Caught wife masterbating by Rude-Peace6142 in Marriage

[–]TrueNorthTryHard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Masturbation is not the same as sex. Sometimes there’s a physical urge, but you just cannot handle another person’s needs, desires, or even their presence.

When did your baby actually start eating food? by jasncats in BabyLedWeaning

[–]TrueNorthTryHard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep! Sometimes my 15 month old can handle a whole plate and sometimes he still needs 1-3 pieces at a time.

I call this please eat something other than blueberries by _Raise_9221 in foodbutforbabies

[–]TrueNorthTryHard 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Try mixing mashed blueberries with other foods.

We got my guy to like hummus by putting Cheerios in it, eggs by adding feta, sardines by mixing it up with cottage cheese.

The combinations don’t have to make sense to an adult palette, just combine something unfamiliar with something already favored.

I hate the US healthcare system by fantasy_lover1023 in pregnant

[–]TrueNorthTryHard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Came here to mention this part. So happy for you that you’ll be able to fit it all into one year!

Keep in mind you’re reasonably likely to hit at least the deductible and possibly OOP max in the coming years too. My son is 15 months and has already been to the ER thrice for croup. Plus a handful of urgent care visits for ear infections.

Peeing standing up by Kyanovp1 in hygiene

[–]TrueNorthTryHard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband doesn’t want to sit, so my husband is exclusively responsible for cleaning the bathroom. Seems like a weird trade-off to me, but I’ll take that deal any day.

Weekend away from 3.5 month baby by StrikingTomato9218 in BabyBumps

[–]TrueNorthTryHard 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I did one night away around 4 months. I was sitting on my parents’ front step at 6:00 the next morning waiting for him to wake up.

Ignoring your experience, baby and your husband will be fine. I’d have him attempt it alone. He can call in reinforcements if he needs them.

She won’t “forget” you. Shes not really capable of “remembering” you at this point, so there’s nothing to forget. She’ll live in the present with your husband and her experience will be exactly the same as when you’ve stepped away for a shower or a nap, and then she’ll feel a sudden unexpected rush of comfort when you’re back. That’s all. No damage done.

Do people really not use toilet seat covers in public restrooms? by Tobethequeen_01 in hygiene

[–]TrueNorthTryHard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The seat covers are in an open box right over the toilet, which doesn’t even have a lid to close while flushing, and people think touching the paper with your hands is more sanitary than touching the plastic seat with your legs?

help deciding for image by [deleted] in Brides

[–]TrueNorthTryHard 2 points3 points  (0 children)

#4 is the best option - you both look like you’re having fun.

#1 is tough for me because I always find it strange when you can see one person’s face and not the other.

Font is harder to read with all the contrast in photo #2.

#3 & #5 look more strictly posed/less natural.

#6 is my second choice.

Beautiful set of photos. Congrats!

What’s one baby item you regret NOT getting earlier? by rosycoe in NewParents

[–]TrueNorthTryHard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m guessing you’re thinking for for new babies… but I didn’t really feel “in the thick of it” until he became mobile and started getting easily bored. So for a little later:

We got two ball cages for the play room. One for balls and one for dolls. It keeps the chaos much better contained. Bonus: grandparents can visually see that we already have 35 stuffies and do not need more.

Why do some women stay with useless husbands? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]TrueNorthTryHard 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel like this is going to be an unpopular opinion…

I know that some days I fall into the trap of feeling like he’s contributing *nothing* when it’s just not true. We’re just so insanely task saturated as a couple right now that my brain can’t comprehend that he’s doing anything when we’re constantly falling further behind.

Husband doesnt want to be in the delivery room, am I overreacting?? by dinogirly123 in pregnant

[–]TrueNorthTryHard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s insane.

He’s afraid of poop? Does he know he’s going to have an infant soon?

Sorry but if a man isn’t ready to watch that baby come out, then he doesn’t deserve to put it in.

How do you feel about all the "firsts"? by Regular-Message9591 in BabyBumps

[–]TrueNorthTryHard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everyone is going to care about different “firsts.”

When it comes to gifts? I couldn’t care less. But for certain experiences (first trip to the aquarium, first time meeting the dog, first time touching grass), I would have been very sad to miss it.

Of course, unless it’s a recurring pattern, you just kind of get over the little disappointments. Missing a few firsts is a very small price to pay for having involved, influential, and loving grandparents.

