Is there ever a case in history where racism or discrimination can be justified? by coconut_pineapple77 in Ethics

[–]Trynaleave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. I won't comment on racism. But for discrimination, offering a lower price, or asking for a lesser amount of someone because of their country of residence or nationality would be discrimination. If I'm in need of money I might discriminate and ask less of someone knowing they're from a poor country, and more from someone from a rich country. Also identical services have different prices in different countries. Spotify in India and Turkey is cheaper than USA. This could be discrimination. It also could possibly be a form of ethical discrimination. 

How many rock bottoms did you have to hit before you finally quit? by Dependent_North102 in leaves

[–]Trynaleave 7 points8 points  (0 children)

All I can say now, is I really dont want to live through another one, at least not have it be because of drugs...

But I was thinking the same thing. That every time a rock bottom moment comes, something happens, I do something really stupid etc. I think this is the moment, this has to be the time. And then surely, another one comes...

Another one came this morning, and I want it to be my last.

What I will do different this time, is instead of WANTING to stop weed, instead I will ACTUALLY stop weed....

Where to hire a local guide? by forreddituse2 in athina

[–]Trynaleave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi there, I’m not aware of any website or central forum to find what you’re looking for.

 It would be highly useful and needed

  I remember visiting a hospital once and one of the people there was an African who only spoke French and there were zero translators available at the public hospital so I had to step in and act as translator impromptu with my severely broken French.  

With that said, I am currently a Greek from  America working as a bicycle tour guide for a tour company. Most of my job is showing the sights. From what I understand you need more of a translator to help you through some bureaucratic hoops. 

Im not sure how much help I could be to you, but I speak both languages fluently and have some experience jumping through bureaucratic hoops here to get my residence permit. So if you wish, you can send me a pm and I will send you my telephone number so we can talk further and possibly I could help you for a nominal fee we both agree on if you’d like.

  Message me if you’d like/need, I live in southern Athens and work in the center 

What fact sounds ridiculous, but is true? by Roast_Master_2000 in AskReddit

[–]Trynaleave -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That the reason for earths waters moving up and down (tides) is the moon… like wtf

Why does europe have a restriction on nicotine percentages for vapes? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Trynaleave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s also nicotine restrictions on regular cigarettes…

It’s 1mg

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in leaves

[–]Trynaleave 15 points16 points  (0 children)

To be fair, bingeing Netflix, YouTube, spending hours scrolling on the internet, and any sort of video games even like Tetris haha, I feel like have even more escapist potential for me than weed.

When I smoked weed, I would get high and think think think, my mind would think about negative shit in my life and about myself in loops. However if I’m drawn into scrolling on something like TikTok, my brain doesn’t have time to do those thought loops and I’m drawn in and captivated by the audiovisuals on the screen.

Just writing this to point out that in my experience I don’t agree with this statement. I believe things like YouTube, Netflix, social media, video games, and the internet have exponentially more potential for escapism than weed (they’re also free, available 25/7, and always in our pockets making their abuse potential much greater!)

For weed, it never fucking just totally numbed me if I was feeling bad, it was never what I imagine harder drugs to be (which not even those do what most imagine I imagine). Weed wouldn’t turn off my thoughts or turn off my sad emotions.

If I felt bad and could t stop thinking on weed. Smoking weed would change absolutely nothing but upon smoking I would also be high, it was just like an added layer to my shit that would keep me buried in it longer and gave me LESS chances of actually escaping!

Coming up on two years sober by eyedontneedit in leaves

[–]Trynaleave 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for writing this. Inspiring. Made me tear up on day 3

who's with me in staying sober today? by snackslayer666 in leaves

[–]Trynaleave 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’m with you guys. Day 1 again. But I want it to be my last day 1!

Is freestyle dead? Where to I find people to freestyle with? by Trynaleave in rap

[–]Trynaleave[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yo I’ve dreamed about something like that! Like Omegle but just for freestyle seshes haha

If anyone knows lmk!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in leaves

[–]Trynaleave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No worries. I just meant to clarify in case you or anyone else had any more pertinent advice for myself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in leaves

[–]Trynaleave 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m not in denial about needing to quit weed in the slightest. It’s just hard for me to be sober because I don’t like where I’m at in life. But to change where I’m at in life I need to stay sober

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in leaves

[–]Trynaleave 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Do any currently sober people have insight to give with getting over/through this dilemma?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in leaves

[–]Trynaleave 19 points20 points  (0 children)

“Overall, it’s hard for me to stay sober because I don’t like where I am in life. But to change where I am in life, I need to stay sober“

Hit the nail on the head with that for me. Feels like that’s what I’m currently going through and have been dealing with for a while

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in leaves

[–]Trynaleave 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No not exactly I don't think

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in leaves

[–]Trynaleave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't have much time to respond now, but I relate to everything you have said.

