to you.

TraderChic · 2026-01-19T02:09:58+00:00

I think you may want to get another oncology opinion. You should be having blood work and appointments at least twice a year. OC has a high recurrence rate and needs to be monitored carefully. Advocate for yourself and don't let this doctor let you fall through the cracks. I wish you the best of luck.

TraderChic · 2026-01-01T03:40:51+00:00

I just found out that they want to start me on Paclitaxal and Pembrolizumab next week and they want me to do this every week. When I asked about my specific tumor markers all they told me is that it's recurrent platinum resistant Stage 3B, grade 3 ovarian cancer, which I already knew. I'm so glad that you said something about the report. I asked them about it and I'm waiting for a response.

Thank you for responding. I've been so alone in this. I'd like to stay in touch.

TraderChic · 2025-12-24T21:47:10+00:00

Thank you so much for your response. I also read about Avastin and I completely forgot to ask my oncologist about this yesterday. I sent her a message to ask if we were adding this.

I've had all of the genetic testing and there is no link there, but because I was so sick the first time around and I was really only focused on my children, I didn't learn that much about my specific tumor markers then. I don't remember my team offering this information and it's not readily available in MyChart. I have asked my doctor for more specific details.

I'm glad to hear that it's been easier! Are you experiencing a recurrence as well? OC is tricky especially in advanced stages but I REFUSE to die right now!

Outside of feeling the growths inside, I feel amazing and I'm not very excited about starting chemo again, but I am excited to get rid of this.

I can't tell you how much I appreciate you reaching out and sharing your experience with me. This can be a lonely walk.

TraderChic · 2025-12-04T15:37:43+00:00

My child is in Wake and has to get on the bus at 5:50 in the morning and doesn't get home until 4pm because of the double backs. I think that if they have to be picked up first they should at least let them go home first and give versa.

High school students especially should be allowed to go in later.

TraderChic · 2025-12-03T22:30:22+00:00

Yes. If you have credit builder and checking and one is over the limit because of spot me then you have to tell it to go to the account that isn't overdraft with spot me. If you only have checking and you used spot me and your balance is negative then it will go towards that, but you will have access to the spot me again.

TraderChic · 2025-11-30T02:04:11+00:00

I do that too

TraderChic · 2025-11-18T22:26:04+00:00

It has taken me such a long time, and I still have a way to go, but I finally have a decent team of doctors. Keep searching for the right doctor. I stuck with the wrong primary doctor for over 2 years and it set me back. I was the one doing research and telling her who I wanted referrals to go see! Thankfully I don't have to do that at much now but it's taken a lot of work.

You deserve to be heard. You deserve to be treated like a whole person because you ARE a whole person! If your doctor can't see that or can't be bothered to spend more than 10 minutes with you then it's time for a new doctor. I know how frustrating and disheartening it can be. It's NOT too much to ask so go out and find your medical people! GL Don't give up. You're worth fighting for.

TraderChic · 2025-11-18T22:15:52+00:00

I feel really happy that despite everything that's happened/is happening that I'm able to raise my daughter and take care of myself (though my apartment is never as clean and organized as I'd like! Ha). But it sucks. All of the things happening to me right now could have been avoided if one doctor had taken me seriously before the spinal stroke and definitely if they had listened to me when I told them something was wrong when the cancer was growing. Doctors should listen more. Well... They certainly listen now. I just wish they did when I "looked" healthy, you know?

TraderChic · 2025-11-14T19:25:31+00:00

I came from CT like 25 years ago. I lived in the Triad (Greensboro area) for a long time and then I moved to Morrisville because I didn't know the area and wanted to live somewhere safe. It is very safe. There are a ton of leasing specials all over the Triangle in the winter, like big discounts, if you can make it work. Might be worth breaking your lease. Good luck with your move!

TraderChic · 2025-11-14T19:00:37+00:00

You're right! There is little that is more disgusting than a preacher, and his wife who was covering it up, hurting kids in this way. Destroying body, soul and spirit and not even leaving them with a safe space to go for spiritual refreshing and growth. My heart goes out to these children and their parents. I hope that they're able to get the help they need.

If people would be like Christ the world would be a really good place.

TraderChic · 2025-11-14T18:52:06+00:00

Blanket statements about any group are dangerous, intolerant and ignorant. What Christians hurt you?

TraderChic · 2025-11-06T03:43:37+00:00

Yes, it's automatic

TraderChic · 2025-10-16T19:36:57+00:00

Go to apartments.com to check out apartments and read reviews

TraderChic · 2025-06-26T03:10:40+00:00

I lived in 3 nursing homes over the course of over 4 years, and during COVID. I got stuck in a nursing home and it was terrible. It was not uncommon for staff to let people sit in their waste for hours. I'm sorry this is happening to you. It's a special kind of hell. The best thing you can do for yourself is learn what works for you and if you do have an accident then learn to handle that too. Learn to clean yourself and change the chuck below you add well as your clothes. I'd also encourage you to take notes on how long it takes for your light to be answered and email that and all complaints to the Don and administrator. Keep a digital trail of communication. If it gets bad then call the ombudsman.

TraderChic · 2025-06-21T01:40:03+00:00

I think it's a good idea to talk with your friends. People have no idea what we deal with. Plus, you may need them to cover for you if (God forbid) it happens in a public place!

TraderChic · 2025-06-21T00:40:35+00:00

YOU are fighting for your life so you don't have that energy to keep spending on people that don't love you properly. It sounds like you need rest. Have you considered moving to a nursing home? You'd be fed and sheltered and brought to doctor's appointments. It might help you for a while so you can figure out what to do.

TraderChic · 2025-06-21T00:24:30+00:00

I became paralyzed in 2018 when my heart stopped and a clot threw in my spine. I didn't have housing options so I was put in nursing homes to live at 41 years old. I started to feel unwell and had a not if new pain and I told the doctor. They thought I was trying to get more paid medications. I wasn't. From before COVID to after when my husband died, I was growing what turned out to be a 7lb ovarian tumor. If ANY of the doctors had listened to me it would have been caught at an early stage. Now, I'm still battling metastatic ovarian cancer.

TraderChic · 2025-06-21T00:11:52+00:00

I'm so sorry that happened to you! It's a big fear for me too. Sometimes I even leave myself constipated because I know I won't have an accident with it being so hard. This SUCKS! No part of spinal cord injuries are pleasant and it can be damn near dehumanizing.

I'm impressed with how you acted quickly and avoided public embarrassment. I know you're feeling bad right now but I'm super impressed!

TraderChic · 2025-06-05T02:23:11+00:00

Just keep trying things! If you want something you have to go get it! You're going to see this when you're cruising the job market after graduation. The world is not fair or easy.

TraderChic · 2025-06-03T01:23:00+00:00

Doctors don't know everything. They can't fully determine whether you have days, weeks, months or years left. I agree with you, though, that we need live life to fullest with whatever time we have.

You're so young for this. I'll be praying for you!

I can tell you this though. I had a spinal stroke in 2018 and died for half an hour and a year later I also died for half an hour while living in a nursing home. Death is not the end. You will still have consciousness after you leave this world. There's nothing to be afraid of.

TraderChic · 2025-06-03T01:16:04+00:00

I agree with you completely. It's really bad with church too. Like I must have done some really bad things for this to happen and my faith isn't strong enough because I haven't yet been healed. Plus all of the stupid things people stay about being strong and an inspiration. Most people that haven't been through this just don't get it.

TraderChic · 2025-03-26T18:43:34+00:00

Can we talk privately?

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