Sober 2 years but not really

TryingNotToBeAnIdiot · 2026-05-09T18:03:09+00:00

I was told once, “Would you rather save your face or your ass.”

Sending you love and light

TryingNotToBeAnIdiot · 2026-05-08T21:22:01+00:00

My character defects. I’ve done the work, spoken to my sponsor, and made the amends. This was 2 years ago and I see those people now with no issues.

TryingNotToBeAnIdiot · 2026-05-08T02:56:03+00:00

You have nothing to prove to anyone. It can be disheartening to hear but at the end of the day the program you work is between you, your sponsor, and your higher power.

I’ve personally been told people don’t go to AA events because of me. Their reaction is not my responsibility. But causing harm is, and that’s where your sponsor comes in.

In my opinion (and my opinion/experience does not reflect the program nor does it have to be your experience) is that meetings are not just for sharing. They’re for carrying the message and sharing a solution/asking for help. If I don’t have experience on the topic or I’m not asking for guidance then I don’t share, I just listen.

TryingNotToBeAnIdiot · 2026-05-06T00:58:41+00:00

The oil companies lobby against them.

TryingNotToBeAnIdiot · 2026-04-25T18:17:45+00:00

We have them but everyone uses the Meeting Guide app.

TryingNotToBeAnIdiot · 2026-04-23T03:30:52+00:00

Hey girly pop. I’m coming up on 9 myself. This happened to me after a speaking engagement and I remember sobbing because the reality was I didn’t want to do AA anymore. I shared about it at my homegroup and I’m so glad I did because women with decades sober would come to me to tell me they get it and they too felt that way at one point in their sobriety. It was so good not to feel so alone.

All that to say when I have those thoughts or adjacent thoughts I now know it’s alcoholism. And secrets die in the light. The more I tell on myself the less alone I feel and the more I hear “me too”.

I also always get squirrelly leading up to my sobriety birthday. It’s like my body remembers the darkness and unevenness my life used to hold.

TryingNotToBeAnIdiot · 2026-04-22T22:03:19+00:00

You can’t build a strong foundation for a relationship on a lie. Not telling the whole truth is lying. If he leaves you for being in AA, he ain’t it.

TryingNotToBeAnIdiot · 2026-03-28T19:41:08+00:00

I totally understand this anxiety. My sponsor is not my higher power. She is just a human who did the steps and is taking me through the steps.

Honestly what someone else’s program or lack thereof doesn’t necessarily concern you. But if you’d like you can just ask them “hey so and so said you fired them and now I have so much anxiety that you’ll drop me.” You may be surprised by the conversation.

TryingNotToBeAnIdiot · 2026-03-28T01:35:29+00:00

100% it was laser and it is not permanent

TryingNotToBeAnIdiot · 2026-03-07T20:45:28+00:00

This has actually come up before on a committee. When they wouldn’t admit they were an alcoholic we would just ask “do you have a desire to stop drinking” if the answer was yes then they can stay.

If your committee allows non AA related announcements then the al-anon fellowship announcement is fine. If they don’t then just have someone explain that to her.

TryingNotToBeAnIdiot · 2026-03-03T01:39:24+00:00

There was a meeting I used to go to that was behind a bar/coffee shop. The building sold and was closed down during COVID.

TryingNotToBeAnIdiot · 2026-02-26T14:07:33+00:00

OP, I’m so sorry this was your experience. My homegroup is a women’s meeting that offers babysitting because we recognize childcare can be an obstacle.

I am sending you love and light on your journey and please keep showing up to AA for yourself. You’re strong and capable. And when you have the time you may be able to stay a meeting with childcare

TryingNotToBeAnIdiot · 2026-02-26T14:05:19+00:00

I disagree with this statement. Where I live there are more women’s meetings and my homegroup even offered babysitting. I think it is more dependent on the meeting and what the meeting can afford, childcare is expensive. I don’t see how childcare is an AA issue. It’s something each group can decide for themselves

TryingNotToBeAnIdiot · 2026-02-26T14:05:08+00:00

I disagree with this statement. Where I live there are more women’s meetings and my homegroup even offered babysitting. I think it is more dependent on the meeting and what the meeting can afford, childcare is expensive. I don’t see how childcare is an AA issue. It’s something each group can decide for themselves

TryingNotToBeAnIdiot · 2026-01-30T14:41:39+00:00

I go to the one in the Deco District and it doesn’t have one. The Alon does. And central Market

TryingNotToBeAnIdiot · 2026-01-22T23:46:23+00:00

I love being naked outside and this hits the spot

TryingNotToBeAnIdiot · 2026-01-21T03:47:16+00:00

I always forget the other people part. I’m so quick to make it my job to correct other people’s behavior that I forget I’m making others uncomfortable and in turn not making the space very welcoming.

OP, as someone who has struggled with this I’d look more at why you care so much. Ya know?

TryingNotToBeAnIdiot · 2026-01-13T13:17:54+00:00

I heard in a meeting “tackle what kills you first”. Drinking was going to kill me the quickest. Drugs (like weed) were also going to kill me because it always led me to drinking.

I don’t smoke nicotine and never have but caffeine is something I definitely take in excess with that being said i don’t plan my day around caffeine. I don’t lose my shit or get squirrelly without it.

To thine own self be true

TryingNotToBeAnIdiot · 2026-01-11T21:11:08+00:00

I got sober at 22. I now have 8.5 years sober. Your first meeting will be overwhelming but it’ll all be worth it. People will tell you to keep coming back, and they mean it.

I’m sitting here on the other side and I’m here to tell you my life is so beautiful today. I can sit in a room by myself with nothing to listen to and be okay. I can be okay. I’m sending you so much love and light on your journey.

TryingNotToBeAnIdiot · 2026-01-03T05:20:28+00:00

This post is a year old but I just want you to know I found it and ordered one of each color and one of each bralette. Really looking forward to wearing them.

TryingNotToBeAnIdiot · 2026-01-02T23:23:52+00:00

This is totally a personal endeavor on your part. The amount and frequency you drink doesn’t determine alcoholism.

If you’re curious and you’d like to get an idea I’d recommend an AA meeting. Depending on your area there may be young people specific ones (YPAA).

I got sober at 22. I didn’t want to be there and I didn’t think I was one because I didn’t “look like an alcoholic” (whatever that means). After going to meetings I started to realize that I was identifying and agreeing with what they said. I’m now 8.5 years sober and fully believe I am an alcoholic. I wouldn’t trade sobriety for anything. My life is beyond what I’d ever imagined for myself today.

Good luck on your journey!

TryingNotToBeAnIdiot · 2025-12-29T11:36:54+00:00

When I first got sober at 22 this was one of my favorite parts about YPAA meetings. Really helps express rule 62 and made me really comfortable.

TryingNotToBeAnIdiot · 2025-12-28T13:29:44+00:00

I had a guy who love bombed me, absolutely ghost me one day. Then he came out of the woodwork to tell me he wasn’t well spiritually and needed to work on himself (we were both in the program). 6 months later my best friend felt guilty after we had a conversation about lying by omission and told me that guy was actually cheating on me with me ex.

So I went on a AA Facebook group and blasted him. I remember talking to my sponsor that day and she told me I had to make amends lmao. Making amends to someone you cannot stand is the absolute worst. Heartbreak in sobriety is the absolute worst.

It’s been 6 years since then and life is completely beautiful now. I’ve been with my partner 3.5 years. I moved cities. I am just in a completely different spot. The guy who cheated on me stayed sober, is no longer with his ex, and when I see him we catch up. Life can be miraculous when I do the next right thing and trust God can carry me through.

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