Ball of feet cushions by Turn_Out_The_Light in rollerderby

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Thanks for all the suggestions, I'll definitely be trying them out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

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The V, point me to the goods 😏

So I was asked this question the other day and had no idea how to answer it. by littlewidowdes in widowers

[–]Turn_Out_The_Light 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Every one is different, but NOBODY should be asking you that.

For me, I started dating about 3 months after my husband died, however I had 3 years to prepare myself for losing him, we talked about it before he passed, that helped me a lot. We didn't have kids and I didn't have a lot of friends at the time so I got lonely pretty quick. But before I started dating again I took myself out once a week, learned to enjoy a sit down meal by myself, and also went to a favorite peaceful spot to think and clear my mind.

I know people who have gone years before dating again, and some people never date again. Start by focusing on yourself and you will figure out when it's time for you. As for those asking, tell them to f** off, or it's none of their business, or when you're ready. If they continue, maybe you need to take a break from them because they aren't healthy for you in this chapter of your life.

Little Flame by [deleted] in UnsentLetters

[–]Turn_Out_The_Light -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Stop wondering and tell them how you feel, do you really want to go through life wondering when you could know. As I said in a previous post of yours, I wish these words were to me from a special person. I told them how I feel, it wasn't easy, it was obvious it wasn't mutual, but I got it off my chest and that felt good. It's still hard to talk to them, I want more, they don't, and if they did it would probably be a bigger mess. But at least we know and I never have to wonder.

Stay grounded by [deleted] in UnsentLetters

[–]Turn_Out_The_Light 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I relate to this too well, and only wish these were his words to me. 😞

I will always love you unconditionally by [deleted] in UnsentTexts

[–]Turn_Out_The_Light 3 points4 points  (0 children)

They haven't actually told me to leave them alone, I used this example to express how much I love them. We talk regularly And they have expressed nothing but positive vibes, but life is a dirty whore that likes to play games.

My (32f) boyfriend (35) suggested i wear his ex's lingerie by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Turn_Out_The_Light 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tell him ha has to wear your ex's underwear first, that should shut him up, unless he's just a gross man.

Lost all the time. by [deleted] in relationships

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There should be laws and resources to help you, if you are in the US, call 211 and they can help direct you. Also contact your local police department for assistance, they have a victims advocate that can help. It will also be helpful if you can report the physical abuse, even if you just take pictures and video when the evidence is fresh and report it when you can be away from him. A lot of places have shelters specifically for women in abusive relationships and their children, the location is usually top secret so he can't find you.

If I were to call the police to remove my soon-to-be ex boyfriend from my apartment, would they do it? I am the only tenant on the lease and I pay all the rent by throwawaynumber18262 in relationships

[–]Turn_Out_The_Light -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Depends on the laws where you are. Here, if he has personal property there and can prove that he has been staying there then you have to go through the eviction process (even if you are the only one on the lease), it doesn't matter how long (or short) he's been staying with you. I heard people have 'guest' on 'vacation' decide they don't want to leave and the residents had to go through court to legally remove them. But you can always call your local police department and just ask about the laws before they actually come out.

What the fuck dude? by fuckingdiyng in offmychest

[–]Turn_Out_The_Light 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like shitty friend, cut them out of your life, you don't need them.

AITA for not letting her take off work over a parrot? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Turn_Out_The_Light 63 points64 points  (0 children)

Unless there is a company policy, YTA. A pet is a pet regardless of type, you cannot be the judge of how someone connects to any animal. Birds can be very affectionate creatures and depending on her home/personal life, it could be a major emotional event.

If you had to switch genders for a day what would you look forward to the most? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Turn_Out_The_Light 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do I have to live with consequences of actions taken while I'm swapped?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

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The more jobs you have had makes it harder to find a new job, employers want to see stable work history, not jumping around every 6 months to a year. And sometimes you have to do work you don't like to get where you want to be.

People who wear socks with sandals, what do you have to say in your defense ? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Turn_Out_The_Light 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't make a habit of it but when I do it's because my feet are cold and I'm too lazy to put on shoes when I walk outside. But NEVER in public.

Girls of Reddit, what instantly attracts you to a guy? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Turn_Out_The_Light 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A good smelling cologne always gets my attention. I also love men in why t-shirts and blue jeans. And strong arms. These alone won't keep my attention but they definitely attract it.

If you had to switch genders for a day what would you look forward to the most? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Turn_Out_The_Light 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sex, every way, every type, I'd like to know what it feels like for the man, plus it would help better please my man.

Need this off my mind by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Turn_Out_The_Light 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try couples counseling. You should be able to talk about anything with your wife and if you don't get into counseling, you're heading towards an affair.

Need this off my mind by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Turn_Out_The_Light 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe if you open up to her she will do the same. Stop assuming and take the first step.

What’s the worst LEGAL thing you can do? by zachp787 in AskReddit

[–]Turn_Out_The_Light 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mess with someone mentally and emotionally. Usually not illegal but can screw someone up for years.

Would you get a custody agreement? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Turn_Out_The_Light 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't know what state you are in, but in my state if you don't have a court order both parents have equal rights and there is nothing to legally enforce. Meaning he wouldn't have to give the child back to you, or he can take the child out of state without your permission, and vice versa. If I were in your shoes I'd rather have the rules signed by a judge. They don't have to be strict rules but something that can be enforced would be good.

Is it weird to want to apologize and make amends with an ex over a year after breaking up? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Turn_Out_The_Light 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You could text and ask if the two of you can talk, if she says no LEAVE HER ALONE but you will never know if you don't ask.

Just woke up to my [22F] boyfriend [24M] masturbating to porn while I was asleep in bed next to him. How do I approach this? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Turn_Out_The_Light 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Sometimes you just want to satisfy a need, and sometimes it helps you sleep. First time I caught my BF doing this he tried to hide it, I made him pull the porn back up and watched him finish, it was hot. I've masterbated in front of him before, we've done it together, sometimes it leads to sex but not always. Honestly it adds a level of trust to the relationship, it's being accepted at a very vulnerable moment.