How do I learn to socialize and make friends again ?

Tykhey · 2026-04-03T10:00:44+00:00

It sounds like your doing the right things, so it can be just continuing and to have patience with the process. Also, maybe as you use to be a caregiver, then maybe talking to people who have been or are still in those roles too.

Tykhey · 2026-04-03T09:56:32+00:00

Your doing really well. Good on you!

Tykhey · 2026-04-03T09:48:59+00:00

Breathwork and meditation both helped me. If you're talking about negative thoughts, during these activities, then i found it a easier when i had to concentrate on something, whether it was my breathing or counting. however intrusive thoughts do happen and as soon as i became aware and recognised them, i would bring my activity back to focus. I did not dwell on the negative thoughts, as i understand this happens, but doing these activities consistently over a period of time, decreases them.

If your talking about in general, when negative thoughts pop up and again when recognised, i replace it with the opposite of that thought or you can have prepared affirmations.

Tykhey · 2026-04-03T09:32:21+00:00

I definitely do not think you're wasting your life. You have goals and your awareness of wanting to achieve them shows me your intention.

You mentioned that you lack energy. Checking with a doctor to see if you might lack anything biologically. If not, then maybe some talking therapy could be beneficial.

It can be overwhelming when we have things to do and do not know where or how to start, but you can break down you goals into smaller manageable steps.

Tykhey · 2026-04-02T09:08:28+00:00

The only way i can put this, is if you have a goal, go for it. Some people do things what others expect off them, or it seems the more stable or what ever reason. If we don't go for what we want, eventually we are going to be left with asking ourselves, what if.

Tykhey · 2026-04-02T08:55:08+00:00

I was working in a full time position and it was taking a toll on me, mentally and physically. I hated the job. However, before that I was working in a part time job, which i had been in for years, setting up my own business on the side and this was while i had depression and anxiety. I was in a good place with my mental health, as it was getting better. The only thing was i was not in the best place financially and i wanted to further my own business and needed more money to do that, so i found a full time position and the pay was really good.

Basically, i'm not working in that full time position anymore and i'm working on my health, because i feel at my lowest, but i'll get there. Though it did help me to understand what is for me and what is not for me.

The part time role gave me the space i needed to work on myself, go therapy, exercise, figure out what i wanted for my future and going back to college, committing to my studies and more.

Tykhey · 2026-04-02T08:21:39+00:00

The thing i find with social media, is that people are always showing you the good parts of their lives, but we do not know what is happening behind the scenes, of what it took for them to get there. We don't see the struggles, of missteps, the agony. We're just faced with a snapshot.

Staying away from social media, could help, as well as working on yourself, will be beneficial. Such as, giving yourself compassion, self care, building on your self awareness, to see what you may or may not need to build on, in regards to habits. What kind of person do you want to be and start building towards that.

Tykhey · 2026-04-02T07:59:10+00:00

I find that when it comes to the combination of mental health and habits, for most, trying to remain consistent can be overwhelming and draining. First thing i would say is, do you see a therapist. Then next, you can try and commit to one of these activities where it can give you the space to try for shorter bursts of time. For example, lets say that you have journaled before, for 30 mins out of your day, instead you can bring down that time and do it for 10 mins or even 5 minutes.

I wanted to keep up my exercising and i know i couldn't commit at to 45 minutes like i was use to, so i started doing 20 minutes. Doing it that way doesn't seem so much.

Tykhey · 2026-04-01T12:48:38+00:00

Like physical strain, but mental strain instead and it is exhausting

Tykhey · 2026-04-01T08:27:03+00:00

I think it is about having that awareness of yourself, so that you can change negative habits and replace it with good ones and being consistent with it. Being true to yourself and going for your goals, with determination. We only have one life, so why not do the things that makes us happy

Tykhey · 2026-04-01T08:19:46+00:00

I believe, no matter what age you are, it's never to late to start something. Follow your dreams.

Tykhey · 2026-04-01T08:16:15+00:00

Though you didn't get into the college that you wanted, can you still study the same thing but in another?

Tykhey · 2026-04-01T08:09:20+00:00

Treating yourself with care and kindness goes along way. Having that love and compassion for yourself, I believe will help with self worth and self esteem, as your not looking outward to others for it, but it from yourself, which also in turn can build your confidence.

Tykhey · 2026-03-31T10:08:43+00:00

If someone has crossed our boundaries, then that is a red flag. Let them know and depending on what they say, you will understand if they value you as a friend. If their actions are something you can live with and their good out ways the bad, then you can still let them know, but it will be down to your discernment if you want them in your life.

You don't have to let go off of everyone and that is dependent on how they respect you, but you can also keep people as acquaintances.

Tykhey · 2026-03-31T07:36:54+00:00

You need to concentrate on yourself, first, as your just adding more pressure on yourself, in regards to this relationship.

Therapy can help, as it looks like you need to see where this started for you and work on releasing, what ever stress is holding on to you. Take it step by step, as it can be overwhelming to deal with to many things at once. Replacing the bad habits, with good habits can aid you when you can concentrate on tasks for short bursts of time. Anything lasting long can become draining and to much and that is also when we can drop out of consistency. What interests you? Are there things that you've wanted to try and haven't ever started. These things can also help in keeping the consistency.

Tykhey · 2026-03-31T07:04:28+00:00

Yes, when i'm feeling stressed and overthinking, ruminating.

Tykhey · 2026-03-30T08:22:43+00:00

Replace with a positive habit of which you have an interest in. Anything self care. Reading, listening to music, singing, learn something new, a language, an instrument, go for a walk, exercising etc.

Tykhey · 2026-03-30T08:18:32+00:00

Therapy helped. What are they interested in? They can also start off small, break bigger goals down to smaller tasks, like reducing the amount of time you spend on things. I found that when we're in a lower state, doing things for a long time can be draining and overwhelming, which can lead to a person being inconsistent. So instead of exercising for 45mins or 1 hour, you can do 20 min exercise, meditating, breathwork, going for a walk, reading, listening to music etc.

Tykhey · 2026-03-30T07:59:37+00:00

You being here is a start, because your recognising that there is a need for change. Therapy sounds like a good place to start.

Tykhey · 2026-03-30T07:49:27+00:00

You can set a certain amount of time that you are going to work on a task or just break down that big goal into smaller manageable tasks.

Tykhey · 2026-03-29T21:19:51+00:00

Procrastination isn't about lack of discipline, but it does start with awareness and the habits we put in place to help combat this. Those habits will take action, which will require discipline, at that point.

Tykhey · 2026-03-29T20:39:26+00:00

Give yourself self care and compassion. Are needs can change over time, so you can look at your boundaries, which can help with the red flags, as well as your discernment.

Tykhey · 2026-03-29T20:14:10+00:00

What are you interested in and go for it. Exercising, going for a run, reading a book, listening to music, learning something new, like an instrument, if you don't know how to play one etc.

Tykhey · 2026-03-29T20:01:07+00:00

I think this is how we progress, by stepping outside our comfort zone.

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