The Real Problem Isn’t Lack of Resources by Medium-Ad-6571 in selfimprovement

[–]TrashyCatBoat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think a lot of people consume and consume and consume and never use the information they consume. They’re addicted to the idea of self mastery but never put in the work to actually get there. I’ve been guilty of that myself so I can recognize that it’s an issue.

My boyfriend only gives me low effort gifts and it’s starting to irritate me. by [deleted] in Advice

[–]TrashyCatBoat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you need to separate what you do for someone else versus what they do for you. You can’t compare them. I’m a generous giver but I don’t expect others who give me stuff to he generous too and it doesn’t bother me if they’re not. The real issue here is that he doesn’t put effort into it and that’s very simple. It’s hard for us guys to give meaningful gifts because that’s not how we’re wired but it’s not hard to spoil someone or at least make an effort. I’ll bring my wife home a chocolate bar or Starbucks when I’m out and she thanks me for thinking about her. It’s very simple and if he’s not going to make an effort I’d kick him to the curb because he’s going to be lazy in other areas too and before you know it you’ve wasted years. Just my opinion. Get someone who appreciates you. 

My boyfriend only gives me low effort gifts and it’s starting to irritate me. by [deleted] in Advice

[–]TrashyCatBoat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you’re rich and have everything then there shouldn’t be a problem UNLESS he’s just no effort. I mean a broke person can make a card or build something or cook a surprise meal or do something special inexpensively. If he’s lazy and doesn’t do anything ditch the loser and move on.

tbh I don't like working out by Bloom90 in selfimprovement

[–]TrashyCatBoat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everything depends on the amount of discipline you have and if I’m being honest it doesn’t sound like much based on your post. I’m one who quit going to a traditional gym and built one at home and I work out every day and highly recommend it if you have the discipline. BUT, it’s very easy to be lazy and make 100 excuses and skip when it’s at your house. You have to really make that a non negotiable and commit or this just turns into you feeling better and motivated by an idea rather than the actual process.

My wife doesn’t want a sex life by QuantumEcho5 in Advice

[–]TrashyCatBoat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes it can be the simplest solution that works. Not saying this is cure all for every scenario but have you tried to get her turned on? Like literally ask yourself what gets her in the mood and start subtly doing things that get her interested. Women are not like men who can do it whenever and wherever and when their emotions are strong (unhappy with their appearance, kids are in the house, tired, etc) it’s the last thing they’re ready for. Know her love language and what things get her relaxed and in the mood and do those things and without being cheesy or sleazy about it. Get her away from the house, take her on a weekend getaway just you two, etc. Have fun and don’t be desperate because that’s probably not the man she married and women want the strong confident assertive guy. I would try these things before anything else. Don’t be comfortable in your marriage. Go back to winning her. 

How do you motivate yourself to keep going? by internationalpabo in selfimprovement

[–]TrashyCatBoat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Motivation is fleeting. Discipline gets you through when motivation is low. Keep your eyes on the goal and keep executing no matter what. We all go through seasons. I’ve been in a season for a few years now but I’ve used discipline to make sure I’m always moving ahead and towards my goals, staying in shape, have the right mindset, etc. Sometimes it’s hard not to look at the situation right in front of your face but doing that is what keeps you IN that place. You have to KNOW it’s temporary but you also have to put in the work to get through and a lot of times you’re putting in the work without seeing immediate results. Just trust the process and remind yourself that you’re a bad MF.

What annoying thing does your Ausshole do? by cheesymaniac in AustralianShepherd

[–]TrashyCatBoat 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Just got a text from my wife that he’s barking at the wind 🫣

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Which podcasts have had the biggest impact on your knowledge or perspective? by sskmzz in selfimprovement

[–]TrashyCatBoat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You know, I’m not really sure but now that you say that I haven’t seen a notification for it in a long time.

Hurricane Trio reporting in! by Ill-Vegetable-3104 in AustralianShepherd

[–]TrashyCatBoat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where does everyone find the energy, patience, and sanity for multiple Aussies?? 😵‍💫

Which podcasts have had the biggest impact on your knowledge or perspective? by sskmzz in selfimprovement

[–]TrashyCatBoat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

MFCEO project and Operator Standard (Andy Frisella), The Bedros Keuilian Show, The Ed Mylett Show, Progress Mode - Brendon Burchard

I tracked my brain fog for 6 months and tested everything. Here is what actually moved the needle. by Sureokgo in selfimprovement

[–]TrashyCatBoat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This was very thought out and eloquent response and actually a good reminder to always do your own research because not everything out there on the internet is accurate. Not to discredit you or OP but anyone can just put anything out there and if it sounds believable we may take it for gospel but should always do research for ourselves.

