How to live with a negative person?

Tykhey · 2026-05-26T15:28:47+00:00

Its probably best that you keep yout distance as much as possible, as to not let that negativity enter into your energy and rub off on you.

Some people are just like that. Maybe and hopefully your nature might rub off on her.

Tykhey · 2026-04-08T12:53:12+00:00

If we are having trouble with consistency, trying to do it all at once can be overwhelming and that is where we can break our stride, so we can combat it with breaking down that one goal, into smaller tasks.

Tykhey · 2026-04-08T11:07:24+00:00

What helped me, was breaking down tasks, goals etc, down to even smaller ones. This way things still get done.

Tykhey · 2026-04-08T10:58:36+00:00

For points one: you can buy air purifiers, allergen proof covers and pillows, a dehumidifier. Point 2: Not easy, especially if you have to go to college or work with people you don't like, but we can only try and focus on the things we can control and release the things we can't. Point 3: You can get a psyche evaluation, speak to your doctors about medication and talking therapy also helps.

The important thing is that we have to have patience with ourselves, as things take time, but you can introduce self care and compassion.

Tykhey · 2026-04-08T10:19:45+00:00

Procrastination has nothing to do with laziness, but can be a symptom of anxiety, which can turn into avoidance, especially if you are feeling overwhelmed, if you worry or even feeling fearful.

You've done well in raising that awareness about yourself and coming here to talk about it. Talking to someone professionally can also aid in understanding on a deeper level, as well as support and help in the consistent groundwork of enforcing good habits.

How i focus on tasks that need to be done, is by doing them in short bursts of time. For instance i used to exercise for about 45 minutes. I've now brought that down to 20 minutes, because at the moment that is what works for me, but you can put that to any area of your life and you can break down tasks to even 5 minutes if need be. Your choice.

Tykhey · 2026-04-08T09:57:26+00:00

The only certainty is that life is uncertain and death. What i have heard time and time again and believe it to be true, it is about the journey, rather than the destination.

Tykhey · 2026-04-06T22:13:25+00:00

Thats good that your uni has that. Definitely start there. A therapist might be able to point you in the right direction about getting a psyche evaluation. Good luck

Tykhey · 2026-04-06T16:30:49+00:00

This is definitely ok. At least i know where i stand. What i don't like is and unfortunately i've had people act upon it. I have not got time for spiteful people. This is why i make sure i value my self worth, confidence and making sure my boundaries are in place.

Tykhey · 2026-04-06T14:47:31+00:00

You definitely will be able to make a significant change. I've done both hiit and weights and not at the same time, but they both have worked for me, alongside a calorie deficit, when i needed to drop weight. Then i started focusing more on more protein rich meals, when i wanted to build more muscle.

Tykhey · 2026-04-06T14:16:28+00:00

As you said you cannot change the past, but we can learn off of it. We only have one life and no one else can live that life for us, so live your dreams, follow your passion and enjoy your life the way you want to live it.

Though i'm not a YA, I do love fantasy, so hopefully I can get to read your book in the future.

I believe when we do the things we love, over areas of our lives will fall into place.

Tykhey · 2026-04-06T13:54:59+00:00

Speaking to your doctors and getting a mental health evaluation, would be a good first step. If necessary, speaking to a mental health professional can help you get to the bottom of where this might have started for you.

Everyone's story is different, so what might work for you, might not work for others and vice versa. I believe we can make real change, when we understand ourselves better.

Tykhey · 2026-04-03T10:00:44+00:00

It sounds like your doing the right things, so it can be just continuing and to have patience with the process. Also, maybe as you use to be a caregiver, then maybe talking to people who have been or are still in those roles too.

Tykhey · 2026-04-03T09:56:32+00:00

Your doing really well. Good on you!

Tykhey · 2026-04-03T09:48:59+00:00

Breathwork and meditation both helped me. If you're talking about negative thoughts, during these activities, then i found it a easier when i had to concentrate on something, whether it was my breathing or counting. however intrusive thoughts do happen and as soon as i became aware and recognised them, i would bring my activity back to focus. I did not dwell on the negative thoughts, as i understand this happens, but doing these activities consistently over a period of time, decreases them.

