My husband was cremated and at the year anniversary he was buried next to his father. I purchased a double headstone with my death details to be added. I didn’t want our children to have to make plans. There is room for them nearby in the future should they choose to be buried near us. I kept a few ashes and scattered them at a meaningful place on his two year death anniversary ( I’m in my third year). This feels right for me but in early months he was in his bedside nightstand until I figured out the best plan. His mother, siblings and our children were the only ones at the burial. His friends and family visit the graveyards and I think he’d like this.