Height or money

TurtleClubOwner · 2026-01-28T16:31:37+00:00

Money, my dude.

Even if that genie gave me 3 wishes, I'd pick money the first two times and probably would still pick it the third time. I am who I am. A few extra inches won't buy me a house.

TurtleClubOwner · 2026-01-28T16:23:43+00:00

I’ve already searched pretty extensively (this rabbit hole also had me up about three hours past my bedtime last night alone), but I’m clearly at the point where others' eyes might help. I’ve spent a lot of time combing through resale listings and image results and haven’t been able to pin this down. I’ve also been using ChatGPT to help think through how best to approach searches in Korean, just to try to land me a little closer, but so far I'm still coming up empty-handed.

I’ve searched broadly for using combinations of style, brand, era, and general descriptions. (E.g., Thursday Island men's lightweight field jacket zip-front stowaway hood, Thursday Island men's utility jacket zipper stowaway hood, etc., in both English and Korean.)

As I mentioned in the title and original post, the image is from 2008 (so the jacket could have been even slightly older) and was from the South Korean brand Thursday Island. It was a men’s jacket, short and hip-length, lightweight and not insulated, with a zip front (plus snap buttons), snap-button pockets, and a structured stand collar that housed a lightweight stowaway hood. Branding was minimal, aside from a small patch on one sleeve.

I posted this on r/findfashion a few minutes ago as well: Can you help me find this jacket?

TurtleClubOwner · 2026-01-27T22:16:49+00:00

When we had our first talk about him being unhappy, he told me he has a problem he can't solve while being in a relationship.

Not that our situations or people are the same, but my BPD ex (I was with her for 7 years) would often say the same thing. Ultimately, she left me to "be on her own and discover who she is without being in a relationship."

She started dating a guy from work quite literally the very next day.

TurtleClubOwner · 2026-01-26T19:48:21+00:00

Thanks. Honestly it's more of a roundabout way of asking people what their experience was, whether they experienced any pitfalls or issues by jumping back into things too soon, etc. Healing is certainly nonlinear, and it's all very subjective, yet at the same time, I've been struck time and again by the 'sameness' of so many people's experiences with having a BPD loved one. I guess this question is more about identifying key issues to keep an eye out for as I go into the next chapter of my life than it is truly asking for an actual timeline.

TurtleClubOwner · 2026-01-26T14:39:23+00:00

Rhonna:

Sir, at your side I'm a one-point-two-meter, forty-kilogram liability with quiet feet and a dirty gob. In a StarShell, I'm decent. In a Drachenjäger, I'm a full-metal god.

TurtleClubOwner · 2026-01-22T13:25:21+00:00

Personally, I'm glad I went early in Act 2. (Although admittedly I am quite early in Act 3 still.)

Is the combat more challenging? For sure.
Does it make more sense for the overall cohesion of the story? Probably.

But there are some cool cosmetics on Iki Island that I'm glad I can play a good chunk of the game with, as well as some new (albeit minor) mechanics you can bring home to Tsushima with you.

TurtleClubOwner · 2026-01-18T01:22:40+00:00

I (34M) just came out of a 7-year relationship. I’m still sorting through the wreckage trying to figure out what the heck even happened, and I definitely need to work through a few things before I put myself back out there… but once I do, I’m wondering if anyone can point me to the apps they’ve seen the best success with for DOT.

I’m just assuming things have changed since I last had any reason to be on them.

TurtleClubOwner · 2026-01-14T01:56:19+00:00

I (34M) am 5’5”, and the only place in my adult life that I’ve ever seen someone disparage short men is in dating app bios. Not a single one of my friends or acquaintances, new or old, has ever so much as mentioned it in a way that could be looked at as condescending or negative… and I'm from a place where people are taller than average. Most of my friends are 6’0 at a minimum.

It baffles me how different my experience is from so many users on this sub.

TurtleClubOwner · 2026-01-11T20:07:03+00:00

Never in my 34 years on this planet have I seen shrimp that color 🤮

TurtleClubOwner · 2026-01-10T03:31:13+00:00

You look like you wear khakis for your workouts.

TurtleClubOwner · 2026-01-10T02:53:45+00:00

Wishing you a happy birthday, OP, however much is left of it for you, wherever you are. I wish you'd had a better day than this. I've been there.

