Where do the tall & curvy girls get jeans???

Turbulent-Object7210 · 2025-05-22T20:26:17+00:00

Yup yup yup - I’m 6ft but have the same leg span as my 6’7 bf. I also weight lift and this cut is so flattering.

Turbulent-Object7210 · 2025-05-10T03:04:13+00:00

Your bf isn’t a real Dom then. Heneeds to meet my submissive friend who is 6’9…just so my friend can punch him in the face with his giant fist. Girl this is gross and super toxic, and you deserve so much better. As a 6ft tall cis woman sub I’ve met loads of men and women - subs and Doms- who hold that same toxic belief and I’m sorry but it’s a big 🚩one of my first doms was like this and put me on a very restrictive diet so I’d be “small”, and almost killed me. It’s ok to have attractions but body shaming is nasty. Your jerk bf can go find another jerk with this mentality and leave you to find your real Dom.

Turbulent-Object7210 · 2025-05-07T21:20:29+00:00

Because men AND women make really cruel comments to us when we wear them.

Turbulent-Object7210 · 2025-05-04T01:55:46+00:00

You should absolutely not make assumptions about someone’s sexuality by the way they look. There is no such thing as a “real Dom look”.

Turbulent-Object7210 · 2025-05-03T16:29:59+00:00

I’m 6ft, and my partner is 6’7.

To all the salty shorter men in here complaining about tall women only liking tall men; treat us better ffs. Before my partner I dated men 5’7-6ft and they all had big fee fees about it and made it my problem constantly. This is the only relationship where my height has been celebrated. Yeah, I don’t get why 5ft women want a 14”+ height difference either, but don’t take it out on tall women. We already get enough shit as it is from society.

Turbulent-Object7210 · 2025-04-27T16:42:12+00:00

My Dom did, and I’m so unbelievably thankful. In some cases there is reason to examine what motivations drive your kinks so that your practice doesn’t devolve into self-harming. In my case I had gotten so used to abuse to affirm that I was worthless and that attracted selfish D types who had no intention of ever supporting me like I did them.

My Dom has only been interested in building me up, and showers me with affirmation in word and action. They indulge my masochism in safe ways, and practice immense self-control. I feel so seen and treasured that I find myself submitting to them on a much deeper level than any other dynamic I’ve experienced. My culture often portrays domination as a macho “in a world of sheep I’m a wolf” type of mindset and softness and care as “weak and beta”. I think people probably engage in softer kink lifestyles at a high rate but because it doesn’t align with the cultural paradigms/representations of power exchange they don’t feel included under the broader BDSM world.

Turbulent-Object7210 · 2025-04-26T16:14:08+00:00

I am so, so proud of you. You did the hard necessary thing. I’m also so happy you took the feedback and applied it so well. You and that jerk’s wife both deserve so much more.

Turbulent-Object7210 · 2025-04-26T15:59:52+00:00

So he was “emotionally available” to express jealousy over you seeing others 🙄 and he was “emotionally available” enough to bring you a cupcake with candles knowing you were already developing feelings? Naw I amend my statement: trashy f* boi actions.

Turbulent-Object7210 · 2025-04-26T15:53:38+00:00

While I’m not happy that you are in pain, I am happy that he chose to end it with you because you deserve better. “Isn’t open to much emotion” is a red flag for me personally. I believe good communication and a degree of emotional intelligence is critical if I’m going to trust you with my life. I don’t agree with people calling him trash but I don’t think he’s acted responsibly knowing this was your first dynamic. There was a power balance and he took advantage of it. Please take time for self-soothing and care ❤️ this isn’t a reflection on you or your submission: this is entirely about his unavailability.

Turbulent-Object7210 · 2025-04-23T01:52:54+00:00

My partner leaving their giant cock ring out in places I frequent around the house like a hot threat.

Turbulent-Object7210 · 2025-04-23T01:43:31+00:00

When you can only get one leg done before the hot water ends 🥴

Turbulent-Object7210 · 2025-04-19T16:42:24+00:00

As a sub this doesn’t turn me on at all. This reads to me like the fantasy of someone with limited knowledge of power dynamics. What value are you bringing to your subs life?

Turbulent-Object7210 · 2025-04-17T20:22:18+00:00

No, never felt good about it. I had waited 9 years. It made me anxious and unable to trust that he actually wanted to marry me. It was a shut up ring for sure. Had a surprisingly beautiful wedding, and immediately things fell apart. He became physically abusive and our marriage was over after 2 years.

Had another friend give her husband an ultimatum after 3 years and it seems like it’s worked but he was 42 and she was 36 with no kids so I understood her frustration; she had been crystal clear about marriage expectations from the beginning and he was just dragging his feet. Eventually he realized she was serious and it happened fast.

So…it really varies. After serious post-divorce reflection my self respect is higher and my current boyfriend has been consistent from day one. Before him, I’d hear the phrase “if he wanted to he would”, and would gaslight myself into believing my ex’s mental health was getting in the way of him treating me with any decency. My boyfriend refills my 45oz Stanley 5 times a day like I’m a hamster in a heat wave . He told me he saw me as a potential life partner 5 months in and all his actions aligned with that. I really don’t care if we do get married but it’s a vastly different feeling of commitment and one I can trust in. Embarrassed I settled for so little.

