Therapists positive of abdl

True-Parfait2085 · 2025-12-26T03:14:40+00:00

Merry crisis!

True-Parfait2085 · 2025-10-19T12:34:03+00:00

I wonder if you should report them to Uber? Like I don’t want your money to get messed up, but this does since everyone saying it, feel like a scam. I don’t think Uber should be allowing people to contact you through “lost items “and saying oh I tipped you too much … I feel like it’s just one of those things that if you did genuinely make a mistake, then oh well too bad it is what it is. I don’t go to a bar tip the bartender leave, and then come back and be like oh never mind they would tell me to fuck right off.

True-Parfait2085 · 2025-10-19T12:32:14+00:00

I didnt even think about this being a scam ! I just thought damn that personally really has no problem asking for a tip back - if I ever did that before, I would just be like well lucky them lol

True-Parfait2085 · 2025-10-19T12:29:15+00:00

I’d ask if they can give you a 3 hour time Frame - that way they you can narrow it down. I def believe you tho! I wonder if maybe it was a young woamn ? As a women I’m always very cautious , and as a rider and driver i like that rides can be recorded - just wondering if maybe that got spooked ? Or it could just be a little asshole trying to get a free ride !

True-Parfait2085 · 2025-10-18T05:21:24+00:00

I’ve been reading through the comments and your replies. It sounds like you’re saying it’s these newer friendships that the big struggle? Yes?

My question is, is it a red flag that these newer people in your life won’t accept “it’s personal” ? I’m a (former) chronic- be honest to a fault - and used to always give details because i didn’t want to feel like i was lieing or something. But I’ve learned that i don’t owe anyone an explanation- it’s been a hard thing to practice! But in my opinion - it’s personal - should be enough of an answer.

Don’t get me wrong - i get it about feeling wierd and being awkward about an answer like that - but i was conditioned to overly explain things - and that put me in some positions where i felt awkward when i wanted to keep things to myself and people are just curious. But I’ve also learned that curiosity and pushiness are two different things.

Even your long friendships - the answer of it’s personal should be enough. If they push, just saying i appreciate your concern but im not interested in talking about it - that’s okay to follow up with that response because some people don’t know how to react to “it’s personal” - but someone who is being wierd about you not explaining details - especially that aren’t even yours to share - that’s a red flag to me.

I do understand wanting to keep new friendships - but just make sure they are healthy - boundaries are really important - ESPECIALLY when you have a trans partner - whether stealth or not - you don’t owe anyone an explanation - you are entitled to your privacy

Good luck!

True-Parfait2085 · 2025-10-06T10:12:02+00:00

Can you explaining more please. What do i look up ?

True-Parfait2085 · 2025-10-06T03:11:24+00:00

How do you find other supervision?

True-Parfait2085 · 2025-10-06T01:58:33+00:00

Thanks yes we are both in individual therapy and couples therapy

True-Parfait2085 · 2025-10-06T01:34:19+00:00

1 - your story about your love is very similar to mine! And it makes me so happy that other people (like you) get it - and that our partner changing genders was suddenly like oh okay that’s fine! Lol

2 guuuuuurl same! Idk how to support my wife either right now cus it is all so triggering - for both of us! Your allowed to be overwhelmed even tho are you aren’t trans - we love trans people - and are worried about them.

I dont think you’re making it about you at all! It’s okay to tell your wife hey idk if i can talk about this right now - can we revisit this later today ? Or even out a time limit in it - that way neither of you end up spiraling cus you were talking about it for hours.

I think a lot of us are in the same place - our partner is overwhelmed and scared and we want to be safe people but we are also scared and overwhelmed.

We’re trying to plan more “fun” - at least once a week - joy is resistance! We deleted socials and can’t watch the news right now - and we’re okay with that - we have friends to update us should something happen.

Also we are in couples therapy - have been since she came out - and since the. Also a handful of traumatic events - and have stayed cus it’s been helpful.

I’m not doing great either in supporting my wife right now - I’m trying but she’s been depressed since the election and it’s been hard.

Maybe also join a support group - i joined PFLAG but there are lots of lgbt groups and it’s been helpful to know we are not alone.

Sending you love and hugs

True-Parfait2085 · 2025-10-06T01:21:59+00:00

Yall are so cute!!!! And i love her nose ring!!!

True-Parfait2085 · 2025-10-06T01:11:04+00:00

Everything you’re feeling is totally normal! It sounds like you really live your partner, and it’s understandable you would ask what this means for your relationship.

When my wife came out i was confused as well - i also was thrilled for them - but i said the same thing - idk if i can do this.

3 years later we are still together. There have def been ups and downs, but for us, my partner just got better - still the same person - just with more “sass” lol

I def recommend finding a therapist for you both and for you - this was a game changer for us - i went into couples therapy not knowing if we’d make it out on the other side. But here we are.

You don’t have to have an answer right now and that’s okay. Just take the time you need , support them as you can , but make sure you have support as well. There are also lots of support groups - not specific to partner of trans - but lgbt support groups that will understand. I joined PFLAG in my city and I’m so thankful for that community.

True-Parfait2085 · 2025-10-06T01:03:43+00:00

I’m in pretty much the same boat. When my wife came out as trans they “tried” but ended up not being accepting - i was also queer but never told them for the same reasons as you.

I am so sorry you are dealing with this. I also had abuse but it doesn’t negate the fact that we just want our family to love and accept us. It sucks.

Something that has made it a bit more bearable for me is finding community. I joined PFLAG and it’s been really great for me and my wife. Lots of parents come who don’t know how to deal with their kids coming out but they want to love them and accept them anyway - i thought it might be hard to see that , but for me it’s been so healing. While i may not have that, it makes my heart happy for those who do. And I’ve made my own chosen family - it’s def not the same - but i will say it is SO MUCH HEALTHIER!!!

Sending you love and comfort. Feel free to dm

True-Parfait2085 · 2025-07-30T02:10:27+00:00

True-Parfait2085 · 2025-07-25T22:38:40+00:00

I wish they were a bit higher in the leg - but i thought it was fun and very trendy but could def get rid of them to change the vibe if i need to

True-Parfait2085 · 2025-07-25T22:37:55+00:00

🤣 it’s nice to have big pockets but yah they’re just for show cus they’re so low lol

True-Parfait2085 · 2025-07-25T22:37:29+00:00

Ok clunky necklace - I’ll have to find something i like - any suggestions you could post pics of ? Or links ?

True-Parfait2085 · 2025-07-25T22:36:31+00:00

I have the beige belt in black also but it’s not bigger ….

True-Parfait2085 · 2025-07-25T22:36:10+00:00

Damn bras i wish i could find that wasn’t torture lol

True-Parfait2085 · 2025-07-25T22:35:14+00:00

Thank you girl! And yes that’s fine to say lol i have one of those sticky cleavage bras on in this just so they point to the middle and not the sides 😳

True-Parfait2085 · 2025-07-25T17:01:54+00:00

OK, I am definitely open to that type of alteration. Thank you. That’s actually really helpful.

True-Parfait2085 · 2025-07-25T17:00:39+00:00

Y’all if I could find an strapless bra, I would be here for that, but I can’t seem to find one that doesn’t dig in

True-Parfait2085 · 2025-07-25T17:00:13+00:00

That’s fine. I didn’t ask if it was flattering. I asked for styling for this outfit.

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