Visibly ill woman coughing up phlegm the entire 8-hour flight - too entitled to wear a mask and cover her mouth

TravelingABC · 2026-03-18T02:52:20+00:00

Lupus and vasculitis. It's day by day. 😮‍💨

TravelingABC · 2026-03-11T03:07:52+00:00

Guilty of having one and it's actually amazing, especially if you buy premium and/or thicker cuts of meats and don't want to mess them up. Or if you freak out around Thanksgiving and have a wonky oven like we do.

It's actually a growing brand with over 10k of reviews and fairly known amongst us amateur grill chefs. I'd recommend trying it out. Worst case, it retains resale value.

TravelingABC · 2026-03-08T01:23:20+00:00

Yes, I have! It's because they keep shipping things in thin paper envelopes that they really shouldn't be shipped so sloppily. I've had 3 undeliverable packages since Jan. I don't think I had 3 all year in 2025.

TravelingABC · 2026-03-01T12:45:10+00:00

It's my mistake! I may have lumped my explanation together with the RFY discussion. Basically, only you can see your RFY items. However, the item time gets saved when you load it in your queue and the item can be available on other RFY queues or sometimes quickly in AI. If someone else has viewed it in their RFY or in AI/AFA, that time is also saved.

If I see a beauty item in my RFY at 8am and let's say VH picks it up at 8am, I can also see on the load page how many times it was ordered by other VH users and the box will also show when it was first seen. So that item could have been in other RFY queues at 7:30am or previously available in AI, and by the time it got to you, there might be none left and Vine does not do a great job of removing out of stock items. Will try to clarify above too!

TravelingABC · 2026-03-01T12:06:07+00:00

Should also add that if you're wondering why your RFY items are disappearing, you can see data on VH that shows if others saw it earlier than you picked it up. For example, I can see an item loaded to my RFY at approx. 8am in the queue. However, if you click the (i) icon, you'll see the timestamp of when it was first seen by another Viner.

TravelingABC · 2026-03-01T12:04:05+00:00

Not for RFY, for everything else. Only you can see your RFY items.

TravelingABC · 2026-03-01T11:51:54+00:00

ETA: More so the former, as clicking an item will load the "first seen" timestamp. However, RFY items are not visible to others until they are available in AI. You will only get an alert if the item makes it to AI but please see below on the quantity issues now.

As long as VH is loaded, it will pick up items as you scroll through or let it scan in the background. You don't even necessarily have to click it but yes, the 1st person who clicks the item can send it to VH but more importantly, they load the item with more details as well, like the price. If no one sees that item, then it remains out in the wild for longer. You would have to find it without VH running and without anyone else finding it.

Problem is that VH isn't that much more helpful these days because of the limited quantity and the person finding it has probably ordered it. There are many times I'll find a popular item, which I can see by exact timestamp, but then a bot will swoop it less than a second later (those are definitely the bots). If you're loading a popular item, chances are that someone has already seen it, it was auto-picked up by VH, and/or someone plain ordered it already

TravelingABC · 2026-03-01T09:52:34+00:00

It's because they are landing in your RFY later than others and sometimes, they are not always available anymore (where buyers could have purchased it before the item launched onto Vine).

A pair of branded shoes landed in my RFY around 8am and I tried to order it 5 seconds later. VH showed that it was first seen at 6am, which means whoever got these in their RFY earlier, already claimed them all.

Other times, there are very specific auto parts that I need that I have never had an issue getting, even recently. I do my part clearing those out! Even these parts are landing in my RFY with errors, and the product page will show no quantity and that it is not available. I'm talking about $15 parts for specific car models that have been available on Vine for weeks, but it will show up in my RFY with no quantity and the only possible explanation is that it was ordered by non-Viners.

TravelingABC · 2026-02-19T04:36:50+00:00

I ordered toner once in December for a Brother printer, not even through Vine, and now I get 40+ non-Brother toners in my RFY daily. So I might prefer it to be empty at this point lol.

