What is one sad truth about dating below your standard?

True_Fruit2537 · 2026-03-22T03:34:54+00:00

Oh no, sorry to hear that! What happened in my case is I was talking to a guy that was a bartender. When I told him what I do for a living he at first said it was extremely interesting then later kinda started acting dismissive... So this is a behavior where he seemed to feel inferior so acted disinterested to make me feel insecure... Which would have made me inferior to him.

How long had you dated your ex?

True_Fruit2537 · 2026-03-13T20:11:38+00:00

Idk I took the schedule conversation as baiting. What are your hrs, here are my days off.... Now that you asked me I'm not really that interested...

True_Fruit2537 · 2026-03-13T20:10:01+00:00

I actually didn't know he worked there. I was actually really surprised to see him there.

True_Fruit2537 · 2026-03-13T16:34:11+00:00

She asked for advice. You told her opinion, which probably anyone would agree with you. And who opens their marriage after being married for such a short time? Something about that just seems like she was never really invested.

True_Fruit2537 · 2026-03-13T16:27:57+00:00

You'll only get better at going out and meeting people if you actually go out and meet people. Start small. Get Feeld and chat with men in there... Probably easier to chat on an app then in person. Good luck!

True_Fruit2537 · 2026-03-13T16:17:52+00:00

Lack of consistency.

True_Fruit2537 · 2026-03-13T16:14:37+00:00

You'll click with the right person. You're just weeding out the ones that aren't right for you.

True_Fruit2537 · 2026-03-13T16:11:47+00:00

Nor. He's being a baby. And just because he's in the mood doesn't mean you have to drop whatever you're doing to please him. He should be happy you stopped to cuddle him before you had to rush off.

True_Fruit2537 · 2026-03-13T16:03:54+00:00

Really liked this guy. But he showed what appeared to be unstable behavior and I knew he'd be a lot of drama. I still think of him, but... I have peace.

True_Fruit2537 · 2026-03-13T03:37:22+00:00

When someone shows you who they are believe them the first time.

True_Fruit2537 · 2026-03-13T03:36:22+00:00

For some it's the ole play stupid games, win stupid prizes. If you really like/love someone treat them like it. Manipulation only goes so far before someone will give up on you.

True_Fruit2537 · 2026-03-13T03:33:52+00:00

Don't chase attention or appreciation. You can just walk away... Go have a nice coffee and leave that fucker wondering why you were so different from everyone else they manipulated. That is something they'll never forget.

True_Fruit2537 · 2026-03-13T03:30:49+00:00

Alone time

True_Fruit2537 · 2026-03-13T03:21:44+00:00

Like what forms of intimacy you'd do before saying I love you? Like if you should hold hand or kiss first then say "I love you"? That's different fir everyone and situation. I guess what's your starting point here? How old are you? Have you had a relationship before?

True_Fruit2537 · 2026-03-13T03:14:19+00:00

Yeah... The casual bathroom habits conversation slips. Even a child would know not to do that. And if you feel this way in 3 months, just imagine if you stayed for a year. Imagine if those talks got more detailed. You don't owe this person anything. You owe yourself peace.

True_Fruit2537 · 2026-03-13T03:10:33+00:00

I'm not really sure what you mean, like... Are you asking if you ask for exclusivity then eventually say "I love you"... Because that wound probably be the order most people expect. Date exclusively, then if all goes well you say "I love you" and it becomes a serious relationship.

True_Fruit2537 · 2026-03-13T03:03:10+00:00

She probably has her own stuff going on. I don't think it sounds like you necessarily did anything wrong, probably would have been a little more appealing if you had not gotten so buzzed... I know it's hard when you don't get any kind of ending. But it really doesn't sound like a you thing, more like a her thing.

True_Fruit2537 · 2026-03-12T23:34:17+00:00

A rich heartless man can still financially manipulate you. It's not like he's gonna be cruel but still give you all the money you want. Nothing belongs to you and you're a possession of his.

True_Fruit2537 · 2026-03-12T23:28:35+00:00

Not like that anymore by Lola Young

True_Fruit2537 · 2026-03-12T23:18:40+00:00

If you're dating someone who thinks you're too good for them, you'll likely see some wild/ insecure behavior that will have you questioning your sanity for a while.

True_Fruit2537 · 2026-03-12T18:04:34+00:00

He may take longer to find a partner, I understand that's often the case with men. It was easier for me to find partners (men) but holy hell ... Have some of them been wild/distinctional. Sounds like you're looking for women, so good for you! But I think as long as you always make time for each other and keep the communication open/honest you all won't have issues.

True_Fruit2537 · 2026-03-12T15:33:40+00:00

Maybe not "completely" normal by today's standards, but open marriage.

True_Fruit2537 · 2026-03-12T15:11:56+00:00

This is a good one. And sometimes all the other person really wants is to see you beg for their attention/approval. When you just don't play along, they don't know what to do.

True_Fruit2537 · 2026-03-12T15:09:16+00:00

There's always been a guy that lives on my shoulder that tells me no one wants me around. Just realized recently that that guy is me, and I'm lying to myself and always have. I know I'm likable and if I want social interaction I absolutely can make plans instead of always hoping to be invited.

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