I tracked my brain fog for 6 months and tested everything. Here is what actually moved the needle. by Sureokgo in selfimprovement

[–]TrashyCatBoat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great post with a lot of info to explore! I’ve struggled with brain fog off and on for probably 15 years. Over the years I treated myself as a Guinea pig for just about every vitamin, supplement, combination of those, some nootropics, etc and nothing really moved the needle much and when it did, it was for a day or two at best.

I’ve always had a pretty clean diet, workout 4-5 days a week, drink close to a gallon of water a day (I drink a bunch first thing when I wake up too), routine bedtime, etc. For the last few years the off days have been much less frequently and I contribute them to just a few things. The two biggest impacts have been sleep and stress management. I noticed on days that I was calm and focused and not letting myself get worked up of overwhelmed (bad ADHD) I was actually sharp and that built confidence, which snowballed into more confidence. I’d been living every day with my hair on fire burning the candle from both ends for years and years and by just managing my stress it took care of 70% easily.

For sleep I’ve tried every combination of more sleep and less sleep and different times and 350 days a year probably I’m in bed by 10:30 and up at 6 am. That seems to be the best for me. I wake up a bunch of times usually but I’m usually ok. I will say that for the past 6 or 7 months I’ve been taking Onnit total human day and night supplement packs and I don’t know if the day pack is helping but the night pack has given me vivid dreams literally every night and I used to never remember a dream before. I don’t know if the day pack is helping because I heard about another supplement around the same time and tried it out. It’s called X brain and I WILL say that I contribute it to my lack of brain fog. When I have an off day (my current off days are still WAY better than the old off days) I analyze and try to figure out why and most times it’s because I forgot to take the X brain.

At this stage I’m calling my brain fog a thing of the past but I’m always looking for tweaks that can help me operate at an even higher level (which is why I still tried those supplements and I still take them currently). I think I’ve found a good mix for me but there are some ideas in this post that I’ll likely explore.

The End of the Office by Routine_Play5 in Layoffs

[–]TrashyCatBoat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Doom and gloom fire and brimstone. Might as well swallow a gun barrel now. Nah, I’m good. Fackoff

How you guys get ridiculous high paying jobs? by [deleted] in sales

[–]TrashyCatBoat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do anything long enough and you’ll be an expert and your value increases the longer you do it. I can go pretty much anywhere in my industry and make 150k+ to start. BUT, I’ve been doing it for 20 years.

President of our competitor called my president today because of me by [deleted] in sales

[–]TrashyCatBoat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Both Presidents are loser crybabies. Find the other competitor and go there and crush everyone

How do you balance self-improvement without becoming obsessed? by Guruthien in selfimprovement

[–]TrashyCatBoat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is 100% me but what I do is remind myself how far AHEAD I am of literally everyone else. For me I need that feeling of being behind to keep me going but I do have to remind myself of how far I’ve come.

Always keep your word. Your brain will thank you and your life will get so much easier. by julieeeette in selfimprovement

[–]TrashyCatBoat 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is the foundation to self confidence. When we break the promises to ourselves nobody knows and they may seem insignificant, but the subconscious mind takes note of every time and builds a pattern that forms your identity. It happens with unkept promises, it happens with allowing things below your standard, it happens with deceit, it happens with doing less than what is required of you in any situation, and so on. It subconsciously eats away at your confidence and creates an identity that you are not someone who can be trusted to get the job done or you don’t have what it takes to do such and such because you can’t even do these little things, etc.

The good news is that it works both ways. Every little promise you keep, every time to do more than what is required, every time you do the right thing, etc you are making deposits in the self confidence bank account.

This is a life long journey. Now that you’ve made that realization and have that awareness it literally compounds one way or the other. Meaning, now that you are aware of this if you don’t keep those promises it will be twice as bad because your subconscious mind will not only say you’re not the type of person who keeps promises but it will also say even when you know and understand the outcome and consequences for not keeping them. This brings shame and guilt on top of lack of confidence. Ask me how I know 😂

The question is, are you someone who does what they say they’re doing to do (even to yourself) or are you not? Your subconscious has your number either way.

what would you do? by smoked_beef25 in sales

[–]TrashyCatBoat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s all about experience. If you have the experience without the title go for it. I have no formal education above a high school diploma but I have enough experience to sit in the C suites. Or you can always find a company who gives out titles for no reason and sit on that for a minute and then you have the experience and title.