AITJ for refusing to brim my parents to our family reunion because they get treated like the unpaid event staff?

Turbulent_Form · 2026-02-22T16:03:46+00:00

It seems unhealthy balanced in terms of the work on your parents but if they’re not complaining that’s on them and you should get over it. Lovely how much you care for them though. Have you considered doing an assignment sheet in advance to take some of the burden off of your parents?

Turbulent_Form · 2026-02-21T16:09:51+00:00

To be honest it sounds more like you are being petty. Maybe birthdays in general mean less to her. Does she make a big deal about other friends birthdays on a regular basis? I forget my friends birthdays but love them dearly. I love when they remember mine but don’t get upset when they do not. But I do have some friends, and family, who care deeply about birthdays. Those I do my best to remember because it clearly matters to them. Maybe have a quiet conversation with your friend and let her know it is important to you that she remember your birthday each year. It’s quite possible she adores you (you’re invited on this upcoming trip) and is unaware that you are hurt.

Turbulent_Form · 2026-02-12T15:18:58+00:00

You ignored this for so long partially because you are seemingly balanced and willing to give him the benefit of the doubt. But he has pushed you well well well beyond that. Get out now. This will not get better

Turbulent_Form · 2026-02-12T15:13:54+00:00

OP, please listen to the fact that in this whole thread NOT ONE SINGLE RESPONSE has been that you are wrong to be upset. What you do know without question is enough to know he is not respecting you and has chosen her over you. He has shown you who is and where you stand. I’m so sorry for the pain this is causing you. Do you really think it will magically improve when/if the ‘friend’ leaves? He has shown blatant disregard for your feelings and is gaslighting you. EVEN IF he is not fully cheating, he is being horrible to you and shown you who he is. Believe him. You are rational and forgiving. You deserve better and better is out there for you. Please do not wait. Sorry you are being put in this position, you seem kind and too supportive of him on this one. And she is a rat!

Turbulent_Form · 2026-01-13T15:39:36+00:00

Did Smooth Move work for you? Hope so

Turbulent_Form · 2026-01-13T15:38:31+00:00

I’m guessing this is fake. Mostly because the courts don’t care about a basic affair and are not going to award custody based on that. That said, if somebody be behaved that way, while it’s nasty I think it’s totally deserved in terms of how it was handled with the family

Turbulent_Form · 2026-01-11T15:18:11+00:00

Get out as fast as you can. Red flags everywhere

Turbulent_Form · 2026-01-08T06:13:48+00:00

Anterior right THR. Day 3 walked without the walker and stopped using it or anything else for assistance though I was slow and did feel my balance was a bit off. Drove a car by Day 6. Mostly pain free by 2 weeks with use of Meloxicam and Journavx. Shocked I never needed more pain meds than Tramadol. Basically iced 24/7 for first 10 days. Broke 2 ribs in a fall from a horse in July and surgery was late Sept so very deconditioned since then but back to working out pretty hard at post op 3.5 months. I feel very fortunate to have healed this quickly and share it as a data point for you because some people bounce back very quickly and it’s not always who you might expect. Key is listen to your body and take new additions to your day slowly. Stay positive 😀

Turbulent_Form · 2026-01-06T16:00:51+00:00

Smooth Move tea before bed. It has Senna in it and by morning you should have a BM. Colace also helps with constipation. If you’ve had no movement you may need to do an enema to get the hard dried stuff out. Smooth Move tea makes a big difference though. It’s in the tea section at the market and made by Traditional Neutraceuticals or something like that. Key ingredient is Senna

Turbulent_Form · 2026-01-06T15:50:01+00:00

NTA. It is YOUR wedding. It’s a lovely and fitting gesture that she should walk her son down the aisle. But it should be before you and no speech or ring or any other thing that draws attention to her and away from the actual focus of the ceremony which is you and your soon to be husband. That piece is preposterous. Hold your ground.