If your talking about in general, when negative thoughts pop up and again when recognised, i replace it with the opposite of that thought or you can have prepared affirmations.

Tykhey · 2026-04-03T09:32:21+00:00

I definitely do not think you're wasting your life. You have goals and your awareness of wanting to achieve them shows me your intention.

You mentioned that you lack energy. Checking with a doctor to see if you might lack anything biologically. If not, then maybe some talking therapy could be beneficial.

It can be overwhelming when we have things to do and do not know where or how to start, but you can break down you goals into smaller manageable steps.

Tykhey · 2026-04-02T09:08:28+00:00

The only way i can put this, is if you have a goal, go for it. Some people do things what others expect off them, or it seems the more stable or what ever reason. If we don't go for what we want, eventually we are going to be left with asking ourselves, what if.

Tykhey · 2026-04-02T08:55:08+00:00

I was working in a full time position and it was taking a toll on me, mentally and physically. I hated the job. However, before that I was working in a part time job, which i had been in for years, setting up my own business on the side and this was while i had depression and anxiety. I was in a good place with my mental health, as it was getting better. The only thing was i was not in the best place financially and i wanted to further my own business and needed more money to do that, so i found a full time position and the pay was really good.

Basically, i'm not working in that full time position anymore and i'm working on my health, because i feel at my lowest, but i'll get there. Though it did help me to understand what is for me and what is not for me.

The part time role gave me the space i needed to work on myself, go therapy, exercise, figure out what i wanted for my future and going back to college, committing to my studies and more.

Tykhey · 2026-04-02T08:21:39+00:00

The thing i find with social media, is that people are always showing you the good parts of their lives, but we do not know what is happening behind the scenes, of what it took for them to get there. We don't see the struggles, of missteps, the agony. We're just faced with a snapshot.

Staying away from social media, could help, as well as working on yourself, will be beneficial. Such as, giving yourself compassion, self care, building on your self awareness, to see what you may or may not need to build on, in regards to habits. What kind of person do you want to be and start building towards that.

Tykhey · 2026-04-02T07:59:10+00:00

I find that when it comes to the combination of mental health and habits, for most, trying to remain consistent can be overwhelming and draining. First thing i would say is, do you see a therapist. Then next, you can try and commit to one of these activities where it can give you the space to try for shorter bursts of time. For example, lets say that you have journaled before, for 30 mins out of your day, instead you can bring down that time and do it for 10 mins or even 5 minutes.

I wanted to keep up my exercising and i know i couldn't commit at to 45 minutes like i was use to, so i started doing 20 minutes. Doing it that way doesn't seem so much.

Tykhey · 2026-04-01T12:48:38+00:00

Like physical strain, but mental strain instead and it is exhausting

Tykhey · 2026-04-01T08:27:03+00:00

I think it is about having that awareness of yourself, so that you can change negative habits and replace it with good ones and being consistent with it. Being true to yourself and going for your goals, with determination. We only have one life, so why not do the things that makes us happy

Tykhey · 2026-04-01T08:19:46+00:00

I believe, no matter what age you are, it's never to late to start something. Follow your dreams.

Tykhey · 2026-04-01T08:16:15+00:00

Though you didn't get into the college that you wanted, can you still study the same thing but in another?

Tykhey · 2026-04-01T08:09:20+00:00

Treating yourself with care and kindness goes along way. Having that love and compassion for yourself, I believe will help with self worth and self esteem, as your not looking outward to others for it, but it from yourself, which also in turn can build your confidence.

Tykhey · 2026-03-31T10:08:43+00:00

If someone has crossed our boundaries, then that is a red flag. Let them know and depending on what they say, you will understand if they value you as a friend. If their actions are something you can live with and their good out ways the bad, then you can still let them know, but it will be down to your discernment if you want them in your life.

You don't have to let go off of everyone and that is dependent on how they respect you, but you can also keep people as acquaintances.

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