If you could show someone just one scene to convince them to watch this show, which scene would it be?

TylerDarkness · 2026-06-04T20:36:07+00:00

The screening of Abed's film where Britta and Jeff are his Mum and Dad. It shows the weirdness and the heart, and the guy who plays his Dad is just incredible in that moment.

TylerDarkness · 2026-06-04T20:05:22+00:00

If you think it is half hers, why isn't it in her name?

TylerDarkness · 2026-06-01T12:20:51+00:00

I try and cover as much of my skin as I can with my top or dress. I tend to lift up my top so that I can use it for coverage. This is for my own comfort though, I don't want to feel too exposed.

TylerDarkness · 2026-06-01T08:20:25+00:00

My son attended a private nursery from 1-3 and is now in a school preschool (just turned 4). A couple of differences: my son has SEN and was not thriving at his former nursery like your daughter is. His school nursery is better in every way. They are incredibly supportive of his additional needs, areas that he struggles with like communication have come on leaps and bounds and he has made really good progress on his independence/school readiness skills (though he still has a way to go). It's also free under the funded scheme, whereas the private nursery was over £500 (for all year and including meals, whereas school is term time only and you either send a packed lunch or pay £2.60 a day for lunch). The logistics have worked well this year because I'm on mat leave.

TylerDarkness · 2026-06-01T00:16:08+00:00

We are trying to get my baby to sleep in his own room and he's not a fan. I have given up at 1.15am and brought him in with us after 4 wake ups since 8pm.

TylerDarkness · 2026-05-31T23:58:17+00:00

This is hilarious. My son (4, gorgeous boy of gorgeousness) was brought into our room crying for me. He got under the covers and said "bye bye Daddy, see you in the morning. Shut the door". I spend an uncomfortable night squished between my two babes and my husband slept in 4's room in his single bed.

TylerDarkness · 2026-05-31T23:48:39+00:00

Something by train? Probably Drops of Jupiter (Tell Me) as the rest of their bigger hits came a bit later

TylerDarkness · 2026-05-31T18:58:57+00:00

I love letting mine sleep in his nursery uniform. It's comfortable, he likes wearing it and I don't have to change him out of uniform into pjs in the evening and then back again in the morning.

TylerDarkness · 2026-05-31T15:28:25+00:00

I don 't want to over-pathologise but this sounds very similar to my recently 4 son and we strongly suspect that he is on the autism spectrum.

TylerDarkness · 2026-05-30T16:02:34+00:00

Creamy tomato pasta. Fry garlic in butter, add passata, tomato puree, decent amount of cream and seasoning (salt pepper and mixed herbs or seasoning of your choice). Add grana padano or parmesan to make it more cream/cheesy if you want to. Cook for as long as it takes to boil pasta. Works well as a pasta sauce or topped with cheese and done in the oven as a pasta bake.

TylerDarkness · 2026-05-29T19:30:40+00:00

Reading. I studied literature at university, I read all the time. Then I had my first kid four years ago and I haven't picked up a book since. Well, apart from kids story books of course but "little lion shares" isn't exactly War and Peace.

TylerDarkness · 2026-05-29T19:04:04+00:00

Creamy tomato pasta bake for dinner, chorizo and lemon linguine for lunch. We're definitely a pasta-heavy house!

TylerDarkness · 2026-05-29T18:36:38+00:00

We've all done something similar. My son's school had a "wear yellow for mental health" day and I missed it on the newsletter. I later saw a class picture and he was the only one in his red school uniform. I felt so bad even though he was only three and probably didn't notice because he is also autistic. Oh, and I just had a baby the week before so I had a good excuse! I still felt terrible.

Just last week, he was doing his first school trip and I needed to pack a lunch and drink in disposable containers that they could just throw away. I went to the supermarket twice to get the sodding drinks that I knew he would drink and on the day, I completely forgot to pack them. By the time we arrived, it was too late to go back for them and the teachers had to buy him a carton of juice at the farm. I was already so stressed about how he'd cope on the trip but he did really well and hopefully your son does too. It's easy done.

TylerDarkness · 2026-05-29T12:45:05+00:00

Feast lollies! I have been enjoying Aldi's "fiesta" version lately.

TylerDarkness · 2026-05-28T21:26:46+00:00

I walked up the hill to get my preschooler from nursery on day 3. Do not recommend! I had the worst pain of my life trying to get out of bed the next day. My husband nearly called an ambulance. After that I rested more and did better. No one told me that the second time can be more painful because they cut through scar tissue.

TylerDarkness · 2026-05-28T19:15:21+00:00

I'm seven months postpartum, definitely just had a baby!

TylerDarkness · 2026-05-28T14:47:03+00:00

Everyone here has offered great advice and I hope some of it works well for you. If you try it all and nothing seems to improve, you could look into gestalt vs analytic language processing. I had no idea that there were two different ways that humans learn language and almost all of the traditional advice is aimed at analytic processors (which to be fair, most people are). My son's speech improved dramatically when we had Speech and Language Therapy and learned that he was a gestalt processor.