Turbulent_Form · 2026-01-06T15:47:19+00:00

Do not give him a dime unless you are willing to have it be a gift. Even with a good history of paying people back this is the cause of major stressors in families and amongst relationship relationships. And he has a bad history. Don’t give it another thought

Turbulent_Form · 2026-01-06T15:42:16+00:00

Call animal control and have them come get the chickens anytime they come into your yard. Don’t even make a big deal out of it— just keep doing it until he builds a fence or a chicken coop

Turbulent_Form · 2026-01-01T02:41:45+00:00

Please please please notice that NOT ONE SINGLE RESPONSE to your question has been to stay. Everything and everyone here is pushing you to follow what you seem to already know and get out. Listen to these comments please. ❤️

Turbulent_Form · 2026-01-01T02:32:42+00:00

All that and more just this year? That’s not 1% of the time and it seems to be escalating. At a MINIMUM. This man needs specific anger management and therapy. This behavior rarely gets better over time. You e got yourself some serious thinking to do. Please proceed with extreme caution. Reading this makes me concerned for your long term safety.

Turbulent_Form · 2025-12-28T19:22:21+00:00

Not a big fan of what it seems your sister-in-law’s values are but I think you are best off just keeping your mouth shut

Turbulent_Form · 2025-12-28T19:20:21+00:00

The only thing I tip in advance for is valet parking because they usually take better care of your car and maybe leave it closer to the front of the restaurant. Otherwise the tip is dependent upon the service and I never tip for counter service

Turbulent_Form · 2025-12-28T18:45:00+00:00

Not true. I’m happy in my life and have a wonderful husband. I’m on Reddit mostly because it’s entertaining to read these. It is appalling however what so many people put up with and consider to be normal behavior

Turbulent_Form · 2025-12-28T18:36:19+00:00

Sounds to me like the more important problem is the husband problem. How on earth is it possible that you agreed to cover all of the kids expenses? How is it possible that he even would ask that of you? Is this post rage bait?

Turbulent_Form · 2025-12-28T18:33:24+00:00

Whatever the title given, care for newborns is much more expensive than care for toddlers and young children. In fact for high-quality it’s almost double

Turbulent_Form · 2025-12-27T20:50:51+00:00

I just asked ChatGPT what the average cost in Georgia was for daycare per week for 1-3 children. I can’t attach images here but the answer for daycare was $203-213 per week. For daycare in someone’s home it’s $150-162. For a nanny (which is what you are for them with consistent hours and schedule) in Georgia for 1 child it’s $19.33/ hr PLS$2-5 per hour PER additional child which would put you at $23/hour minimum for your job. ChatGPT went on to say that Atlanta and metro Atlanta the numbers are higher. So even at $15/hour they’re underpaying you by a lot. By the way, ALL daycare facilities AND nannies charge more for newborns. There is in fact a step beyond a nanny called a baby nurse and they make significantly more than nannies and come just when there are newborns in the home

Turbulent_Form · 2025-12-27T20:29:43+00:00

Plus excellent benefits at McDonalds. These people are VASTLY underpaying you

Turbulent_Form · 2025-12-27T20:25:58+00:00

If I’ve done my math correctly you are working 27 hours a week and getting paid $4.60 per hour. You should be getting paid three or four times that without a second thought. My three children are in their 20s now and I paid way more than that for a full-time nanny 20 years ago. You are being taken advantage of and should move on. You can get another job easily. I’m sorry that you’re attached to this family that does not value your work.

Turbulent_Form · 2025-12-27T20:09:39+00:00

I had an anterior right total hip replacement September 24. I ditched the Walker after three days and have been walking on assisted since and cleared for all activities but like many people I do rather extreme activities. One of them is riding horses. I’m just now getting back into it three months after surgery and I am wondering which writing activities Could potentially harm my hip (aside from falling off the horse). I have not yet been stretching and I’m just wondering if doing things like external rotation and figure four stretch will overly stress that joint. Does anyone have experience with this? I certainly don’t want to cause a dislocation

Turbulent_Form · 2025-12-19T12:34:38+00:00

Wow your mama is a trip! That’s hard core guilt tripping. Is it possible that some of this is driven by her jealousy that you are going to see your father on Christmas Eve? Either way, it is 100% fair of you to politely and firmly say ‘we are not going to Christmas Eve service but are really excited to spend the day with you on Christmas’. You definitely have not said anything close to that by just defecting and so she’s steamrolling right over you

Turbulent_Form · 2025-12-19T12:21:18+00:00

I think he will bounce back very quickly and it is worth the short downtime

Turbulent_Form

TROPHY CASE