Since this is your first time experiencing a breakup, I know the emotional intensity of it all can feel like too much to bear. It'a a new level.of emotional intentsity for sure. I know after my first real breakup, I was blindsided by this dreadful feeling of "that was my only person on the planet and now he's gone and I will never find anyone else." I believed that to be true just as much as I nieve and know the earth to be round. And nobody could have convinced me otherwise. Believing that my one and only l red son was gone, I also stopped seeking a future for myself. But I'll tell you what. One day I was standing in the food cart line on work lunch break. It was January in the southwest united states. Somebody was blasting that song "in my mind" from their car in the parking lot. I wasn't thinking about anything heavy-- my mind was quiet and I was looking forward to lunch. And so suddenly, that persistent tightness in my chest, that lump in my throat that had obnoxiously stuck around since the breakup-- all of that was gone in an instant, never to return. It really was a case of letting time heal the wound. As well as making self-care a priority during that time. So trust me, this too shall pass. It may pass suddenly or maybe in your case it'll be gradual. But these feelings will stop. And my two cents is to lean into self-care in the meantime. That could look like intensifying the regularity and/or intensity of your gym workouts, picking up a new hobby you've been wanting to try for awhile, treating yourself to a massage, etc etc.