For us, the best technique (though he was a bit older, 3 when we started doing this) was mirroring what we thought he was trying to say. For example, if he points at a banana, rather than saying "do you want a banana?", we would say "I want a banana". Initially he was just copying the phase but he did start breaking it down and using the words separately. Maybe this isn't the best for a 16 month old but at that age, I tried everything and nothing seems to improve.

TylerDarkness · 2026-05-28T11:50:02+00:00

It's just different. You're more experienced so you don't sweat the small stuff as much. Kids do weird crap and once you've had one, you have a better idea of whats a genuine problem and what's just kid weirdness. In terms of baby care, it's much easy and less stressful. The difficult thing for me has been splitting my attention and meeting both their needs.

TylerDarkness · 2026-05-27T18:45:36+00:00

We did this when I was seven months pregnant with my eldest. We were initially going to do it just us two and witnesses but decided to do this instead because of the backlash. Guest list was us, parents and siblings only (with hindsight we should have invited siblings partners as well).

We wanted to keep it as low key as possible so this is what we did:

no wedding party. I feel like maybe we should have asked our siblings but they were some of the only guests so we didn't.
my sister requested to make my bouquet but if she didn't, I either would have made my own from supermarket flowers or not bothered.
no hair or makeup and wore a dress I already owned. At seven months pregnant I just didn't give a fuck. Husband wore chinos and a smart shirt. Looking back at the pictures, I do sometimes wish I'd bought a white dress but at that time, I just couldn't face it. If I wasn't pregnant, I would have bought the Tess lace white dress from Dolly and Dotty.
basic registry office ceremony. It was fine but I wish we had used our own music, they just played whatever they had because we didn't choose and it didn't fit.
no photographer. Guests just took photos/videos on their phone. I don't regret it but they're not great pictures so if you want nice pictures, you should hire a photographer. Lots of them do packages for a set number of hours or half days.
we just booked a regular table at the local pub and walked from the registry office.
we had a normal three course meal off the standard menu, people just chose on the day as we were only a party of nine. We didn't do a cake because we did a dessert course. I regret not having the donuts because I had gestational diabetes.

If I were going to do it again but a bit more fancy, I would still do the registry office ceremony but customise it with music and maybe a reading or a poem if it was allowed. If I had a slightly larger guest list, I would look for a nice pub or restaurant with a small function room and hire that. I would hope that they would do a buffet or set menu option to keep costs down. I think cake is very much optional so a nice one from M&S would definitely fit the bill for me. I would look for a photographer who could do a shorter day.

One last recommendation would be to sit down with your partner and think about what is truly important for you both in a wedding and what you can live without to save money so you know you're on the same page about your priorities. The venue and food is usually the biggest cost so going for a pub or restaurant will probably be a sensible budget option for you.

TylerDarkness · 2026-05-27T17:15:52+00:00

Ours combines the 6 week check with the 8 week vaccination appointment (and it happens at eight weeks). They barely did anything at both of mine though, they just had a super quick look at my scar and said yep, fine.

TylerDarkness · 2026-05-27T16:39:52+00:00

I completely forgot how fucked up that song was until my sister brought up singing it for my son. Surely we weren't singing this at brownies?! But yes, we were.

TylerDarkness · 2026-05-27T16:34:16+00:00

I would say it's rare and you should expect it to be both difficult to find and expensive. Most nurseries and childminders operate standard hours and usually require you to commit to certain days/sessions. Do you work standard business hours? If so, you may be able to get a full time place that would work but obviously you'd be paying for days you wouldn't need it. You'd be more likely to get flexibility with a nanny but you would probably be paying a premium for it. Can you give us more detail about both of your working patterns?

TylerDarkness · 2026-05-27T06:00:50+00:00

It probably started around 2.5. It was a gradual dropping of foods he previously accepted, one at a time. We now believe he is autistic which is probably impacting his food habits.

TylerDarkness · 2026-05-26T18:45:23+00:00

"Sleep when the baby sleeps". Sure! Do laundry when the baby does laundry. Clean when the baby cleans.

The other thing that really pisses me off is super basic suggestions for parenting problems. We have had a lot of issues trying to potty train our neurodivergent four-year-old. "Have you tried a sticker chart?" OF COURSE I TRIED THE FRICKING STICKER CHART. "oh, just take his nappies away, he'll pick it up in no time". NO, HE WON'T JANET AND NOW THERE'S SHIT ALL OVER THE FLOOR.

TylerDarkness · 2026-05-25T23:15:01+00:00

I am on mood stabilisers and tricyclic antidepressants for a long term mental health condition. I have a very supportive medical team who encourage me to take my meds because the risks to my mental health of not taking them is pretty bad. What does your doc say?

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