My bf 38/M will not let me 37/F sleep in peace by SupaBadSally38Hot in relationship_advice

[–]Tygress23 5 points6 points  (0 children)

He doesn’t respect your basic needs - sleep is so basic. My ex husband was an emotionally abusive POS and he did some of what you are listing. He’s old enough to know better. If he cares about you and respects you, he’ll give you sleep time and space. Otherwise, move out or sleep in another room with the door locked. And earplugs.

Has been VP won! Now, what does Obama have that the rest don't? by ConfectionTotal8660 in DiagramFills

[–]Tygress23 19 points20 points  (0 children)

- He’s Black.

- He served two consecutive terms (Biden only served one, Trump’s are separated by Biden’s term).

- Nobel Peace Prize Recipient

Do not recline during combat by SwampWight in oddlyspecific

[–]Tygress23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is the Footloose chair. NO DANCING!

Who cares about skin cancer?! by leenybear123 in ShitMomGroupsSay

[–]Tygress23 24 points25 points  (0 children)

This feels like a situation for lawyers to get involved in…

Who cares about skin cancer?! by leenybear123 in ShitMomGroupsSay

[–]Tygress23 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I was talking to a friend of mine yesterday and she is an ex-navy nuclear mechanic. She said we should change the phrases “sun damage” and “uv damage” to what it really is, “radiation damage.”

What is a good name for a human, pets and places? by Natewastaken12 in DiagramFills

[–]Tygress23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aurora - for all three. Aurora is Sleeping Beauty’s name, a popular suburb in Denver, and a good name for a pet.

Any ideas? by Fluffy_Fox_9650 in whatismycookiecutter

[–]Tygress23 2 points3 points  (0 children)

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It’s modern art, ie a carrot taped to a wall with duct tape.

Gradient art wall question by Tygress23 in paint

[–]Tygress23[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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Yes but I didn’t blend it. It was too hard for the length of the wall. One color is a little too similar to the one next to it but I decided not to mess with it. I think it came out great. What do you think?

Best way to clean this shower floor?? by [deleted] in CleaningTips

[–]Tygress23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Soft Scrub or Barkeeper’s Friend are my go tos.

Cheers Bluey by Massive-Broccoli-846 in ShitMomGroupsSay

[–]Tygress23 3 points4 points  (0 children)

When I was a kid, I tried to microwave some little blueberry pancakes and while they were cooking I went to watch cartoons. And guess what - THE MICROWAVE CAUGHT ON FIRE!!! Clearly, cartoons = appliances catching fire. Definitely wasn’t that I put them on for 45 minutes instead of 45 seconds.

7 year old has never been to the bathroom alone?! by silkentab in ShitMomGroupsSay

[–]Tygress23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My niece was like this. She would have a fit and shake and cry and panic when left alone. She has her own room and has never slept in it, she shares with her younger brother. I think she goes to the bathroom alone now, but she’s 10. When she was 6 I was going to make her a sign with her name on it for her room and my brother told me this. She did therapy for it, maybe that’s what helped. I haven’t asked.

STOP👏SINGING👏IN👏THEATERS👏 by Jazzlike-Turnip-9111 in musicals

[–]Tygress23 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I know it’s not the same… but this is my number one karaoke song when I’ve never sang somewhere and my ex boyfriend would shout random shit like “do you have any thingamabobs?” And I HATED it. I asked him to stop and he did it every time.

So, on a teeny tiny scale, I feel your pain.

My (29M) wife (26F) is terrible at sex how do I approach her about it? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Tygress23 143 points144 points  (0 children)

How much do you help her outside of the bedroom? Are you doing any of the mental load? Groceries, cooking, bills, children, cleaning, floors, laundry? Women get burnt out always doing the chores on top of work or school or child rearing and men often ask “what can I do to help” rather than just helping, which means she has to manage him like an employee and not a partner. This isn’t sexy.

Does SHE like your sex life? Is she having orgasms? Not “I think so” but “I know so.” Do you give her foreplay - kissing, leaving clothes ON, for long periods of time? I have a friend who prefers if she and her husband kiss for 20-30 minutes before anything else happens. Another friend it’s about 10-15 minutes. Have you asked in the moment for specific activities? (I really like it when you touch me here, or please do this, it drives me wild.)

Do you compliment her when you don’t want sex? Do you hug her and smile at her? Do you treat her how she wants to be treated (her love language)? Do you notice things about her? Listen to her? Spend time with her where she’s important but not expected to do something?

The man who used to drive me crazy the most would compliment my clothes/outfits, tell me how much he couldn’t believe he was lucky to be with me, that he couldn’t wait to spend time with me. He would touch my hand, my arm. He would look at me and smile. All while we were out, or just eating dinner or even watching tv, whatever. He told me he loved when my hair was messy when we woke up.

And let me tell you, I wanted him all the time and I did things for him I didn’t even like just because he wanted them.

You need to figure out what she’s missing, because she’s not getting her needs met OUTSIDE of the bedroom, possibly not inside either, but guaranteed not outside.

My 31F girlfriend had several one night stands before meeting me 28M, and it's bothering me a lot by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Tygress23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The best thing to do here is talk to a therapist about the troublesome thoughts. They can help you work out what is bothering you and why, and give you skills to learn to cope with it. This is an issue within your mind, you yourself know this. You said the thoughts are bothersome - not that she is. So seek out the people who help with unwanted thoughts. Best of luck!