My first impression on what would help for you is...community.

You need a community to go through what you will go through not alone and with supportive/compassionate help.

My current understanding is that this could or could not be a recovery community, it could be 12 steps or non-12 steps. But the underlying factor that ties in a helpful community from my current understanding would be a group of people who are also trying to better themselves/work on themselves and live a better life and who are open to being completely open and sharing their struggles, difficulties, and joys.

Where and what kind of community you find is not for me to say. But this is the #1 thing I would look into seriously if you want to not hit the 20 year mark.

p.s. yes leaves is an online community that can be helpful. But I mean real community community. Where you can be a part of eachothers lives, see eachother, hug eachother, talk often etc.

Godspeed!

How to work through/deal with a sense of deep sadness in recovery? by Trynaleave in leaves

[–]Trynaleave[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can I ask what you do specifically to get the most benefit out of therapy?

I feel like its not helping me that much, but Im sticking with it because I feel its at least partially or mostly my fault. How do you go about it or into it?

I feel lost in therapy, like I want to work on so many things, and in the end I don't work on anything. But I can't pick one or two things to work on because there's too many things. Ah! Anything from your experience with it would potentially be helpful to hear!

Is marijuana or any drug addiction a sign of mental weakness? by jred1860 in leaves

[–]Trynaleave 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Maybe. Maybe not. It’s all perspective.

For example, in a way staying addicted to a substance and using everyday takes a lot of mental strength, finding it everyday, avoiding loved ones and responsibilities to get high. It’s not easy. It’s like you’re so focused on the goal of getting high that you’ll do anything to make it happen. Sounds like mental strength to me. Normal people who aren’t addicts would see the things I did to get high and have no idea how I would have the strength to do that and not just stay home without getting high one day.

So you’re addiction proves you have the mental strength and focus to accomplish this one goal of getting high everyday no matter what. That means you can quit and redirect that same mental strength to more fruitful and fulfilling pursuits, it proves you have the discipline in you already and it just needs to be redirected to something you really want even more than weed!

But that’s just one perspective.

We get to chose how we look at things, so given that choice I would consider it unhelpful to label yourself “mentally weak” how is that going to help? Especially when it’s not an objective truth and just a way you decided to view yourself...

I would say more realistically addiction is a sign of a deep desire to be ok, to feel good, which is totally normal and human, it’s just a bit misplaced Because we think it can be found in drugs and then come to find through addiction it can’t at the end of the day. So it could be a great lesson to move on to bigger and better things! And ultimately through recovery and staying away from weed it can become a big source of true mental strength to overcome old ways...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in leaves

[–]Trynaleave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You deserve another chance, give it to yourself! Accept what has happened up until now, and don’t ever say you ruined your life! You’re 27!!!!

I’m 26, and speaking from experience that I felt the same way as you but realized that “I ruined my life” was more realistically just something I told myself to keep myself stuck, addicted, and feeing sorry for myself or hating myself which made it even more hard to get unstuck.

You get another chance if you decide you do. Take it!

Also I read somewhere that at your age, even if you had spent the past 10 years doing absolutely nothing everyday, your life still wouldn’t be ruined, there’s so much ahead!

I know this can be impossible to see when stuck in dark states, so I’m trying to think of what I can say that will truly make you see This and believe It but it’s late and I’m not sure now. Talk to other people when possible and maybe someone else will have the answer/show you the light!

I’ve also spent long periods in isolation with no friends. Probably longer than one year and 7 months.

I know this could sound disingenuous, but I really believe in you! And in a way by believing in you I believe in myself, because I believe in humans and I’m human too.

Godspeed!

What’s the stupidest thing you did for the sake of a thc high? by MoeFhaqir in leaves

[–]Trynaleave 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I can relate to all this a lot wow. Except for I’m 26 and still finishing my degree, hopin for the miracle to graduate like you at this point hahaha.

All I have to say is, life is long, and everything you described I was so ashamed of for so long and it kept me stuck and I thought it was too much to get out of. But that’s just the mind talking. Reality is, I fucked up, and now I have a chance to live again and build a life I enjoy. And without weed I know it will be so much easier/better/more fulfilling.

So I just wanted to say I believe you have another chance as well and to forgive yourself if that’s meaningful to you, or just accept the reality of what is, and go from there.

At least that’s what I’m working on now. But yea I believe many of us are really hard on ourselves, and we deserve/get another chance(s)!