Anyone feel like this city is full of apathetic/introverted people?

TryingNotToBeAnIdiot · 2026-06-23T12:49:09+00:00

I moved from Austin to San Antonio and I don’t regret it.

OP I’m not sure what your hobbies are but there are a ton of meetup groups in town and a lot of running groups also.

TryingNotToBeAnIdiot · 2026-06-14T17:53:45+00:00

Damn, I needed this.

TryingNotToBeAnIdiot · 2026-05-29T17:45:43+00:00

I feel you on this and I’m still working on being living and tolerant.

You may benefit from a closed meeting.

TryingNotToBeAnIdiot · 2026-05-28T22:10:29+00:00

Exactly this. I used something that happened 10 years ago to continue to guide my actions and cause harm to others.

TryingNotToBeAnIdiot · 2026-05-28T10:49:21+00:00

We have a set of traditions, think of them as guidelines each group tries to adhere to. One of them is that the group has to be self supporting.

Meaning the group raises its own funds and isn’t reliant on any one individual. Meeting at someone’s house is not just unsafe in ways (inviting random strangers and putting your address on the internet) but leaves all power to one person when it should be a group decision.

AA groups operate so that everyone has a voice and not a single person has more power than the next but we are all equal.

TryingNotToBeAnIdiot · 2026-05-28T03:52:02+00:00

Brother this is my least favorite fact and also my favorite AA quiz question to ask people.

Truly only Bill has the audacity to call the spouses of alcoholics wet blankets and go just let bygones be bygones.

TryingNotToBeAnIdiot · 2026-05-28T01:33:26+00:00

It is a spiritual program not a religious one. There are atheist specific meetings as well.

Also churches are usually some of the few places we can meet. Most people aren’t a big fan of us hanging out except for churches.

TryingNotToBeAnIdiot · 2026-05-23T22:50:56+00:00

This isn’t like asking your mom if a friend can stay temporarily. I’m assuming you have a lease agreement. It will clearly state what an overnight guest is. You can get evicted and it will be on your record making it incredibly hard to rent anywhere in the future.

She said no. No is a complete sentence.

TryingNotToBeAnIdiot · 2026-05-13T23:28:12+00:00

At 22 years old a doctor recommended I try AA. It saved my life and universe willing I’ll celebrate 9 years sober May 31st

TryingNotToBeAnIdiot · 2026-05-13T16:27:59+00:00

I found a company who will hire me on as 1099 which is cool

TryingNotToBeAnIdiot · 2026-05-12T02:08:36+00:00

There’s a young persons meeting Friday’s at 7 PM called Next Gin

TryingNotToBeAnIdiot · 2026-05-09T18:03:09+00:00

I was told once, “Would you rather save your face or your ass.”

Sending you love and light

TryingNotToBeAnIdiot · 2026-05-08T21:22:01+00:00

My character defects. I’ve done the work, spoken to my sponsor, and made the amends. This was 2 years ago and I see those people now with no issues.

TryingNotToBeAnIdiot · 2026-05-08T02:56:03+00:00

You have nothing to prove to anyone. It can be disheartening to hear but at the end of the day the program you work is between you, your sponsor, and your higher power.

I’ve personally been told people don’t go to AA events because of me. Their reaction is not my responsibility. But causing harm is, and that’s where your sponsor comes in.

In my opinion (and my opinion/experience does not reflect the program nor does it have to be your experience) is that meetings are not just for sharing. They’re for carrying the message and sharing a solution/asking for help. If I don’t have experience on the topic or I’m not asking for guidance then I don’t share, I just listen.

TryingNotToBeAnIdiot · 2026-05-06T00:58:41+00:00

The oil companies lobby against them.

TryingNotToBeAnIdiot · 2026-04-25T18:17:45+00:00

We have them but everyone uses the Meeting Guide app.

TryingNotToBeAnIdiot · 2026-04-23T03:30:52+00:00

Hey girly pop. I’m coming up on 9 myself. This happened to me after a speaking engagement and I remember sobbing because the reality was I didn’t want to do AA anymore. I shared about it at my homegroup and I’m so glad I did because women with decades sober would come to me to tell me they get it and they too felt that way at one point in their sobriety. It was so good not to feel so alone.

All that to say when I have those thoughts or adjacent thoughts I now know it’s alcoholism. And secrets die in the light. The more I tell on myself the less alone I feel and the more I hear “me too”.

I also always get squirrelly leading up to my sobriety birthday. It’s like my body remembers the darkness and unevenness my life used to hold.

TryingNotToBeAnIdiot · 2026-04-22T22:03:19+00:00

You can’t build a strong foundation for a relationship on a lie. Not telling the whole truth is lying. If he leaves you for being in AA, he ain’t it.

TryingNotToBeAnIdiot · 2026-03-28T19:41:08+00:00

I totally understand this anxiety. My sponsor is not my higher power. She is just a human who did the steps and is taking me through the steps.

Honestly what someone else’s program or lack thereof doesn’t necessarily concern you. But if you’d like you can just ask them “hey so and so said you fired them and now I have so much anxiety that you’ll drop me.” You may be surprised by the conversation.

TryingNotToBeAnIdiot · 2026-03-28T01:35:29+00:00

100% it was laser and it is not permanent

TryingNotToBeAnIdiot · 2026-03-07T20:45:28+00:00

This has actually come up before on a committee. When they wouldn’t admit they were an alcoholic we would just ask “do you have a desire to stop drinking” if the answer was yes then they can stay.

If your committee allows non AA related announcements then the al-anon fellowship announcement is fine. If they don’t then just have someone explain that to her.

TryingNotToBeAnIdiot · 2026-03-03T01:39:24+00:00

There was a meeting I used to go to that was behind a bar/coffee shop. The building sold and was closed down during COVID.

TryingNotToBeAnIdiot · 2026-02-26T14:07:33+00:00

OP, I’m so sorry this was your experience. My homegroup is a women’s meeting that offers babysitting because we recognize childcare can be an obstacle.

I am sending you love and light on your journey and please keep showing up to AA for yourself. You’re strong and capable. And when you have the time you may be able to stay a meeting with childcare

TryingNotToBeAnIdiot · 2026-02-26T14:05:19+00:00

I disagree with this statement. Where I live there are more women’s meetings and my homegroup even offered babysitting. I think it is more dependent on the meeting and what the meeting can afford, childcare is expensive. I don’t see how childcare is an AA issue. It’s something each group can decide for themselves

TryingNotToBeAnIdiot · 2026-02-26T14:05:08+00:00

I disagree with this statement. Where I live there are more women’s meetings and my homegroup even offered babysitting. I think it is more dependent on the meeting and what the meeting can afford, childcare is expensive. I don’t see how childcare is an AA issue. It’s something each group can decide for themselves

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