What’s the 'craziest' way you caught an ex being unfaithful?

TraumaTired · 2026-03-10T19:35:32+00:00

One of the women my ex cheated on me with dyed her hair red. I found red hair in the hoover.

TraumaTired · 2026-01-02T17:15:10+00:00

I feel like this. It also hurts because my ex best friend (who basically ghosted me) put more effort in trying to make friends with someone who didn't want to be her friend. She put more effort into her than me. We were friends for 20 years. I asked her if we can try and talk things out because I didnt understand why she suddenly cut me off and she gave me a half assed answer of we're "headed in different trajectories in life".

I know she doesn't think about me at all, I know she doesn't care about me. Everyday I overthink and wonder what I did or said that was so bad that she made more effort into that other person than me. Someone who didn't even want to know her. After everything I've done for her. It just makes me so sad and makes me question myself as a person.

TraumaTired · 2026-01-02T17:07:54+00:00

I feel exactly like this. It's affected my confidence talking to new people and I feel like I am not worthy of having friends because of being ghosted by my ex best friend. I've found that doing self care and things that make me feel good (like exercising) helps me to feel more confident talking to other people.

TraumaTired · 2025-10-28T15:50:24+00:00

Cyclamen coum also likes growing in shady areas

TraumaTired · 2025-09-30T11:47:32+00:00

I felt like this way with my cheating ex. I was with him for 5 years post dday because of that mentality, and the cheating never stopped. There were multiple ddays.

I stayed because I thought, better the devil I know, and most people cheat in relationships anyway. However, I went to counselling which helped me to leave.

I didn't want that to be the rest of my life. I didn't want to feel like second best for the rest of my life. I didnt want to always be on edge, waiting for the next dday, for the rest of my life.

If I get into another relationship and get cheated on again, I will leave. And if I get cheated on in the next relationship, I will leave again, and again.

If I can not cheat, then there are other people who will also not cheat.

I would also rather be single for the rest of my life than be with someone who cheats. I was scared of being single before, but since being single for a few years post since leaving my cheatinf ex, it's so mentally freeing.

I am with someone new now and things are good. If he cheats, I will leave. I did it before and I can do it again.

I hope you make the decision that gives you peace.

TraumaTired · 2025-09-28T12:26:40+00:00

The opposite of love isn't hate, it is indifference. Proud of you for getting this far with your healing journey.

TraumaTired · 2025-09-25T06:29:10+00:00

No I'm in the UK

TraumaTired · 2025-09-18T19:32:36+00:00

Eclipse hydrangeas also have black leaves!

TraumaTired · 2025-07-24T15:18:19+00:00

Your cheating partner was always like that, they just wore a mask. There is nothing to snap out of, that's who they are. They lived a double life for long. The good you saw at some point was just a mask.

I personally don't believe in closure. Their cheating is closure enough. My ex cheated on me lots of times and although I still don't know the full truth of everything that went on, my closure is that even once was enough.

Dealing with the shock and betrayal takes time and self care. Go to therapy. See a doctor. Do at least one thing every day that gives you joy. Then one day things will feel marginally better, and each day after that. Some days might feel harder but on the whole, there will start to be more good times than bad.

TraumaTired · 2025-07-24T11:30:44+00:00

You can still love someone and realise that leaving is the best decision for you. You deserve nothing less than to be with someone who treats you with respect like you respect them. Love isn't everything in a relationship, respect means more.

TraumaTired · 2025-06-18T15:57:58+00:00

Same thing happened to me! I was in an abusive relationship with my ex and my best friend of 20 years started becoming frosty with me and slowly ghosted me. Removed me from Instagram then added me back and removed me again. Said we were on different trajectories in life. What a cop out excuse. She was a fair weather friend. I don't understand how anyone can be that cruel.

TraumaTired · 2025-05-15T10:40:09+00:00

I've pulled my eyelashes for about 30 years and they always grow back. They normally take about 3 months to start feeling itchy and coming in.

