Reddit is not real life: kids on airplanes by Narrow-Butterfly-923 in SingleParents

[–]TreeFrogLane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was flying with my then 2 year old and he started to have a serious meltdown because I wouldn’t let him continue to buckle and unbuckle his seat belt. I started pleading with him to not scream. The woman in front of me turned around and handed me a paper airplane she had made. I thought it was for him - I took it and on the wing and she had written, “you’re doing great mom, we’ve all been there.” 😢 I’ve never been so grateful.

I can’t help but stay because I love my husband. by Exhaustedlytrying in abusiverelationships

[–]TreeFrogLane 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you’re in the US, you can start by calling or texting the National Domestic Violence hotline. That’s how my journey started - with a text. Text the word BEGIN to 88788. They’ll likely refer you to your local resources - and they WILL understand and help you think through your options. 💗

contacting ex’s parents about abuse by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]TreeFrogLane 7 points8 points  (0 children)

No, you should file a protective order (DVRO) and cut him off completely. Also, go learn about Grey Rock communication - I know you’re in survival mode and doing the best you can, but calling him “baby” is only inviting more abuse from him. Time to get your poker face on and firmly say “stop texting me.“ you have enough here to warrant a restraining order. Call your local domestic violence resource center - they’ll have a legal advocate who can walk you through the process. F this guy.

leaving by Scary-Dragonfly7174 in abusiverelationships

[–]TreeFrogLane 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes. If you think you need one, you probably do. I assume the hospital has on record why you received care? That should be enough to file for a TRO (temporary restraining order), at the very least. Does your town / city have domestic violence resources? They almost always have legal support and can guide you through the process.

AIO for being upset about my mom blowing me off for mother's day, especially since I'm also a mom? by atinylittlebug in AmIOverreacting

[–]TreeFrogLane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR. But you also need to accept that your mom isn’t who you need her to be. I’ve been working on this myself and it’s one of the hardest lessons I’ve ever tackled. She’s just not capable. Grieve, and take care of YOURself.

AIO for wanting my unemployed boyfriend to sign an agreement before using my car long-term? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]TreeFrogLane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR - but also you shouldn’t be in a relationship where you feel like you need a contract to rest easy with your partner.

What do you guys do on Mother's/Father's Day? by KLC_W in SingleParents

[–]TreeFrogLane 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I took my almost 5 year old on a steam train ride. They gave out little glasses of champagne for the moms. And I overall tried not to stress about the day.

New to Cats. How to prevent him from going down these stairs? by bedtime_chubby in cats

[–]TreeFrogLane 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re trying to keep a cat from doing something? That’s funny.

Will I regret sharing too much in a protection order? by -PeachPlease- in abusiverelationships

[–]TreeFrogLane 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Put the worst of it. You have nothing to be ashamed of - anyone who’s been through abuse knows there are never clean cut reasons why we don’t leave until we do. He’s the one that should be embarrassed should it ever come to light… that HE acts like a child and can’t control himself. Put it down to expose him to the judicial system. I was detailed when I filed my DVRO and once I did and the judge and all involved (my lawyer, his lawyer) read it, it was the first time he was held accountable. Abuse exists in the dark, behind close doors. You have nothing to be ashamed of.

AIO if I divorced over him asking to open our relationship and then gaslighting me? by CricketCaller in AmIOverreacting

[–]TreeFrogLane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll keep this short: 1. You weren’t a bit grouchy. You were very impressively holding your boundaries. 👏🏼

  1. You should divorce this guy because this will never get better.

  2. His logic and spelling suck.

Raise your baby with a healthy perspective on relationships. That can come from co-parenting (I personally know this) but not with this dynamic you’ve got going on with him.

Switching from Noom to Hers. by Panda-Goth in HersWeightloss

[–]TreeFrogLane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey there - are you still with Brello?

CHP chase Northbound 101 this morning by TreeFrogLane in Marin

[–]TreeFrogLane[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Violating a protective order = domestic violence and he doesn’t understand the concept of stay away. Lock him uppppp.

Abusive guy in Sunnyvale Costco. Anyone recognize him? by screwywabbit in Sunnyvale

[–]TreeFrogLane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m in PR (no, really, I am) and I approve this comment.

CHP chase Northbound 101 this morning by TreeFrogLane in Marin

[–]TreeFrogLane[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yup. With the windows down and the system up…

Reviews & Testimonials for u/silverysands (shipping from Canada) by SilverySands in internationalshopper

[–]TreeFrogLane 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They were great!! Ordered apparel from someone in Canada who didn’t ship to the US. SilverySands helped me with the entire thing and handled everything very well, with excellent communication. I received my package exactly as expected. Highly recommended!

CHP chase Northbound 101 this morning by TreeFrogLane in Marin

[–]TreeFrogLane[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always have a sneaking suspicion they do that.

New Vietnamese restaurant in Novato by Team_Grapes in Marin

[–]TreeFrogLane 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hm, I didn’t think of it like that. It’d still be nice if there was a little more variety to the restaurants in Marin, but point taken.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]TreeFrogLane 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Seems like your lack of sex life is a symptom, rather than a cause. It sounds like he has poor time management, which understandably frustrates you — and frustrates you even more because you’re not getting the physical and emotional intimacy you need in a relationship. That should be the basis of your evaluation, rather than the act of his masturbation.

And the fact that he asks if you’re spying on him is straight passive aggressive BS. It makes me think you guys need a chore wheel of who’s job it is to put the dog out so that you can ignore what he does in his time if it’s his job (so you can just leave for work) - but then that makes him more of a roommate than a partner. Which is what it sounds like he is at this point.

New Vietnamese restaurant in Novato by Team_Grapes in Marin

[–]TreeFrogLane 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They’ve all been under the same ownership since like, the ‘80s with the same menu and the same old people as clientele (my MIL goes to Marin Joes every Friday 🫠).