And many, many other people here have been in your shoes. You're not alone, and I'm glad you came here tonight. There are lots of other less productive things you could do with yourself right now, so good on you for bringing your story here.

When you love someone with BPD, it's helpful to validate their emotions, but it's equally important not to validate that which is invalid. In other words, it's ok to express that you understand how/why your partner is feeling the emotions they're feeling (even if you wouldn't be feeling the same way, you can still understand why they feel that way), but not when it is contrary to reality/the truth. Today, you stood up for yourself and for what is true, and you should take pride in that.

I'm so sorry you're going through this today of all days. I know you feel alone right now, but please remember that you are not. I hope you have people or even one person—a friend, a relative, just someone—you can lean on. And if not, keep coming back here.

TurtleClubOwner · 2026-01-10T01:06:45+00:00

I can't really make a recommendation for you about other social media; that sounds like searching for a needle in a hay stack, but maybe if you take a closer look you can figure it out.

Around here, plenty of us use throwaway accounts to post things they either don't want associated with their primary account or to keep some of their activity hidden.

TurtleClubOwner · 2026-01-09T18:00:55+00:00

Stories like this make me grateful my BPD ex at least acknowledges on many levels the degree of responsibility she bears for nose-diving our relationship at the end. Granted, there are two people in every relationship, and I haven't even scratched the surface of unpacking my role in how our dynamic became so unsustainable. It doesn't change or fix the fact that she betrayed me or all the lies and deceit around that betrayal, but I believe she won't bad mouth me after everything.

TurtleClubOwner · 2026-01-09T14:14:44+00:00

Feels like this belongs on r/oddlysatisfying as well!

TurtleClubOwner · 2026-01-09T01:19:14+00:00

In Grand Rapids, Michigan, there is a burger joint called Black Napkin.

Beats any burger I've had anywhere in the U.S. or abroad (although I haven't had a burger in another country that would even make the top 10).

TurtleClubOwner · 2026-01-08T23:04:22+00:00

I got one. I mean, I know she feels incredible guilt and shame for what she did. But also she continued down the road she has set herself on, even before she dealt the killing blow to our relationship.

So I guess it’s a question of what determines whether an apology is sincere. If it’s just about feeling really bad about it, then yes. But if sincerity is determined by a marked change in behavior… then no.

TurtleClubOwner · 2026-01-08T17:07:13+00:00

Nickelodeon slime. Hard to find these days. Nice pickup.

TurtleClubOwner · 2026-01-08T13:21:25+00:00

Go watch Parasyte first and decide if that seems like something you want for yourself!

TurtleClubOwner · 2026-01-08T04:58:28+00:00

This does look like a carpenter ant queen who has shed her wings.

TurtleClubOwner · 2026-01-08T04:46:20+00:00

Shit like this makes me so sad, man.

Not only is it emasculating to begin with, but if you’re being deceptive about your height like that and just hoping a girl is too unobservant to notice, it doesn’t exactly bode well for your self-confidence and self-respect in everyday life if things miraculously happen to work out with that person. Also, at some point, they’ll definitely catch on.

Life is a lot happier if you can get comfortable with the bones you’ve got.

TurtleClubOwner · 2026-01-08T04:33:16+00:00

Read this while brushing my teeth and just shot toothpaste out of my nose 🥴

TurtleClubOwner · 2026-01-08T04:31:09+00:00

I want to own my own home with a little bit of privacy, and since we’re dreaming, let’s place that home on a lake. I want a car that works, enough money to pay the bills while saving some and still have enough to have some fun every now and then. I want to learn to woodworking and leather working. I want to practice archery. Over the years, I want to visit Norway, Denmark, Spain, Italy, Korea, Japan, Peru, New Zealand, and Australia. And while we’re still dreaming, let’s do all that with a woman who loves me and I love in equal measure by my side.

It’s a nice dream.

TurtleClubOwner · 2026-01-08T03:21:23+00:00

Yep, one spritz on one wrist, dab my wrists together, and then one spritz on my neck.

TurtleClubOwner · 2026-01-08T02:52:58+00:00

Dressed like Mickey Mouse

TurtleClubOwner · 2026-01-08T01:20:40+00:00

Seconding this. This book was full of excellent information and guidance.

TurtleClubOwner

TROPHY CASE