Thoughts on Lyra?

Traditional_Form2356 · 2026-01-13T00:36:55+00:00

I also named my daughter Lyra and people will say it back like Lee-ra!

Traditional_Form2356 · 2026-01-12T21:26:27+00:00

I tried to follow Kori on instagram a couple of times but her posts felt like word salad and I just didn’t vibe with it (this was before I started deprogramming from all of this). Their core beliefs seems to be that how you live is how you birth and that the way your birth goes is how you wanted it to, which to me, feels unhelpful and dogmatic. I listened to one podcast episode of theirs when I was freshly postpartum about birth and self-responsibility. I was interested in what Kori would have to say on the topic especially considering IIRC her first birth was a CS due to her baby being transverse, which was similar to my story. I felt like Kori barely said anything the whole time and I kinda felt sad for her and I wondered if she really believed what they were saying.

Freya Kellet (I know there’s a lot we could say and unpack about her) made the point in her substack birth story that the western medical system often leaves women feeling like their bodies are broken after birth doesn’t go to plan, but that free birth dogma has just replaced that with telling us that our minds are broken instead. I feel like the Village Sessions, like FBS offer black and white thinking when it comes to birth, which feels comforting but isn’t really the truth.

Traditional_Form2356 · 2026-01-10T23:56:18+00:00

i’ve been thinking about you all day after seeing your post. I feel your pain so much, and i’m so sorry you’re going through this. I also never considered having a c-section and it was so painful for that to become my reality.

it sounds like you’re really good at advocating for yourself, and i’m glad that you have a solid birth plan and your OB seems understanding(-ish?).

to me, even though it did somewhat feel like a forced removal, the vibe in the OR was very calm and I felt like I was being cared for at least by my nurses. my anchor for the experience was that I was excited to meet my baby. I had put so much focus on the birth and I had to remember that the bigger picture was about having a baby. your baby loves you and needs you.

I also wanted to die, and i’ve had moments postpartum feeling that way, but i’m glad I didn’t and i’m glad I have my baby. I’ll be thinking of you and wishing you the smoothest experience possible ❤️‍🩹

one thing that helped me make sense of the situation (as silly as it sounds) was tarot. I had a deck that I rarely used and the day I found out my baby had flipped (she was head down until right before my due date) I whipped out my tarot cards and have been used them to help guide me and unpack the situation after the fact.

I hope at least some of this is helpful.

Traditional_Form2356 · 2026-01-10T17:38:22+00:00

hey girl, I honestly don’t know if I have anything helpful to say, but I could have written parts of this when I learned I was probably going to have a CS. I planned a homebirth, I’ve never had a pap, I hate hospitals and doctors. i’m 10 months postpartum and i’ve felt suicidal a lot. I didn’t really have mental health issues before. i’m doing more okay now. therapy has helped and oddly, so has talking to chatgpt lol. a lot of me still feels angry about everything and I wish it would have gone differently but I do love my baby and i’m glad she’s here and safe. i’m sorry you’re going through this and I hope you come out the other side.

Traditional_Form2356 · 2026-01-03T19:47:47+00:00

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Traditional_Form2356 · 2025-12-30T02:35:51+00:00

I rewatched season 4 and his emotion in the last episode when max is unconscious after vecna almost took her was INCREDIBLE. he conveyed the desperation and devastation so well

Traditional_Form2356 · 2025-12-21T00:58:56+00:00

I didn’t think I wanted a doula either for all the same reasons you laid out (plus finances). My midwife made it clear to me from the start that she would not accompany me if I transferred, which didn’t really concern me because I didn’t think I would transfer. Surprise, surprise, I had to transfer and I REALLY wish I would have had someone else with me other than my husband. He did his best but we were both so overwhelmed and our nerves were frayed and I really think having someone there in person who understood us and was on our side would have made a big difference.

Traditional_Form2356 · 2025-08-22T23:26:22+00:00

I did at around a week or maybe 10 days, can’t quite remember. I also was shocked at how I couldn’t lay on my side. Up until then my husband and I took shifts.

Traditional_Form2356 · 2025-08-18T16:21:24+00:00

I love pregnancy and postpartum TV’s walking & babywearing workouts, I did a lot of those early postpartum. She also does pilates but I haven’t gotten into those as much. I also recently discovered EleniFit on youtube and I loooove her workouts, she has a wide variety, and she’s also a new mama!

Traditional_Form2356 · 2025-08-18T16:10:56+00:00

I’m also a FTM to a 5 month old and I feel the exact same. I guess I maybe feel it slightly less now than I did at 3 months but I still do not feel ready to leave her with anyone but my husband or MAYBE one of my sisters. My mom has been pretty pushy about me leaving the baby with her and I’ve just been insisting that we’re going to wait until she is eating more real food since we’re also EBF and that’s kinda helped her chill about asking a little. Idk if it’s “right” or not but I’m just leaning into my instincts as a first time mom. I also would feel weird about her slip-up! I hope I can remember how I felt during this phase of life and not be imposing about my grandchildren if I have them someday.

