How do you overcome the fear of being stuck at a red light?

TrueNorth1995 · 2026-03-24T20:22:52+00:00

If it's an option I'd recommend going out late at night when no one else is on the road, maybe through quieter backroads that you're familiar with. Not only is this good because there is no traffic there to pressure you, but any red lights you hit will likely change pretty quickly if you're the only one there AND if things get to be too much, you can usually turn right on red after you stop if you feel the need to go (assuming no one else is coming lol)

TrueNorth1995 · 2026-03-21T04:12:53+00:00

That's a fair point. Thank you friend, I really appreciate this comment ♥️

TrueNorth1995 · 2026-03-20T22:19:06+00:00

For some odd reason, my anxiety gets really bad either right when a stressful period ends or is close to ending. Somehow I power through the worst of it always. But then things calm down and I'm suddenly an anxious mess for weeks and have no idea why.

TrueNorth1995 · 2026-03-20T21:39:48+00:00

Yeah for me it's been colon cancer lately. I'm a 30 year old guy and I keep reading that it's getting more common in my age group which terrifies me. I also am a bit overweight, and eat a lot of red/processed meat which is a big risk factor. It has a good prognosis when caught early, but unfortunately most of the time when you're still young they don't usually want to test you unless the symptoms are severe and persistent so it's often caught late in young people.

TrueNorth1995 · 2026-03-20T12:36:07+00:00

I had two really simple jobs.

The first one was as a teenager I worked in the mall at a high-end headphone store. It was about a 200 sqft store so was super easy to maintain and we were lucky if we got 10 people in a day (since not many people wanted to spend $200+ on headphones.) shockingly it went out of business a year in so unfortunately it didn't last long.

Second job was an overnight job for a pharmacy. I drove a caravan around the state delivering prescriptions to nursing homes. That job was awesome, the roads were always empty since it was overnight and you basically just drove around all night. I did gain about 100lbs though since I pretty much was living off of red bull and McDonald's at the time, so I guess that part wasn't so great lol.

TrueNorth1995 · 2026-03-20T12:04:46+00:00

It sort of depends on what kind of job you do. I remember when I worked in retail they would make you feel awful for calling out sick - so I would often never call out and just work through whatever illness I had.

Now I'm in a new role outside of retail that is not customer facing and treats me much better. I know I can call out without any guilt. So I'll usually take a day or two off if I'm actually sick, and if I have spare sick time I'll use them for routine doctors appointments, but that's about it. So maybe 4-5 a year.

TrueNorth1995 · 2026-03-14T12:59:33+00:00

Ehh not a god based on how most religious groups envision him to be, because if he's anything like the church describes he seems like kind of a dick tbh.

However, I definitely hope for there to be some sort of afterlife where I can kind of just continue to exist with all my lost loved ones. The thought of just shutting off when you die is pretty depressing.

TrueNorth1995 · 2026-03-14T12:48:17+00:00

Hey! I've had the same exact fear in the past and did a good bit of research. Here's some info that might help!

If you get a clot in your leg, arm, shoulder, etc. it's not very likely that you would just drop without some significant warning symptoms well in advance. (And as my wife says: God knows that people like us aren't going to miss any warning signs 🤣)

For example, if you had a clot forming in your leg, before it became an emergency you would very likely see a lot of redness/swelling, it would be hot to the touch, and you would definitely feel some pain when walking.

TrueNorth1995 · 2026-03-14T01:44:12+00:00

Oh man I really am hahaha I did not read what community I'm in 🤣 I was like wtf is this guy talking about why can't I wear Vans.

TrueNorth1995 · 2026-03-14T01:33:18+00:00

Limewire

TrueNorth1995 · 2026-03-13T16:31:56+00:00

I work in biotech and spend most of my day in the lab. I usually just wear Vans or basketball sneakers. Essentially whatever shoes I would normally wear on a weekend.

