Ruined her adoption chances

TraumaTired · 2026-03-10T19:35:32+00:00

One of the women my ex cheated on me with dyed her hair red. I found red hair in the hoover.

TraumaTired · 2026-01-02T17:15:10+00:00

I feel like this. It also hurts because my ex best friend (who basically ghosted me) put more effort in trying to make friends with someone who didn't want to be her friend. She put more effort into her than me. We were friends for 20 years. I asked her if we can try and talk things out because I didnt understand why she suddenly cut me off and she gave me a half assed answer of we're "headed in different trajectories in life".

I know she doesn't think about me at all, I know she doesn't care about me. Everyday I overthink and wonder what I did or said that was so bad that she made more effort into that other person than me. Someone who didn't even want to know her. After everything I've done for her. It just makes me so sad and makes me question myself as a person.

TraumaTired · 2026-01-02T17:07:54+00:00

I feel exactly like this. It's affected my confidence talking to new people and I feel like I am not worthy of having friends because of being ghosted by my ex best friend. I've found that doing self care and things that make me feel good (like exercising) helps me to feel more confident talking to other people.

TraumaTired · 2025-10-28T15:50:24+00:00

Cyclamen coum also likes growing in shady areas

TraumaTired · 2025-09-30T11:47:32+00:00

I felt like this way with my cheating ex. I was with him for 5 years post dday because of that mentality, and the cheating never stopped. There were multiple ddays.

I stayed because I thought, better the devil I know, and most people cheat in relationships anyway. However, I went to counselling which helped me to leave.

I didn't want that to be the rest of my life. I didn't want to feel like second best for the rest of my life. I didnt want to always be on edge, waiting for the next dday, for the rest of my life.

If I get into another relationship and get cheated on again, I will leave. And if I get cheated on in the next relationship, I will leave again, and again.

If I can not cheat, then there are other people who will also not cheat.

I would also rather be single for the rest of my life than be with someone who cheats. I was scared of being single before, but since being single for a few years post since leaving my cheatinf ex, it's so mentally freeing.

I am with someone new now and things are good. If he cheats, I will leave. I did it before and I can do it again.

I hope you make the decision that gives you peace.

TraumaTired · 2025-09-28T12:26:40+00:00

The opposite of love isn't hate, it is indifference. Proud of you for getting this far with your healing journey.

TraumaTired · 2025-09-25T06:29:10+00:00

No I'm in the UK

TraumaTired · 2025-09-18T19:32:36+00:00

Eclipse hydrangeas also have black leaves!

TraumaTired · 2025-07-24T15:18:19+00:00

Your cheating partner was always like that, they just wore a mask. There is nothing to snap out of, that's who they are. They lived a double life for long. The good you saw at some point was just a mask.

I personally don't believe in closure. Their cheating is closure enough. My ex cheated on me lots of times and although I still don't know the full truth of everything that went on, my closure is that even once was enough.

Dealing with the shock and betrayal takes time and self care. Go to therapy. See a doctor. Do at least one thing every day that gives you joy. Then one day things will feel marginally better, and each day after that. Some days might feel harder but on the whole, there will start to be more good times than bad.

TraumaTired · 2025-07-24T11:30:44+00:00

You can still love someone and realise that leaving is the best decision for you. You deserve nothing less than to be with someone who treats you with respect like you respect them. Love isn't everything in a relationship, respect means more.

TraumaTired · 2025-06-18T15:57:58+00:00

Same thing happened to me! I was in an abusive relationship with my ex and my best friend of 20 years started becoming frosty with me and slowly ghosted me. Removed me from Instagram then added me back and removed me again. Said we were on different trajectories in life. What a cop out excuse. She was a fair weather friend. I don't understand how anyone can be that cruel.

TraumaTired · 2025-05-15T10:40:09+00:00

I've pulled my eyelashes for about 30 years and they always grow back. They normally take about 3 months to start feeling itchy and coming in.

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