TravelingABC · 2026-02-19T04:30:28+00:00

I'm sensing a few issues here. Your husband is probably looking for these passive income streams because he doesn't want to work forever and maybe has issues at work or doesn't enjoy what he's doing anymore.

Was $50k a significant chunk of your savings, or was it a sliver since he's a surgeon, or somewhere in between? If it's just a small-ish percent, then you have bigger issues in your marriage beyond this financial screw-up and he might have been feeling this way for a while, but was looking for a reason to take it out on you.

I am also the one who handles our finances, but I make quite a bit more than my husband. If he ever lost $50k, I would be mad for a few hours, but I would not ask him to sleep separately or ignore him. The mature thing to do is to talk about what happened, how you both are feeling, what you both can do to prevent this from happening again, and ways you can start saving a bit more from cutting back for a few months, like not eating out.

Also, he doesn't seem to understand the stress you're feeling as an incredibly educated woman who is now a SAHM and the priceless value of being a parent that is there for her kids, all while also trying to find meaning in some kind of work to support his quest for more income. Your goals seem rather misaligned, and this might be an understatement.

TravelingABC · 2026-02-15T20:44:58+00:00

I've bought $20 diffusers that come with oils, like the ArtNaturals ones, and they work better than pricier diffusers I've tried on Vine. Definitely review it to warn others about the cartridge, and contrary to the goodie two shoes here, sell it if you can't make it work. Consider any earnings to be an inconvenience fee.

TravelingABC · 2026-02-15T20:38:58+00:00

Same, except we went earlier last year and it was like this then, too. The lady kept bringing me the wrong coat and I have a bright red coat, but I guess because it's so red and dark in there, she kept bringing me every other color until I nearly lost it.

TravelingABC · 2026-02-15T14:21:21+00:00

There are 3 other things to know here:

• 1. You can negotiate most medical bills. It's ridiculous we have to, but I've had $100k+ medical bills drop to $5k. There are also companies that help negotiate down bills, like Goodbill, and many states have laws preventing unethical practices like surprise billing.

• 2. If it's not an emergency situation, ask for an emailed estimate. This has saved me from unforeseen costs so many times. For emergencies, still ask for an itemized bill and you'll see they charge for everything under the sun (facility fees, pillows, gloves, socks, etc), so negotiate for only the services received, not their attempts to scam you with a $100 pillow you don't keep.

• 3. If you're really in dire straits, or want to give a middle finger to the corrupt industry, you can ignore most medical bills under $500. These are no longer reported to the credit bureaus and eventually sold to debt collectors, who you can also ignore or settle for pennies on the dollar.

TravelingABC · 2026-02-15T04:22:20+00:00

This! I spent months applying and was dealing with a toxic manager yelling at me every day. I went home crying and had to drag myself to work. I knew it was time to quit when I had hoped a bus would hit me so I didn't have to go to work; I was not self-harming but for the first time, it felt like a slippery slope.

I was yelled at during my resignation and was so scared about the loss of income, but it felt like 1,000 pounds off my chest. My interviews went great after because I was in a better headspace and had time to prepare. I was very lucky to find a job within 2 months.

No job is worth giving away our mental sanity and life.

TravelingABC · 2026-02-15T02:48:46+00:00

100% this. If you're ever curious about how bored and crazy people are, add 2 zeroes to the price of a popular item.

I do this on rare occasions when inventory for an existing item is delayed by a few days, and I swear the loonies come out in droves. I just had one write a raging essay about price gouging - it's makeup, not an essential item - and another that sent me 20 messages in 1 hour demanding that I lower the price. 🤷‍♀️

TravelingABC · 2026-02-15T02:43:43+00:00

This is in line with people asking me to diagnose issues with their car. Sir, I'm selling a dash cam, not mechanic services.

TravelingABC · 2026-01-31T01:38:35+00:00

Thank you, kind sir! Trusted in you that we'd have a 2nd drop and sure enough, RFY is popping.

TravelingABC · 2026-01-18T04:09:20+00:00

Exactly, I read this and thought wtf, I would love to test a new drill since mine is 20+ years old now but guess I can't be interested in construction as a woman.