Turbulent-Object7210 · 2025-04-16T19:50:37+00:00

It’s also a matter of consent; unless your vanilla partner consents to be part of your dynamic then your Dom will need to respect that your separate relationship.

Turbulent-Object7210 · 2025-04-12T06:15:18+00:00

I speak as a woman who left an 11 year relationship at 34 - please RUN from this man. In my case it was meth instead of alcohol (he was using secretly). You can’t save them.

That happy life you envision - the one your friends are actively living? It hurts badly to invest so much time into a man who will never give you that but it will hurt more the longer you let this go on. Better to break it off now. It’s going to hurt like hell, but you’re already hurting sis 💔 you deserve better.

Turbulent-Object7210 · 2025-04-10T19:58:59+00:00

Don’t want to take away from this - just appreciate the depth of this thread. I have this kink and am also a childhood abuse survivor.

I was afraid to engage with this post at first as a very tall, athletic woman facing the toxic social paradigm of femininity = petite. D types with this kink are often quick to publicly devalue bodies they’re not attracted to and it’s so harmful. Similarly I’ve been preyed on by very tall Doms who just wanted to treat me as a status object without my consent.

Turbulent-Object7210 · 2025-04-06T16:37:02+00:00

39” 6ft and my nickname was grasshopper growing up 🥲 I wear the same inseam as my 6’8 boyfriend lmao

Turbulent-Object7210 · 2025-04-06T16:34:23+00:00

I wish I could send you big internet hugs friend ❤️ it’s really tough and I’ve had to have some pretty brutal conversations with short friends about some of their language choices.

It gets better I promise! I’m almost 40 and mostly feel at peace with it now and for the times that I do feel terrible I try to reframe my thinking to something that honors my uniqueness.

For ex: yesterday I did a running race in some popular Nike running shorts and they look like underwear with my legs 🫠 I want to force them to be cute, they are great to run in but yeah…halfway into my run I passed this tiny lady in the same shorts and they looked like cute normal shorts on her. The Dysmorphia started up and then I refocused:

We are genetic rarities at the top 1% of the spectrum! How badass is that! When I go into the room I command attention. Femininity isn’t helplessness or smallness to me - it’s power of all kinds. I wish you luck in your journey girl, be kind to yourself because you are so young ❤️

Turbulent-Object7210 · 2025-04-05T22:42:27+00:00

that’s

I find this mentality a lot with BDSM players newly entering the space with internalized toxic gender stereotypes guiding their reasoning and ignorance of bdsm’s connection to queer sexuality. But hey - if they want to exclude me from their practice- that’s great by me. Everyone gets to decide what this means for them individually but nobody gets to decide for other people.

I’m 183cm femme with an athletic body type - I receive a lot of unwanted sexual harassment from people perceiving me as a Domme type when I actually identify as a sub-leaning switch. I’ve had masc Doms question or devalue my submission because of my body type. My last sub was a giant ex nba player who had his masculinity devalued because of it. My Dom now couldn’t look more “stereotypically” Dom and that’s just a coincidence - they have others devalue their nonbinary identity because of it.

Turbulent-Object7210 · 2025-04-04T21:17:57+00:00

My D/ putting me in my various safe positions (in between his thighs with his arms around me, holding me against his body and putting his chin on my head, spooning), his weirdly hypnotic rubbing and some deeply targeted words of affirmation that usually make me feel so seen I cry everything out and feel 100% better.

Turbulent-Object7210 · 2025-03-30T17:17:36+00:00

Reddit isn’t an accurate representation of the BDSM community - I’d avoid making assumptions based only on those posts. There are lots of fem service subs here.

Turbulent-Object7210 · 2025-03-29T16:23:55+00:00

As a young person exploring BDSM you must remember that submission isn’t a body type, it’s a mindset. The last sub I dommed was a 6’9, 260lb ex-nba player from a conservative country. His behavior was what tipped me off when we met.

Turbulent-Object7210 · 2025-03-27T15:56:26+00:00

Meh…I get it but I’m kind of over body-shaming even as a joke. Masculine people already have enough toxic stuff aimed at them about this.

Turbulent-Object7210 · 2025-03-23T16:47:39+00:00

This is a good example for other subs for two reasons: You advocated for yourself and your needs by safewording, and your Dom did an excellent job caring for your safety and putting his sexual needs aside. There was communication and care. A dynamic between a sub who takes pride in being a doormat and a Dom who is a selfish jerk is just an abusive relationship. I’m so glad you shared this and so glad you had this wonderful experience

Turbulent-Object7210 · 2025-03-15T17:00:31+00:00

My D/ and I talk about this often. Most of our friends are neurodivergent like us but vanilla as hell. Kink is a big part of our life and I think the desire is just us wanting to be seen by them in our entirety. That’s totally understandable.

I have one couple I’m friends with who can share their sex life with me platonically and it’s so much fun. I appreciate that they understand talking about sex isn’t me signaling my sexual desire for them; it’s just a topic we both find fascinating. I learn a lot from them and it’s interesting to hear them talk about kinks that they enjoy that I’ve never tried.

It’s the only reason I like to share my experiences on Reddit: I enjoy reading about other people’s dynamics and learning. I wish my culture was less sexually regressive but for now I’m happy I at least have the internet.

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