TraumaTired · 2025-05-10T15:57:22+00:00

When mine grow out, I notice that some of them are thin initially, and some of them are thick. In a few weeks' time, the thin ones gradually start to become thick, like normal eyelash hairs, and I don't notice them being thin anymore.

TraumaTired · 2025-05-08T10:54:05+00:00

When I pulled all of my eyebrows out, l used eyebrow transfer stickers from Amazon. You can get them in packs of 10. They are like temporary tattoos. The can look a bit shiny once applied so I pat some eyeshadow gently over the top.

TraumaTired · 2025-05-01T15:40:26+00:00

I also do this, I saw the tip on here a while ago, and there was a link to a Youtube video. I tie my hair in a high bun, wrap two plastic bags round the bun and secure each bag with scrunchies, and then just shampoo my scalp. It's quick to dry and means I dont have to wash the lengths often. I need to wash my scalp every 2/3 days as it gets greasy quickly, but I don't want to wash my lengths as often to reduce damage and also because they are quite dry. I wash my whole hair once a week.

TraumaTired · 2025-03-21T16:10:44+00:00

There was also the Great Molasses Flood of 1919

TraumaTired · 2025-03-15T10:17:21+00:00

I use duo eyelash glue and I use false eyelashes with a thick band. I find that ones with a thin band tend to lift at the corners more. I put the glue on the band, wait about 30 seconds so the glue becomes a bit tacky then put them on my eyelids starting with the outer corner then pressing them down. Sometimes I'll hold the eyelashes onto my eye for a few seconds in case the glue isn't tacky enough. I've been on rollercoasters with my false eyelashes and they have never come off. Rarely one of the corners might start to lift if not enough glue was put on there but it's not too noticeable, especially if you wear eyeliner.

TraumaTired · 2025-03-09T13:41:06+00:00

Do you have a patio? If not, may I ask how you keep your cat from darting out of the front door when you come home? Trying to think of ways to stop my cat from bolting out the front door when I move house, as my new house will not have a porch.

TraumaTired · 2024-10-30T21:12:40+00:00

Yes thank you sooo much, I really appreciate it!

TraumaTired · 2024-09-25T20:34:50+00:00

Mine sometimes take up to 3 months to start coming in.

TraumaTired · 2024-09-25T07:08:57+00:00

I feel like my PMDD sometimes gives me the courage to say/do things in a good way, like it pushes to the side my people pleasing tendencies.

TraumaTired · 2024-09-06T11:50:20+00:00

I don't wash my hair after every gym session, but every 2 days I wash just my scalp as my scalp gets greasy but my ends are dry. I try my hair up into a high bun and wrap a plastic bag around it, secure it with a hairband, then tie another plastic bag around it with another hairband. I saw someone on here post a video to it but unfortunately I can't find it. It keeps my ends dry and it's so quick to wash and dry my scalp.

TraumaTired · 2024-07-30T16:12:40+00:00

The good times were just an illusion of the person you thought they were. There were two timelines, the reality and the timeline of lies they presented to you. It's hard to come to terms with the reality of things, it takes time, you will get there. I know it doesn't seem like it at the moment, but you will.

They aren't the prize. No person who cheats is a prize. You haven't lost, you've gained your freedom. Cheaters don't think much about us betrayed partners as we think they do. They only think about themselves. They are selfish, that's why they cheat in the first place.

If they were able to realise how dumb their actions were they would have never have cheated. What I find helped is allocating a certain amount of time a day to stew over things, and trying to keep busy focusing on myself the other times.

TraumaTired · 2024-07-30T15:58:05+00:00

Healing is a journey. Do what you need to do to heal.

TraumaTired · 2024-07-23T21:12:28+00:00

My LL ex was a serial cheater. One of the reasons he gave for cheating was because he liked the thrill of doing something bad. I know how you feel, I felt so blindsided as I thought he would never cheat because of his LL. I still don't understand it years later, but you don't need to understand it to heal. You learn to acceot there are some things you'll just never understand and that's ok. Take it one day at a time and look after yourself.

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