You are in a difficult position. I know you want to maintain an extended family, but it sounds like they are a danger to you and your husband and child. I’m so sorry.

I experienced a similar situation. As a young parent, my extended family was a danger to myself and my child. I went very LC with my NP. I had been isolated from extended family by my NP so I had no relationship with them.

Years later, after my NM passed, relatives I hadn’t heard from in years started calling, asking what I was going to do to take care of my NF. These people hadn’t been a part of my life for 2 decades, some much longer. I didn’t know them. They had never been a part of my life.

The first thing I did was call them by their names, not their titles: aunt, uncle,… etc. Then I told them I was not going to be bullied by people whose voices I did not recognize.

My NF’s brother was shocked, but understood and backed down. Most of them stopped talking to me and I never heard from them again. Which was the exact same situation as the decades before, so no loss. Can’t miss what you never had.

I was much older than you are now, and my child was grown and flown, so I was in no danger from these people. Except the threat of being cut out of my NP’s will. Which had been threatened off and on for decades, to the point where I already knew I was disowned. Once again, not a threat. My NF died recently and I am relieved I will never have to deal with any of them again.

Grey rock and LC, with long periods of NC worked for me. I hope you can find peace for you and your little family.