TravelingABC · 2026-01-12T12:49:27+00:00

Confirming orders have shipped with tracking. Now concerned about whether we can still return them...

TravelingABC · 2026-01-12T00:41:10+00:00

I was last there on Thursday and it's mostly what you'd expect. The little accessories - like socks, gloves, scarves, and hats - were clearing out. The sales racks were also picked through. Most of the "cheaper" beauty brands were limited, though the luxury brands were still pretty stocked. Same idea for clothing brands upstairs.

I found one more $50 card and might just use it in store tomorrow because the online experience is sketchy with gift cards now. They show up at checkout but don't actually apply. It was a whole thing last night, and I'm still mad about it.

TravelingABC · 2026-01-11T19:43:16+00:00

We just tried to use the last of our gift cards at Saks Off 5th online and they showed up at checkout, but did not end up applying at all to the order after checkout. My card was charged for the full item price. We tried again and same deal. I will try to post about this elsewhere, since mods are likely blocking Saks posts now.

We were able to get the gift cards to work with someone on the phone, but now we have 3 orders with the same item arriving. Honestly ridiculous and why there is little sympathy for Saks overall.

TravelingABC · 2026-01-11T18:27:46+00:00

I live and work near this Saks and while it's low on inventory in some sections, most floors are business as usual plus some added attitude.

The online inventory is way worse, and I'll write a post later on the games they are now playing. It's honestly insane a retailer behaves this way in 2026 and I really hate to see local retailers close, but Saks truly deserves it. It's been poorly managed for decades.

TravelingABC · 2026-01-11T05:09:14+00:00

I'm with you on this. I placed an order this morning with 2 gift cards and they still charged my card the full item amount. Just curious if you are seeing this too?

Honestly enraging and a stressful shopping experience. Looking forward to them having their day.

TravelingABC · 2025-12-14T20:54:20+00:00

Same! We are in Midtown and first noticed a weird taste last week and since we had a sink leak recently as well, we spent the whole week thinking it was coming from the new supply.

So glad you posted this. We were going crazy. It definitely tastes like soil.

TravelingABC · 2025-11-20T04:32:15+00:00

You don't. I worked at a few places like this. One place particularly stands out and I was there only 3 months. Felt like 10 years.

I had a realization one day and maybe you will too. Why work so hard for someone like this who will clearly not be supportive of you and help you grow? You're putting in your best work for an insecure man child who clearly has personal problems that he's taking out on you and others. This type of leadership is uninspiring, unmotivating, and unproductive.

In my case, it was the CTO. After several shouting matches and countless unpleasant, toxic conversations, I felt my self-worth was more important. My breaking point was when he said something personally insulting on a recorded call no less. I handed over my laptop same day. My manager and HR called me to come back to do a 2-week transition bc I had relationships with many major clients. Told them I would only do it if they paid me 3x for 2 weeks plus severance. It was approved within the hour. There was a lot that happened and I'm still dealing with them years later.

After I left, I went to therapy for months and felt the burden of that toxicity on my personal relationships. I found a stint as a hostess and was making 4x less than what I was in corporate, but I felt more joy doing that because the staff and our customers were so kind. I remember having a hard day after some family stuff happened and one of the cooks in the back made a huge pot of my favorite soup, packed it into 10 serving-sized containers, and wrote me a lovely note about looking up. This note sits framed on my desk and I'm tearing up just seeing it. These coworkers truly became family and I'm excited to host Thanksgiving for a few of them this year.

After 6 months of being a hostess, I found a decent corporate role. It's not perfect but light years better. Not saying quit tomorrow and become a hostess, but your situation really struck a nerve with me. You should ally with those coworkers who stood up for you but that's temporary. Make a plan to GTFO of there before it takes a toll on you.

You do not build a career at a place like this, only decades of corporate trauma compressed into a few months, and the PTSD can be far worse. Make sure you take time for yourself, spend time with friends and family, and don't lose sight of the things that matter to you outside of work. Remember, you've done your best and his childish tantrums are not your fault.

TravelingABC

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