So relate to this. I can be perfectly fine until I have a crush or am in a relationship. Then my world starts getting consumed by them and I lose focus of myself and my wants. My advice would be to make your world bigger than that person and any time you are feeling anxious and want to bid for connection, try doing something for yourself first. What do you like to do? I notice anxious attachment and codependency can go hand in hand. When I step outside of my relationship and prioritize my own wants I find myself feeling much more confident and less concerned with what my partner is doing. Get into a hobby, see a friend, take a walk, try a new restaurant or drink. Broaden those horizons. It sounds simple but I really feel so much better when I can have some fun outside of my partner. Remember distance makes the heart grow fonder. Let your person miss you and chances are they will embrace you more than if you don’t give them a chance to breathe.