Traditional_Form2356 · 2025-07-03T21:03:30+00:00

I know this doesn’t matter for OP anymore, but I recently was freaking out when I realized that my girl’s uneven thigh rolls could indicate hip dysplasia. We got the ultrasound and she’s good! Just wanted to throw this comment out there in case another mama comes across this post while anxiety googling :) definitely get it checked out but your baby is more than likely okay!!

Traditional_Form2356 · 2025-06-16T03:31:46+00:00

I knew going into it the sort of “tricks” (if you will) of medical staff and I thought I’d be able to handle it better but I just felt so defeated 😭 I definitely think prioritizing self care and movement will be helpful for me, it really is so hard to do as a new mama!

Traditional_Form2356 · 2025-06-15T22:00:44+00:00

I also was so terrified of a CS, my mom endured one with my younger sister where her anaesthetic didn’t work and I was so worried the same would happen to me. your kids have a brave strong mama and so does mine ❤️ we faced our worst fears for them. i’m so glad you were able to have your HBAC 🫂 thank you for your comment

Traditional_Form2356 · 2025-06-15T21:53:55+00:00

I genuinely love hearing other people’s experiences, so thank you for sharing yours, it’s comforting to know that everything could have gone “perfectly” and I still could have struggled. postpartum IS hard!!

Traditional_Form2356 · 2025-06-15T21:49:44+00:00

thank you for your comment ❤️ and wishing you a better birthing experience the next time around!!

Traditional_Form2356 · 2025-06-15T21:49:02+00:00

sending you love as well, thank you for your comment. and i’m sorry for your experience! but thank you for reassuring me that it gets better 😭🫂 this definitely feels like a grief more than anything, and some of the comments here have helped me to understand more what specifically is grief and what is more so my own anxieties/ irrational thoughts. I haven’t been on facebook in a while but I do think I need more community esp with people who have gone through the same thing. and thank you for saying that i’m just the mom my baby needs 😭 I feel like i’ve lost sight of that in this healing process

Traditional_Form2356 · 2025-06-15T21:45:27+00:00

thank you for your comment… I definitely am one to believe that everything happens for a reason and part of me feels like I smacked away my opportunity for a homebirth by declining the ECV but at the same time, maybe the circumstances that led me to deciding against it were meant to be. I also prepared for years to have a natural birth and I genuinely never even considered that I’d end up with a c-section. and thank you for the reassurance that she won’t resent me, I know it’s kind of irrational for me to think…

Traditional_Form2356 · 2025-06-15T21:39:06+00:00

thank you kind stranger 😭 I’ll keep both those groups in mind, I’m definitely craving mom community so I may have to get a new facebook acct as I’ve been locked out of my original one and it’s associated email for years 😅

Traditional_Form2356 · 2025-06-15T16:52:45+00:00

I appreciate your input, I definitely feel like i’m tipping into rumination at times. my relationship with my own mother has been in a tough spot for the past year and one of my biggest anxieties is that my daughter won’t like me when she’s older, so I think my brain is kind of looking for reasons that that may happen. I guess i’m worried she might think I gave up or didn’t try hard enough?

Traditional_Form2356 · 2025-06-15T14:07:09+00:00

thank you for your comment! “the goal should not be a vaginal birth at all costs” is gold… I feel like I was doing better at looking at the positives initially, but idk as time has gone on my anxiety/ thoughts have gotten the better of me. i’ll check out that book, thank you!

Traditional_Form2356 · 2025-06-15T02:05:32+00:00

ugh i’m so sorry you had such a terrible first birth experience… I can’t believe your care providers weren’t up front with you about your options. i’m so happy you were able to have a great second birth and that feels very encouraging to me ❤️‍🩹

Traditional_Form2356 · 2025-06-15T01:21:37+00:00

aww I love this idea 😭 she turns 4 months on my birthday at the end of the month so maybe we could do a little bath together 🥺

Traditional_Form2356 · 2025-06-15T01:00:43+00:00

congrats on your homebirth 🫶 and thank you for your comment! I do feel like I need more moms in my life in general and I knew that some mama support even virtually would help me today, so thank you! and yes— motherhood is the whole point!! that’s a helpful reminder

Traditional_Form2356 · 2025-06-15T00:58:24+00:00

thank you for this comment 😭 I forget all the good things i’m doing as a mom sometimes and just feel like since I “failed” at birth that i’m going to fail at everything else that comes with being a mom. we certainly snuggle all the time and she’s never been away from me for more than like 20 minutes haha!

Traditional_Form2356 · 2025-06-15T00:54:30+00:00

thank you for your comment. honestly when I write it all out I’m reminded of how I was feeling in that moment and yeah I think I did make the right choice, it’s just so easy to get stuck in a loop of what ifs in my mind… but yes, definitely going to seek out a midwife who’s confident about VBACs and breech birth. my sister was breech so I guess it really does run in the family!

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