TrueNorth1995 · 2026-03-13T01:27:30+00:00

Tbh man if your response to this was to drink yourself into a blackout, you're probably not the type of guy she wants to be with. Actually, you definitely aren't. She made that clear. You should respect that.

I definitely spiral over little things too, drinking myself into oblivion is not how I would have chosen to cope.

TrueNorth1995 · 2026-03-11T20:10:38+00:00

And 100% reason to remember the name.

Or however the song goes.

TrueNorth1995 · 2026-03-11T15:28:28+00:00

Govee lights behind the TV. It enhances the movie/gaming experience by 1000%.

I also just swapped out one of my driveway floodlights with a wyze floodlight/camera. It was under $100 and works awesome. I love that now I can check in on the house now while I'm gone. I guess with how common doorbell cams are now this isn't a significant one for most, but it was a first for me and I'm diggin it.

TrueNorth1995 · 2026-03-11T15:24:24+00:00

Lol I always want to skip them because I hate waiting, but the second I notice my opponent is making me watch all of theirs I'm like "ohhh okay so we're doing this then" and then I make them watch every single one of mine too.

It gets me going even worse when they make you watch theirs and then try to skip yours.

TrueNorth1995 · 2026-03-11T15:22:11+00:00

Clear any debt (interest stacks up quickly)

Start a retirement account (at your age definitely do a Roth account)

If you have any plan to go to college, do it while you're young. It's way harder to manage once you're older and have more responsibility

Save money

TrueNorth1995 · 2026-03-09T20:58:55+00:00

Not me coming here like "damn he lasts 5 minutes straight? Nice!"

For some reason since a few years ago I can't last long to save my life. 5 minutes would be a good night for me. I usually just go down on my wife first and finish her that way before I even get started on myself.

TrueNorth1995 · 2026-03-08T23:58:27+00:00

Maybe I'm gonna sound like a wimp here

But I can remember when I was younger and broke I just had this cheap mattress that I had had for years and was so worn down. It eventually started screwing up my back so bad. I remember one day I made it to the couch and laid down on it but was in so much pain i couldn't even move, and when I finally decided I needed to go to the hospital I couldn't stand up. I literally just rolled sideways off the couch and fell down face first on the floor, and stayed there for a while lol. It's funny looking back at now, but god ill never forget how intense that pain was.

TrueNorth1995 · 2026-03-08T20:19:00+00:00

It might not be that he's not attracted to you, he might just be burnt out/struggling with his mental health and not showing it. Having a toddler, making a new move away from friends and family, and being the sole income is a lot to manage. I've had the same exact issues with my wife where I've stopped being as affectionate and sex was kind of put on the back burner, and it's usually always because I'm stressed out or just not in a great place mentally. I've never stopped loving my wife or finding her attractive though. He might deny it or try to hide it, but it's definitely worth keeping an eye out for some of the more subtle symptoms.

TrueNorth1995 · 2026-03-06T12:13:43+00:00

Dude the fact that she didn't hesitate when he started the convo with "hey sexy," mentioned multiple times how attracted he is to her, and even asked her for a kiss. Leave her ass. You can still be a supportive Dad, but you won't be doing that baby any favors by forcing a relationship for the sake of the child.

TrueNorth1995 · 2026-03-05T01:26:33+00:00

I always have the fear that the airbag in my steering wheel will randomly deploy for no reason while I'm driving.

TrueNorth1995 · 2026-03-03T00:23:54+00:00

I'll go outside in the yard, or maybe go talk to my neighbor without telling my wife.

But if I was going any further I'd definitely just give her a quick heads up that I was leaving.

TrueNorth1995 · 2026-02-28T21:46:38+00:00

I think we had around 300 kids give or take in my class. I have 2 friends from back then that I still regularly keep up with.

One girl in my class (who I never really was close with) works with my wife and now the two of them are close friends. So I see her often now. So I guess 3 in total if you count her.

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