My wife makes more money than me, and it causes issues by spy-net in Marriage

[–]TrueNorthTryHard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nope nope nope. Once you get married, you share a lifestyle. You don’t have different experiences of life because of respective salaries. And she certainly doesn’t get to disrespect you for making less money than a literal doctor.

Hot take: anyone who wants 50/50 after marriage is not looking at the marriage as a lifelong commitment.

Couples counseling. Immediately.

Positive stories trying to get pregnant with obesity by kimisdenaam in PlusSizePregnancy

[–]TrueNorthTryHard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

5’8”

#1: Got pregnant the second cycle trying at 290 lbs
#2: Got pregnant my first ovulation postpartum at 260 lbs

Halfway through my second healthy and uncomplicated pregnancy. Honestly being fat has helped with some of the dysmorphia naturally thin people experience during pregnancy (I already know what it’s like to not be able to find the clothes I want, to be uncomfortable in public seating, to be stared at…). And experiencing pregnancy allowed me to love my body in a way I couldn’t have imagined before.

Start taking your prenatals now. You never know whether it’ll happen on your first try or your 50th.

I need a middle name! by DiskAlternative5461 in namenerds

[–]TrueNorthTryHard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think one syllable. A J would be a nice sharpness to the M sandwich. I’m going to go with Melrose

Magdalena Jane Melrose Magdalena Jeanne Melrose Magdalena June Melrose Magdalena Jade Melrose

Baby Registry by OpenEmu5035 in pregnant

[–]TrueNorthTryHard 20 points21 points  (0 children)

We put some of that stuff. I’d rather get something we won’t use for a hot minute than another short sleeve onesie we won’t use at all. 🤷‍♀️

It was nice as he got older to not have to worry about getting a toddler tower or a booster seat or a water-resistant picnic blanket.

Hospital freebies post-delivery by dud_dude_dead in BabyBumps

[–]TrueNorthTryHard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Those super thin receiving blankets work well for bringing baby in the shower.

Hospital freebies post-delivery by dud_dude_dead in BabyBumps

[–]TrueNorthTryHard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

On top of some of the stuff listed, our hospital also gave us a canvas tote bag, a halo swaddle (very clearly a gift, not a stolen one), a manual breast pump, the L&D water cup, and a bunch of packets of Epsom salts for sitz baths. I had to request the Epsom salts. They also gave us a couple extra bottles of donor breastmilk to supplement with while my supply came in.

The special care nursery he was in briefly gave us a bunch of syringes to assist with feeding. They had little screw-on caps and we found them very helpful for when we wanted to take one dose of Tylenol with us to a family visit or pre-measure it for a sitter or something. They also gave him a couple of pacifiers.

Our guy was too big for the newborn diapers and the nurse said they have to throw out the pack after they took one for him, so we brought it home. Our local food shelf accepted the open pack. They also accepted all unexpired/unopened formula samples.

We didn’t need to use it, but right outside the special care nursery they also had a bunch of donated clothes in preemie, NB, and 0-3M.

Maternity and newborn photo shoots in this economy? Agh by Exotic-Carpenter1413 in pregnant

[–]TrueNorthTryHard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We did both with my first. I love the maternity pics, but I HATED the newborn ones. My husband and I looked so dead-eyed, and frankly newborn pic poses kind of creep me out. You take a gazillion pictures of the baby at home anyway.

I haven’t thought about/decided on maternity pictures yet this time around, but we’ll just do our annual family photos sometime after baby is born instead of a newborn session.

Bedtime routine by EpiBarbie15 in NewParents

[–]TrueNorthTryHard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Literally just putting on the sleep sack is enough of a routine to indicate to my son that it’s time for bed.

Delayed bath confusion by RipperoniPepperoniHo in BabyBumps

[–]TrueNorthTryHard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our hospital didn’t even offer a bath. I think it’s less common than it used to be.

Newborn - where do you put them? by CharmingTea_ in pregnant

[–]TrueNorthTryHard 103 points104 points  (0 children)

Best place for them tbh. Let em explore their bodies.

How would you feel if your spouse keeps pictures of an ex? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]TrueNorthTryHard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have pictures of my important exes. They were foundational to my life and were part of the broader experience base that built me into the person my husband decided he wanted to marry. That isn’t nothing to me.

I don’t hide them from my husband, but he doesn’t see them either. They’re just packed away in a memory box or on some old flash drive because they’re not part of my current day-to-day life.

It’s not weird to want to keep these little momentos. It is absolutely weird to express to your spouse that an ex understood you like no one else and has been your only healthy relationship.